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08/21/2012 04:43 pm ET | Updated Oct 21, 2012

A Generation Of Men Unwilling To Commit

It seems men today overwhelmingly refuse to commit to long term relationships with women. For the most part, you'll find that many women love relationships and commitments. They dream of their Channing Tatum or Prince Charming with whom they can reenact scenes from their favorite romantic comedy. It's a generation of eternal bachelors whether you like it or not.

However, men see things differently- especially this new age of men. Our thirst for new adventures is unquenchable. But the trend is not just limited to women. Studies show that members of our generation are waiting until their late 20s or early 30s to marry. Why relinquish the bachelor life when it is permissive of limitless indulgence? From a young age we became accustomed to unrealistic standards of women through pornography.

It has contorted our minds to such a degree that studies have shown that, in men, the brain areas associated with handling tools and the intention to perform actions light up when viewing images of women in bikinis. We have truly dehumanized women and objectified the female body.

But there is more. There is a reason why men are shifting away from the institution of marriage. Sure, we are simple minded creatures, but there is some complexity to us.

Now more than ever we are seeing men get cold feet, call off their engagements, and break up with a girl they have been dating for 4 years. Many women are confused as to why the men of this generation are the way they are. Here are the reasons why:

Grass is always greener

We always want what we can't have. Do you frequently guys struggle to restrain themselves from cheating? Straying becomes a recurring theme in their minds shortly after the honeymoon stage. Each passing girl evokes lewd fantasies in our minds.

Any time a girl passes by the savage thoughts of what we as alpha males can do to her are always consistent and eminent. The grass always looks a lot greener on the other side, which triggers our mind to think we can always do better. It is a great trait for business, but terrible for dating.

The first love

Men can be extremely passionate about their first love.We all experienced that first girlfriend we loved more than anything and actually thought we would stay together forever. Unfortunately, few of us have had that Disney fairy tale ending.

Many of us had our hearts crushed by our first love when we were so naive. We will forever compare new women to our first love and it just never truly compares to our first girl we truly loved. This heartbreak coupled with extremely low self-esteem is a primary reason for misogyny. The result is a population of men in relationships formed out of pure spite or with the ambition to move on. They carry on with these women and feign happiness, but it simply does not compare.

Money & ambition

Men are naturally ambitious. The alpha male mentality creates a legion of men unwilling to allow anything to impede the pursuit of their dreams. Many avoid forming relationships because they are distracting. So why not be single and test the waters? Sounds sufficient enough. You can only choose one chase in life; the dream or the girl. Most men are currently opting for the dream, it lasts longer and doesn't have it's period once a month.

"I don't know what's better, gettin laid or gettin paid, I just know I'ma gettin one, the other's gettin away"- Kanye West

The competition

As men we idolize any other guy that sleeps with a lot of women. Many men truly believe that their worth is measurable only in wealth and through their sexual prowess. In order to stay competitive among our peers, insecure men feel the need to sleep with copious amounts of women.

You must remember everything we do in our lives is to impress women. We make money to impress them, we go to the gym to look good for them, and we work hard to do all of these things. For what exactly? To be wanted by more women, which allows us to be praised by our peers.

Closing thought

It's simple; commitment-phobic men do not wish to make any long term commitments because they are easily distracted by every passing woman. We don't want to get married because many of us have yet to move on from our first love, and no other can compare.

Elite