Help For Oprah: 'Tis the Season of the Binge

01/19/2009 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011
  • Eli Davidson Woman's Small Business Mentor, Small Business Success Mentor, International Best Selling Author and TV Personality

OPRAH!!! (I am saying that in your Oprah show hopefully you will
hear me.) O Magazine just arrived on my doorstep. There you are. Skinny
Oprah and Fat Oprah. I feel your pain. I have been there.

Your comments tell me that a diet you haven't tried is TLC -- The Low Criticism
Diet. You are teaching living from the inside out, and I will wager you a
very large some of money (in Eli dollars) that if you really give yourself
the TLC Diet, that will be the last diet you will need. I will be sharing
it with you over the next month. But first:

Stop beating yourself up. Stop the rigid diets. Start accepting yourself.

Self criticism is one of the most fattening things around. The more you
demean yourself for having a 'food mistake' the more you fuel having a
binge. One binge fuels the next and all of a sudden you can't fit in your
Obama Inauguration dress.

Until you reinvent your way of being with yourself, your weight is always
going to victimize you.

Oprah, when you say, "I'm embarrassed. I'm mad at myself." you show that you
haven't addressed the judgmental mindset that is a key component of yo-yo
dieting. I should know, I have waged the same battle myself. The Low
Criticism Diet is the only diet that silenced the insanity of my 20 year
battle with food.

Remember food isn't the issue. Self love is. Don't feel bad, Oprah.
Women gain between 8 and 15 pounds between Halloween and Christmas, said
Jone Novek, wellness expert in Scottsdale, Arizona New York City. As an
executive coach for women I am seeing a trend of working women putting their
health at the bottom of their "To Do List." Does this sound like you, Oprah?
I watch more and more women grumbling at the thought of prying themselves
away from the office and toward greater health. During the holidays it gets
even worse.

This is the season of excess with food and alcohol, so why set yourself up for
failure? Starting any kind of diet now would be crazy making. So we will
take baby steps.

The first step is to get honest.

Do you binge? Here are some questions to help you assess your eating.

Quiz: Are You On the Road to A Binge?

Are you on the perfect diet . . . for a gerbil?

Do you rate your day by how well you waged your war with food?

Do you sneak food?

Do you tell others that you are on a diet but don't lose weight?

Do you eat alone often?

Do you secretly hoard or hide "bad" food?

Do you fall into a funk after seeing how much you have eaten?

Do you belittle yourself about your weight?

If you answered yes to three or more of these questions you are at risk for
a bout of binge eating.

What do you do to avoid a binge? Let me know!

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share your best tips on how you have lowered your overeating and increased
your self care.

Eli Davidson is a nationally recognized executive coach and motivational

Her book, "Funky to Fabulous: Surefire Success Stories for The Savvy, Sassy
and Swamped", (Oak Grove Publishing) has won three national book awards.