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Elizabeth Tannen
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Elizabeth Tannen writes the blog “Dating in the Odyssey Years.” She is a former producer for NPR’s “All Things Considered,” and has contributed essays for Salon and the Opinion page of, among others. Elizabeth is a native of Brooklyn, New York and a graduate of Macalester College in St. Paul, Minnesota. She is currently studying
for an MFA in Creative Writing at the University of New Mexico in Albuquerque.

Entries by Elizabeth Tannen

Talking (and Talking) About Children

(38) Comments | Posted November 9, 2013 | 10:21 AM

Having now been 30 for a total of 13 days, 11 hours and 59 minutes, I feel fully qualified to pronounce the sorts of subjects one talks about in one's thirties. In sum:

All Of The Things We Talked About in Our Twenties



"I have had so many...

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Why Do Left Wing Stars Make Right Wing Movies? Or, What's Wrong With Captain Phillips

(42) Comments | Posted October 31, 2013 | 10:54 AM

Who do we hold accountable?

When I first saw the preview for Captain Phillips, I didn't want to see it.

For one, because I generally don't like seeing action movies -- feeling on the edge of my pulse for two hours is not, actually, pleasant. And for another,...

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Why Getting Dumped Valentine's Day Week Is Awesome

(0) Comments | Posted February 14, 2013 | 10:43 AM

Let's face it: generally speaking, as a single person, there's really no way to feel good about Valentine's Day

Even as an eight-year-old, the purple charm necklaces and stuffed Jack Russell terriers my mom would present to me as gifts felt tinged with pathetic-ness. I knew this holiday wasn't meant...

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Until Women Are Equal, Who Should Pay for First Dates, And Why?

(223) Comments | Posted October 26, 2012 | 4:20 PM

"Can we not talk about this?"

My friend tilted her head in my direction and leaned her elbow on the bar. The bartender -- a small-statured Polish grandmother in leopard print pants -- was slamming down our beers while scanning the red-lit room. It was 1 a.m., and after several...

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Open Letter to the Obama Campaign: Do's and Don'ts for Charlotte

(1) Comments | Posted September 4, 2012 | 12:08 PM

Dear Obama Campaign Peeps,

You know how, when national tragedies happen, you can't stop consuming coverage of the events? Midwest tornadoes, hurricanes near the Gulf, school shootings everywhere, all the time?

That's pretty much how I feel about the presidential election.

I mean, no offense, but there...

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I Loved My MFA But Did It Make Me Hate Everything Else?

(1) Comments | Posted July 24, 2012 | 1:45 PM

The other day, in the car with my father, I asked him about a novel I knew he'd read and liked and that I'd just finished.

"So, you liked that book?" I said.

"Yeah," he replied. "I loved it."

"What did you like about it?" My...

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Why Women Are Hypocrites, Too

(87) Comments | Posted July 5, 2012 | 4:05 PM

No one wants to admit it, but sometimes, my single lady friends and I, we complain.

I know, I know: For the most part, we're happy, independent, well-adjusted women perfectly happy being by ourselves. Yada yada.

So let's put it this way: We ponder certain questions. Questions such as: "Why...

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The Totem of Chat: When Online Over-Sharing Gets Real

(1) Comments | Posted April 30, 2012 | 3:58 PM

A few months ago, I met an ex-boyfriend for breakfast. It was just after Christmas vacation, and I'd blogged -- in my trademark, vague but explicit fashion -- about a romance I'd had over the break.

While this particular ex and I dated, he protected both of us by not...

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Six Reasons You Should 'Like' My Facebook Page

(1) Comments | Posted January 24, 2012 | 3:30 PM

1) Writers are troubled people. Have sympathy.

No one likes to promote themselves. It's one of those things, like hemorrhoids and hair loss, that most of us will have to deal with but prefer not to discuss. (In "all" I, of course, exclude Ryan Seacrest and at least five Kardashian...

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Just in Time for New Years: Five Excuses for Being Single

(89) Comments | Posted December 21, 2011 | 2:54 PM

Sometimes it strikes me as useful to feel shocked that I'm single. I'm so attractive, I like to assure myself. My skin is so soft. Once, with a straight face, I insisted to my parents that all my romantic troubles stem from the fact that I'm just so likable.

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Memo to Single Men: Man Up or Shut Up

(48) Comments | Posted November 30, 2011 | 9:53 PM

A few weeks ago, I got a random Facebook message from an attractive man I know. I was excited for approximately three seconds before feeling, instead, furious.

Would I go out with this man if he asked me? Yes. Would I go out of my way to ask him out?...

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Open Letter to Lebron: Please, Keep the Mouthguard in the Mouth

(9) Comments | Posted June 10, 2011 | 10:52 AM

Dear Lebron:

I know you're getting a lot of heat right now (Whoa, did I just write that? Sorry, sometimes these things just happen!) for your, um, appearance in the playoffs. Apparently people expect to actually see you play basketball when you call yourself the King and tattoo yourself the...

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Why The Bachelor Makes Good TV-Watching But Very Bad Matchmaking

(4) Comments | Posted April 26, 2011 | 2:06 PM

Admission: so, on one level, I can totally get behind the whole concept of The Bachelor. There's no one perfect person out there for any of us: why not choose from a selection of twenty-five telegenic types within your range of age and attractiveness and pick one as a fiancée?...

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An Open Letter to Tiger Woods: Please, Share Your Dating Secrets

(10) Comments | Posted March 3, 2010 | 1:58 PM

Dear Tiger,

I know that all your mail lately has probably been hate mail. Okay, all your mail not from Chris Brown. Well, this isn't.

I'm not writing to berate you and tell you you screwed up or have no morals, or that you sounded insincere and stilted at...

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Olympic Speed Dating: The Event to Bring Back the Winter Olympics

(6) Comments | Posted February 24, 2010 | 11:05 AM

I've got the perfect way to spice up the next Winter Olympics: Speed Dating. It's true, I'm confident of my Gold-medal chances--but that's not the only reason it's a good idea.

First of all, let's face it: this year's Winter Olympics were a letdown before they even began. NBC...

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