I brown-bag my lunch and wear hand-me-down shoes. Last week, caught outside in a rainstorm, I decided not to buy an umbrella. The weather would clear up soon, I reasoned. Besides, you don't get that wet if you walk briskly down the sidewalk ducking under store awnings for shelter.
I wasn't always this cheap.
My transformation began in 2008 when the economy cratered. I was fortunate; I held on to my job while anxiously watching as colleagues, friends and family were laid off or saw their income plummet.
My financial crisis was personal: I had a son! A sweet lovely little baby -- with a gigantic price tag. By the time he enters college, Noah's sunny face may cost us $469,000 according to a calculator from the U.S. Department of Agriculture, which tracks these sorts of things.
That's right, nearly a half-million dollars. And that's not counting college tuition.
We had a second child last year. She is adorable and the light of my life, of course. But, worth noting: My sweet blue-eyed girl adds another $280,000 to our long-term budget.
All together, raising these two children until they turn college age could cost more than $750,000. Just writing that down has tied my stomach into knots. You can check your kids' costs at the USDA's website.
Before my son was born, we decided that my husband would stay home with him. Our challenge: Half the income, with double the family.
At the time, the rest of the country was struggling through the same sobering exercise: What do we really need? How can we spend less? For many families these questions were urgent. The foreclosure rate spiked -- people lost their homes. There weren't always good answers or solutions.
The economy is no longer on life support. Indeed, some economists lately are sounding upbeat on our financial prospects. Yet unemployment is still stubbornly high. Wages stagnant.
The scars of the past few years are hard to erase: We're all still worried about the future. Will we be able to retire? Should I trust the stock market again? How can I possibly pay my children's college tuition? Should I ever ever trust in real estate again?
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Where do these figures on how much it costs to raise a child come from? Most average Americans don't even make the amount listed, let alone having that amount to put into raising a child! I didn't spend that much on raising four kids on my own and Lord knows I didn't make that much in those years! I think that it would be a safe bet to say that I still haven't made that much in my lifetime to date. I think that someone needs to get their facts straight before they publish a story.
The median household income is $50,000, so the typical married couple would earn $900,000 in 18 years. After paying for the kids that leaves $150,000 to support themselves, and that equals $8,333 per year or $160 per week for both of them or $80 per week each.
Can you live on $80 per week? That might make your car payment.
Some parents want to guarantee the success of their children, affording them good schools, extra curricular activities, etc. That costs...
If you want your kid to earn in the top 2-3%, then, it takes some money to raise them.