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Eric W.
Following an accident, I suddenly became a widower in my 30s. She made me feel like the luckiest man alive until luck tragically turned. I wrestle with her loss every day

Entries by Eric W.

The Love Stories of 'Toy Story'

(3) Comments | Posted April 17, 2015 | 2:05 PM

In the Toy Story films, the primary personal relationship on display is friendship. And yet, although the films are not romances, there are more realistic representations of romantic love threaded through the three movies than you'll find in a multiplex full of romantic comedies.

Here are some examples of love...

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Breaking Free From Psychics and Mediums

(1) Comments | Posted November 25, 2014 | 9:57 AM

I've always known that mediums and psychics are all con artists who make their livings exploiting the bereaved. Now that I'm a widower, I've begun to take their acts of fraud personally. Their victims are my new peers, my new friends.

After many discussions with my fellow widows, I've learned...

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Wedding Confessions: Why Being Married Is No Excuse to Stop Dancing

(20) Comments | Posted May 2, 2014 | 9:38 AM

Early on in our relationship, we decided that if we ever got married, our first dance would be to the song "Someone to Watch Over Me." Although she passed away before we made it to our wedding day, we still had the chance to dance to our song.

Every time...

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A Sentence No Parent Should Ever Hear

(1) Comments | Posted January 22, 2014 | 9:12 AM

I was in the hospital with my fiancée when she died.

When somebody dies, there are calling circles that need to be activated. My first call would have been to her parents, but we had called them from the ambulance a few minutes earlier. They were already racing to the...

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Making Promises: What Does a Wedding Ring Represent?

(6) Comments | Posted January 17, 2014 | 2:12 PM

She was my fiancée, not my wife. I am widowed, but never married.

At my first spousal-loss support group meeting, I felt out of place before we even started, because I was the only one there who was unwed. To ease my mind, the social worker that ran the group...

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Her Friends Want to Set Me Up With Other Women

(0) Comments | Posted November 21, 2013 | 5:32 PM

It was only four days after she died that somebody first broached the subject of the next phase of my love life. The funeral service had been that morning. Afterwards, in the midst of people offering their condolences, one of the guests told me, "One day, if you're ready, you'll...

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Saving Memories: Can You Relive a Relationship in Photographs?

(4) Comments | Posted October 21, 2013 | 8:23 AM

When she died, our life together was reduced to 782 photographs of her. Looking at them helps me feel more connected to her, but it also makes me wish that I had done a better job of documenting our relationship. Had I been taking pictures of the wrong things?


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Why I Didn't Wish You a Happy Birthday

(20) Comments | Posted September 18, 2013 | 2:27 PM

Since society fears public displays of grief, these are a young widower's secret stories of living after the loss of love.

Being a widower has changed my life in many ways. You can probably imagine some of the more cataclysmic changes, but there are also smaller, everyday disruptions that may...

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