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My One College Regret

Posted: 07/11/2012 12:28 pm

I have 23 first cousins, and about half are older than I am, and every single one of them said the same thing before I entered the last and final year of college.

"Try as hard as you can to stay in... forever."

Shrugging this off as a joke, I maintained my mentality of wanting to get out as soon as possible. Yeah, I was one of those people that literally wanted to book it out of school so fast, you would have thought I had a broom, and was graduating from Hogwarts. I liked school, but I was so excited at the idea of a big girl salary, heels and corporate America.

What I have learned in my seven very long weeks right out of school, is that they weren't kidding... not even a little.

So kids... stay in as long as you can.

College was four years that I really believed "you can do whatever you want." After graduation and settling into a job, I have come to this hard realization that I can't just do what I want, now I have rent, student loans and what feels like a bazillion other things that I have to pay for and I first and foremost need stability.

As badly as I'd like to run away to Chile or Brazil and see the world you need cash mula baby, and most likely after school you won't have that. College is a fairly stable environment with thousands of opportunities literally knocking at your door. My one suggestion? Say yes, to as many as possible.

I'll state this right here: I have few regrets in life (I usually think it's a waste of time), but one was during college. No, it has nothing to do with a drunken stupor, surprisingly.

I didn't study abroad.

Every semester, I found a reason to convince myself not to go. Usually I muttered something about field hockey, or the communication wing, but all of these were just excuses. During my quarter-life crisis I have realized that I will probably never have an opportunity like that again in my life. It isn't easy (or cheap) to just pick up and move to Zimbabwe (and I'm pretty sure it's probably not safe, but I like the way it's spelled).

I was just going along with how everyone else was doing school. What I have realized in cubicle life is that people aren't cookie cutter. A shape that works for one person probably doesn't fit everyone else, which is unsettling. During college I wished that I would have embraced unsettling a little more.

College is a time to force yourself into the uncomfortable, die a little bit (and by little I mean one sprint short of sucking wind out of a paper bag) during a pre-season, humble yourself by sitting on the bench at a sport, or volunteering at a Service Center for international people. #thegrind is pattering its ugly feet, behind you and catching up, quickly.

When I say force yourself into the uncomfortable I mean live outside the box. There's a serious difference between #uncomfortable and #juststupidity. Just to clarify.

Life is boringly routine after school, wake up, go to work, (hopefully you brush your teeth and stuff beforehand), exercise, eat dinner, hang out a little, go to bed, and do it all over again for five freaking days straight.

That is why I think it's important to live outside the cookie cutter in school.

Find out what you like because your first few years out of school that is going to be your way of escaping reality (thank you for the tip Kenny Chesney).

Maybe you'll be one of those lucky people that settles into their first job, loves it and feels like you're making some sort of an impact, and gets to explore new environments all at the same time. If so, snaps for you.

Maybe I just have a serious case of post-college depression (which YES PARENTS actually exists) or maybe I have a quarter-life crisis that is boiling down to one part needing traveling adventures, two parts financial stability and one part doing some social good.

Read other Quarter-life Crisis posts here and on The Good Men Project.

 

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I have 23 first cousins, and about half are older than I am, and every single one of them said the same thing before I entered the last and final year of college. "Try as hard as you can to stay i...
I have 23 first cousins, and about half are older than I am, and every single one of them said the same thing before I entered the last and final year of college. "Try as hard as you can to stay i...
 
 
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12:26 AM on 07/18/2012
Elizabeth – this is a great article and I can definitely appreciate your viewpoint. However, as someone who did study abroad in college and wound up behind a desk for three years after college, I would challenge you NOT to think about what could've been. College, and specifically study abroad, was an amazing time of my life. But I can honestly say it wasn't the best time of my life. I lived in Costa Rica for 1.5 years, traveled to Panama and Nicaragua and met some of the most amazing people thus far in my life. And this was all AFTER having graduated from college. You are only stuck in something that you choose not to get out of. There are always ways to do what you want. Be creative. Just because you didn't go abroad while you were 20, doesn't mean you can't go abroad when you're 30 or beyond. Life is what you make it!
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Frank Torres
When I step up in the place, yo I step correct
10:07 PM on 07/14/2012
What a great article. It's really that whole period of life. We want to stay there because it's the perfect compromise of power and youth.

http://orlandopolitics.net/
10:24 AM on 07/12/2012
I went through a similar realization following graduation and hit my quarter life crisis. I've learned a lot since then and have been blogging about the transition from graduation into becoming an adult, check it out! http://caithiltz.wordpress.com/
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Y Woodman Brown
live & let live
03:04 PM on 07/11/2012
Be sure and write us another article the day you wake-up and realize that you should have stayed in college to actually learn something. The day it dawns on you that the purpose of the place wasn't job prep. Let us know when it comes to you that a B.A. is really just a ticket to white collar unemployment--and that, to become knowledgeable within whatever subject you'd need to go back for a Master's degree.
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Stephanie Gustafson
11:39 PM on 07/12/2012
I am SO SICK of all the hating on B.A. degrees. There are plenty of people out there who have studied liberal arts and done just fine. You just need to have a plan for what you are going to do and then go out and be the best at it. An internship doesn't hurt either.
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Y Woodman Brown
live & let live
10:30 AM on 07/13/2012
You see my comment as 'hating' on BAs?
I'm sorry to say it, but you've yet to acquire critical thinking skills.  You've become distracted via a pet-peeve triggered by bit of triviality in my statement.  Now, I realize that maturity is the key to realization, nevertheless...
As an investment in your future, here's a hint...the reference to a BA wasn't even necessary in my comment--so let's replace it and clarify...
Let us know when it comes to you that a degree--almost any degree--is really just a ticket to white collar unemployment--and that, to become knowledgeable within whatever subject you'd need to make a career out of learning.
01:32 PM on 07/11/2012
It's rare that someone hits the nail on the head so properly. As a current college student myself, even though I want to get out of my hometown, I want to stay in college forever. I love all the chances that I get and it's thanks to getting the guts to study abroad that I was able to decide what I wanted to spend the rest of my life doing. In college, I have gained the confidence that I need to survive in the world, with or without constant companionship with friends who may or may not be holding me back. Thanks for showing that it's totally possible to have a quarter life crisis, now I just have to show this to my parents so maybe they will understand too!
01:14 PM on 07/11/2012
This is a great post. It is easy to get stuck in a rut in college and not make plans for what YOU want to do, even if it means breaking away from your friends.
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Leond
Fine and dandy, Jack!
01:13 PM on 07/11/2012
You're 22, and I presume have no children, mortgage, etc. Go now! I'm completely serious -- maybe you won't be in some formal "study abroad" program, but just go live someplace and work for 6 months or a year. The window hasn't closed for you but, trust me, it gets a lot tougher once you have to make it work on your vacation time, while paying the bills, coordinating with a spouse, dragging kids with you, etc. The cookie cutter will still be here when you get back.
12:57 PM on 07/12/2012
Exactly! She's just afraid to do so without someone holding her hand. Which is a shame.
01:01 PM on 07/11/2012
I felt this way after college too, I did regret not traveling abroad during school. I did take a little trip after graduation so I at least have that. I actually joined AmeriCorps NCCC after 2 years of still being in the "post college depression" mode - which worked out since they put your loans on hold, you get to travel with food and housing taken care of and then when you're finished you get 5,500 bucks to put towards loans or more schooling if you want. Worth it in my opinion and I did some good while in the program working with various non profit organizations. It is never too late, all we have it time!