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Elizabeth Denham
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Elizabeth Denham is a freelance commercial writer and author. Her first book, "Sweeten the Deal: How to Spot and Avoid Big Red Flags in Online Dating," chronicles her off-the-wall experiences of online dating while offering advice from the lessons she learned and is available at She has a degree in creative writing from Florida State University and lives in Spanish Fort, Ala., with her husband and their five children (three came with her; two came with him). When not writing content for businesses, she writes blogs related to dating, children and life post-divorce. And she has a lot to say! She blogs at can be found on Twitter @DenhamElizabeth and @big_red_flag.

Entries by Elizabeth Denham

Blended Family Forum: What's in a Name?

(1) Comments | Posted September 25, 2015 | 6:21 PM

What's in a name? Well, when you are in a blended family, a lot! When we remarry, we tend to focus our time and attention on blending the two families; we establish relationships, form new traditions, meld. And that's all great. We should do those things. We want to feel...

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Self-Awareness: A Powerful Tool for Change

(0) Comments | Posted August 13, 2015 | 7:08 PM

Self-awareness. Simple concept. Challenging accomplishment. As much as it seems like we should all be able to assess our actions, an astonishing number of people go through life and relationships without any idea how their own behavior can impact their decisions, relationships and ultimately, their happiness.

I have...

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How to Avoid Settling

(2) Comments | Posted May 27, 2015 | 10:33 AM

In writing my book, Sweeten the Deal: How to Spot and Avoid the Big Red Flags in Online Dating, I talk a lot about the funny parts of dating - the crazy stories and bad dates we have all experienced,...

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The Two Biggest Dating Mistakes People Make

(0) Comments | Posted April 30, 2015 | 1:14 PM

2015-04-30-1430413949-7701975-redflag.pngI have said this many times, and I address it in my book (Sweeten the Deal) ad nauseum, I was a one date wonder, and I was okay with it. Many of my friends told me I was too hard on people. That I...

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Survive Your Way to Stellar

(0) Comments | Posted April 28, 2015 | 6:10 PM

"You can only do the best you can do. Sometimes that is survival and sometimes that is stellar. And that's okay."

This has been a mantra of mine for years. Until my twenties, I had always marveled at how charmed I felt my life was. Things generally went well if...

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Embrace Your Own Reality: It's the Key to Happiness

(0) Comments | Posted April 21, 2015 | 11:36 AM

In my book, I talk a good bit about "those who fail to embrace their own reality." These are the people who struggle with acceptance of their situations whether it is divorce, custody arrangements, employment, dating relationships or any other area of life. I believe that the ability not only...

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The Dirty Texter

(0) Comments | Posted April 14, 2015 | 9:53 AM


So. I was 23 when I got married for the first time. It was 1994. I do not think I had a cell phone at that time, and if I did, it wasn't something I used regularly since it would have been clunky...

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Show Up for Your Dreams

(2) Comments | Posted April 2, 2015 | 1:42 PM

I have a very typical divorce story. The details are unique, but so often, we, men or women, get caught up in bad marriages that take us away from who we are meant to be. We find ourselves consumed in a game of emotional survival and get lost from our...

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The Biggest Mistake People Make When Dating After Divorce

(5) Comments | Posted March 19, 2015 | 5:59 PM

2015-03-19-1426784465-957118-redflag.pngWhen I began dating again after my divorce, I got the reputation for being the "one date wonder." I had several friends who told me I was too picky or that my standards were too high. Several women friends mentioned that...

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Why My Divorce Helped My Dreams Come True

(0) Comments | Posted March 13, 2015 | 4:16 PM

I have learned a lot in my 43 years -- more than I really thought I needed to learn. I learned that people are not always who they seem. I learned that people who are supposed to love you can hurt you the most. I learned that when you try...

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The Pushy Guy

(0) Comments | Posted March 6, 2015 | 6:46 PM

2015-03-05-1425588258-4436213-redflag.pngCategory 1: Too much too fast

Category 2: Those who think they are always right

Dating Tip: Do not ever be pushed into doing something your gut tells you not to do.

Dating the second time around is not for the weak of heart....

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The "I Gave Myself a Nickname Guy"

(3) Comments | Posted February 27, 2015 | 4:35 PM

I online dated for a long time. A really long time. And I learned a lot. I have decided to share some stories with you about some of my experiences so that you can learn how to spot and avoid the Big Red Flags in online dating. I have found...

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How to Have the Right Attitude When Online Dating

(0) Comments | Posted February 24, 2015 | 2:12 PM

Online dating can be fun or it can be hell. You start talking to someone who seems normal (fun) and begin to think something great could happen. And then a Big Red Flag rears its ugly head (hell) and you plummet, resigned to another bad experience, another rejection, another "why...

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Choose Acceptance Over Anger for Your Kids

(0) Comments | Posted June 4, 2014 | 4:23 PM

After an incredibly difficult and emotional divorce (and aren't they all), I came to the conclusion that I did not want to live a life filled with anger. The most treasured people in my life, my children, deserved to live with a mother who was happy, calm and peaceful rather...

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Institutionalized Bias and the Exclusion of Divorced Dads

(0) Comments | Posted May 28, 2014 | 3:05 AM

"Fathers are entitled to the same information about their kids as mothers."

This is a nice idea. We have heard it many times from school administrators, teachers, PTA members, etc. I believe every single one of them means what they say. But the reality is, while divorced dads may be...

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3 Days in the Life of a Blended Family of Seven

(0) Comments | Posted January 13, 2014 | 12:57 PM

I am a planner. Google calendar is my friend. I have five kids' and two adults' calendars on my phone, with alerts programmed to mine and theirs (though the youngest two don't have phones yet). If you don't put it on the calendar, I make no promises. Even with the...

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A Lesson in Bravery

(0) Comments | Posted October 21, 2013 | 4:18 PM

I am not gay. As a non-gay person who supports gay marriage and gay rights, I have seen things changing for the better. The recent Supreme Court decisions knocking out the Defense of Marriage Act and Proposition 8 are exciting and have us, as a country, heading in the right...

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Love Is Love

(1) Comments | Posted October 18, 2013 | 2:41 PM

The best reason to attend a wedding is the celebration of the union of the bride and groom... or the groom and groom... or the bride and bride.

This is according to a recent poll conducted by SurveyMonkey (shared with me via email) in which respondents were asked to share...

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Why I Am Proud of Daphne High School for Offering Arabic as a Foreign Language

(10) Comments | Posted October 3, 2013 | 7:10 PM

I wrote this letter in response to parents at one of our children's schools who objected to the school offering Arabic as a foreign language. They feared that their children would be learning a "culture of hate," would be indoctrinated into this culture and that we would be "eroding our...

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Robotic Play Teaches Kids Math and Programming

(0) Comments | Posted September 19, 2013 | 11:39 AM

Helping your kids decide what to do with their lives is scary. Guiding them in directions that will offer stability and security is daunting. So what if there were a toy designed to spur an interest in something that could lead to a pretty good career?

On August...

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