Milo Yiannopoulos Is A Social Conservative's Wet Dream

07/20/2016 11:52 pm ET | Updated Jul 21, 2016

Milo Yiannopoulos is a social conservative’s wet dream.  He’s admittedly gay and he’s incredibly socially conservative, including his very anti-gay positions.

He describes his mother as having been awful about his being gay and she apparently rejected him when he came out.  Although he claims that his father was “surprisingly understanding,” only his paternal grandmother showed him what he described as just the right amount of acceptance and concern.  He seems to believe the following is the right amount of acceptance and concern:  “It’s not a happy life, but if you stay safe and away from drugs, you’ll be alright.” 

His paternal grandmother raised him and as a Catholic.  He considers himself “basically mostly Catholic, though a terrible one.”  She apparently accepted him in spite of his being gay and yet, he credits her for helping him to develop his sense of right and wrong.  He says “everywhere that doesn’t have a strong Christian heritage is a f**ked up place with bad morals. I believe our culture is better than other cultures… I think it is uncontroversial to say so. Ultimately, our sense of right and wrong comes from the Bible.”

He’s admittedly promiscuous and has described his existence as a gay man as being “horribly lonely, miserable, painful and unhappy.”  Moreover, he’s said that being gay is guaranteed to bring pain and unhappiness. 

Yiannopoulos says that he would never have chosen to be gay and that he “would cure his homosexuality if he could.  Yet, he refers to being gay as a “lifestyle choice” an “enormous decision.”  In fact, he fears that if he were to raise a child, he could actually influence them toward that “lifestyle”, which is “horrifying” to him.  He says, “it’s wrong to expose an innocent child to the possibility of gay influence.”  Thus, it’s no surprise that he believes that “Kids need a mum and a dad.” 

He “genuinely seems to believe being gay leads to ‘destructive self-loathing’, describes other gay people as ‘preening poofs’ and ‘camp-as-tits faggots who’ll rape you as soon as look at you’, and believes that his friend’s baby-to-be ‘deserves to be protected’ from gay men such as himself, because it’d be ‘wrong to expose an innocent child to the possibility of gay influence.’”

He refers to homosexuality as “aberrant,” meaning “departing from an accepted standard or normal type.”  According to him, being homosexual is “wrong.”  He also claims that “the feelings of alienation and rejection it engenders are responsible for the sorts of repugnant tribal posturing you see on the streets of Soho on a Friday night, as bitterly unhappy queers engage in degrading and repulsive behavior, simply because they want to feel a part of something after a lifetime of marginalization.  Ironically, it’s precisely that profound feeling of being somehow broken that means a gay man’s sexuality often comes to be the defining characteristic of his personality. Who wouldn’t want to protect a child from a path that leads to such destructive self-loathing?”

Yiannopoulos also seems to believe that “the battle for gay rights has been won. All these preening poofs in public life do is make life more difficult for regular young gay people by reinforcing the stereotypes about gay behaviour: reminding a struggling child’s myopic dad that queers are uppity, in-your-face, camp-as-tits faggots who’ll rape you as soon as look at you.”  The following are some comments he’s made on Breitbart: “Gay Rights Have Made Us Dumber, It’s Time To Get Back in the Closet”, and “Gays! If you want to start giving blood, stop being sluts.”

Meanwhile, this self-loathing man somehow believes that he would “have made a great dad.” Ooops, my mistake.  He says he doesn’t hate himself or his sexuality, although he has “a complicated relationship with the latter.”  He also claims that he doesn’t hate other gay men.

He actually believes he is clever, charming and witty and that he was “branded a homophobic homo”  because of his “beliefs about raising kids.” 

In addition to his work at Breitbart News Network, a politically conservative American news and opinion website, he’s “an outspoken gay Catholic who writes for the Catholic Herald.”

After learning this about Milo Yiannopoulos, you may be asking why I believe he is a social conservative’s wet dream.  Well, allow me to share some information I learned at the San Gabriel Valley Psychological Association’s monthly lunch meeting that took place on April 10, 2015.  Ian Stulberg, LCSW presented on “Seeking Reflection: Gay & Lesbian Identity Formation and Clinical Issues.”  Among other things, we learned the following:

* A person’s acceptance of their sexual orientation does not mean they don’t loathe it.

* It is essential to locate and experience positive reflection by a support system. That means that a person’s support system should make you feel positive about your authentic self.

* He explained that what is going on with the LGBT community now is similar to when black people stopped apologizing for who they are and said accept me.

* He said that Identity integration occurs when a person recognizes their similarities with people of a different sexual orientation.

* Internalized homophobia is caused by unresolved feelings about being gay and social isolation. It requires working through negative attitudes and what it means to be gay.

* Some believe that coming out is a selfish act. In other words, they believe it is selfish to be their authentic selves.

* Members of the LGBT community who tend to register complaints against the community is the result of their bad choices. He gave an example of gay men who claim to want to meet others interested in a committed relationship, but only looking in bars and sex clubs.

* He said that homosexuals with internalized homophobia often lose attraction to a person with whom they have been sexually intimate, as soon as they get to know the person.

Considering what I learned from Ian Stulberg, LCSW and Milo Yiannopoulos’ comments and beliefs, there is no doubt in my mind that he is a self-loathing homophobic homo.  Now, considering that he’s somehow convinced himself that he doesn’t hate himself or his sexuality and isn’t a homophobic homo, I’m afraid he wouldn’t know homophobia if he saw it. 

Meanwhile, he frequently refers to liberals as being “self-righteous.” Merriam-Webster’s defines “self-righteous” as “having a strong belief that your own actions, opinions, etc., are right and other people’s are wrong; convinced of one’s own righteousness especially in contrast with the actions and beliefs of others: narrow-mindedly moralistic.” 

That sounds to me like the pot calling the kettle black.  Might there be some projection going on with him? 

Projection is one of the defense mechanisms identified by Freud and still acknowledged today. According to Freud, projection is when someone is threatened by or afraid of their own impulses so they attribute these impulses to someone else.”

In any event, according to Brene’ Brown., Ph.D., LMSW, self-righteousness and self-loathing are two sides of the same coin.  Dr. Brown explains it as follows: 

“It goes back to some fundamental research we have on judgment, which found we only judge in areas where we’re the most susceptible to shame. So we only judge and put value on people’s behaviors in areas where we believe sometimes we’re not enough, which is why things like parenting are judgment minefields — because every single one of us who’s doing it knows we’re screwing it up everyday.

When we feel good about what we’re doing, and how and why we’re doing it, we don’t need to rank-order people. But when we are in that slippery place of not believing we’re good enough, strong enough, beautiful enough, skinny enough, rich enough, promoted enough — that is when we’re most likely to start comparing and rank-ordering. And once you enter that minefield, it’s one quick slip between ‘I’m better than so-and-so’ and ‘I’m a worthless piece of crap and everyone’s better than me.’

Once you start thinking comparatively, you stop focusing on what your own internal striving for excellence looks like. Now everything is outwardly calculated based on what people will think, and if you’re better or worse than another person. That’s when we’ve lost total control and total values alignment.”

As Dr. Brown says, “self-righteousness is just the armor of self-loathing.”  And, according to Alan Cohen, “Hatred of others is a reflection of self-hatred. All love of others is a reflection of self-love.”

Under the circumstances, it’s really no surprise that Milo Yiannopoulos is the first person to have been permanently banned from using Twitter.

Unfortunately, Yiannopoulos is by no means the only self-loathing gay to help conservatives in their anti-gay efforts.  In fact, on May 29, 2015, the Advocate published an article titled “16 Antigay Leaders Exposed as Gay or Bi.” 

I wish I were joking when I said that Milo Yiannopoulos is a social conservative’s wet dream.  As an openly anti-gay gay man, he helps the Republicans to justify what has been referred to as the most anti-LGBT platform in party history.  

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