Art of Attention: Your Invitation

What you will not find in the Art of Attention posts: overly haughty, unattainable spiritual references, additives or claims of perfection.

What you will find: authenticity, humor, references to the darkness and the consequent opportunities for observation, transformation and editing; refinement.

Welcome.

The Art of Attention is an invitation to observe and deconstruct the veils you've placed between your brain and your heart, as well as the walls you've constructed blocking love in all its forms from your life and experiences. I have many teachers, and I always defer to them whenever I'm thanked; in this forum I will often defer to them to inspire, back up and clarify the ideas I'm presenting.

This first post is no exception.

As we seekers, students, and teachers know firsthand, it is downright foolish to think that we can add any practice and immediately experience perfect understanding, nirvana, ecstasy.

Here, longtime friend, teacher, and healing warrior Abdi Assadi lays it down; you must have the courage [and some proper assistance] to see into what is dark in your being in order to know what needs to be transformed.

For me, that courage is a symptom of your attention.

"The movement towards the light is not enough: we need to shine the light into the deep darkness of our unconscious and illuminate it. Transformation of suppressed material has to be integrated into our chosen path of salvation... Sometimes gaining awareness around a certain wounding is as far as we can go. But that is far superior to sleepwalking to the beat of our ego's unseen machinations. Take this as an invitation to deepen your practice by befriending all that you hold at bay in your psyche."

In my Art of Attention posts I will offer specific direction for your attention, which will help you "befriend" of all the ideas you hold dear that aren't serving you and let them go; yielding the most sought-after openings for your body, mind and heart. Everything presented here is meant to serve as the means to the illumination and eventual editing out of anything dark, diminishing and as-yet-unaddressed. The ideas and practices aren't meant to give you more to do, they are meant to simply grant clearer access to that which still requires transmutation within, and the light that will surely follow, as your direct experience in every interaction.

A few key points to remember as we begin together; I'll refer back to this initial introductory post from time to time so we are always on the same playing field in a state of mutual understanding.

1. This work is about softening that which still holds your heart hostage: assumptions, perspectives, reactions, ideals. But not yet -- hold onto those for now, you still need them. They provide essential observational "holds" as you climb the walls of your inner life. They've also defined you until now, so you must let them go slowly, like an old friend with whom you've grown apart. No reason to blame or be hasty; both are wasteful and steal your energy.

2. To soften anything, you must actually be able to identify it. The first order of business is careful, caring, non-judgmental observation of the situation at hand. Through poetry and the work of other teachers and writers, you will learn to observe without judgment in order to begin the process of collecting information to create the context for ease in your life. Ease -- not just when you're sitting on the beach, or practicing yoga, or with your favorite people -- I'm talking about authentic ease when the real sh*t is happening.

3. To see clearly, I'll provide in each post some type of breathing practice that you can do right here as you sit and read. This way your breathing will become increasingly familiar and available, and the real work can begin. Right now just take a couple of deep, strong breaths in and out of your nose until you're sitting just a bit taller. Don't try too hard, just drink in the nourishment of your breathing.

4, The hardest thing to remember: the source (Source) of the light (Light) is always present within you. Your source is my source, which is the same source as your crazy cab driver from this morning, your uptight neighbor and your favorite child. This source -- of your power, your delight, your deepest fear and your greatest connection to Grace -- is always available to you. Thankfully the world is turning in the direction of providing more frequent and useful reminders of your connection to this universal power, replete with landmarks and points of access. We all help each other. You remind me, I remind you, we all stay connected, plugged in, as we practice, even for a few minutes a day. Our lights lift each other up (and please know, I say this very factually, bluntly, without a hint of the overdone, oversold spirituality as it's come to be consumed), so continue to read, breathe, cultivate your attention and you will find that...

5. Your attention will become the most basic ingredient of every interaction and relationship.

And then you will recognize true freedom.

Next week: Tips for Recognizing and Transmuting Emotions.

My influences/ teachers, for those curious, in no particular order.
John Friend
Douglas Brooks
Hugo Cory
Lida Ahmady
Abdi Assadi
Pamela Miles
Scott Schwenk
Mark Pellerano

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Comments

[jm130]

this post lit up my heart. i appreciate your references to the darkness.
i just realized that i DO have the courage to see what is dark in me. so curious.
your post is simply put. in a way that I can really relate to.
it feels like that courage and attention that you write/speak of is attainable - i had my doubts.
for that, i thank you.

[Rodney Wilson]

Elena,

Amazing, thank you for sharing. The journey begins...

[JTurecki]

Thank you for this, Elena. So skillfully recognized as an "art" - to hone in on ourselves in a way that requires diligence as well as acceptance, objectivity, and sensitivity. To be able to, as you say, "befriend" all our ideas we love but know are not serving us and then let them go is such a beautiful example of this art. As a teacher of mine once said, "true heroism is when you are willing to go into the dark".
Thank you for masterfully articulating what I have found to be so potent about this path. To fully come into the light of who I am, I must already know that which diminishes my truth.

[amyvek]

clear. concise. econimical. a slice of perfection in attention. without the attention to oneSelf, the internal world, there can be no other attetnion to the external. this attetnion is the bija, seed-, to trensdset mass consciousness. it has finally arrived on huffington, now, ATA, is the time!

[docuguy]

Thanks for this, Elena - looking forward to seeing more! I sort of like the idea of sharing the same source (Source) as a crazy cab driver. - Lee Schneider

[khanti]

I watched a Kung Fu movie many years ago. It is about a famous Chinese master Wong Fei Hung.
His father passed away and the young master inherited his father's dojo, many exponents from other martial school came to challenge him to a dual. So young Fei Hung was very disturbed by this turn of event indeed so to ease his worries he would go to a nearby temple where an old monk resided.
This monk had not spoken for years and would come out at certain time to sweep the temple compound. Knowing very well this monk doesn't speak yet our young master still come to just hang around but this time he came with worry wriiten all over his face saying "Oh how my heart is disturbed.'
Suddenly the monk spoke in a calm voice, "The heart is always calm. It is the mind that disturbs it".
Some how that phrase stayed with me all these years. Many years later after much realization I find this phrase to be very true.
'The heart reflects the mind just as a mirror reflects our image.
When we are sincere with our self then the heart and mind will be one.
Only then will we find true peace and contentment.

The heart itself has momentum. When we are excited we pump adrenalin into our blood stream which will quicken our heartbeat. The natural chemical will remain in our bloodstream for a while.That explain why we cannot calm down instantly.

[Elena Brower - Huffpost Blogger]

thank you thank you for such a thoughtful comment.

[Waylon Lewis - Huffpost Blogger]

Thanks for this, Elena! I love that you direct us to soften in chaos, not just "on the mountaintop," or on the mat, in a spiritual context when it's easier to remove distraction and obstacle. As my Buddhist teachers say, meditation practice is called "practice" for a reason—the real ball game is life. And that's where we need to soften, be raw, vulnerable, and relax with that. Anyways—you say it better yourself.

[Elena Brower - Huffpost Blogger]

waylon is my hero.

[NancyMercado]

"This source -- of your power, your delight, your deepest fear and your greatest connection to Grace -- is always available to you."

NIce post, keep 'em coming sistah!

[Tabby Biddle - Huffpost Blogger]

I very much agree with what your friend and teacher Abdi Assadi said: "The movement towards the light is not enough: we need to shine the light into the deep darkness of our unconscious and illuminate it." I walked solely toward the light for a long time, but it wasn't until I started shining the light into the darkness of my unconscious, that I truly began my path toward wholeness and ultimately my potential. Thank you Elena for this timely post. "Deconstructing the veils," as you put it, is incredibly powerful and important work right now.

[Lidaahmady]

"The Art of Attention", What a beautiful concept. And yes it could be left as that. a beautiful concept, something to reflect upon momentarly and intelectually be impressed by its meaning or you can actually take a long time, perhaps years to comprehend what "The art of Attention" could really be and how it may become a solid energetic vibration that can help us percieve ourselves and our true reality.
What I detect from Elena's invitation to us, is a practical proposal to dedicate few moments in our day to conciously practice the Art of Attention. How simple and yet what a challange to our program. I suspect that the united effort of many will give us the willpower to persevere.

Thank you
Lida Ahmady

[mmw04]

Such rich material. Thank you, Elena. I've been looking for this kind of guidance for a while -- deconstructing the veils between my head and heart. Brilliant. I'm hungry for more. Looking forward to your next post.