02/12/2014 11:26 am ET Updated Apr 14, 2014

How to Be Happy When Life Is Tough

When smack in the middle of a stressful situation or painful experience it can feel impossible to see the blessings or imagine a positive outcome. We've all had struggles, failures, and really horrific experiences. People don't always treat us like they should. Plans fail even when perfectly laid out.

Life sometimes just doesn't turn out the way we'd hoped.

In hindsight, I can see that my most painful experiences have prompted the most profound growth and have resulted deeper joy in the long term. After a miscarriage, I felt such deep pain and anger and saw no way that it could possibly be a blessing. Looking back, I now see that experience as a most profound event that pushed me to go from a life of "average" to a life where I am fulfilling my life's purpose and am headed more and more in the right direction every day.

I am re-aligning with the divine.

I have friends who have lived through cancer, divorce, and other substantial losses who claim that periods of expansive growth, newfound gratitude, and authentic happiness followed their deepest and darkest times.

In my own experience, I have felt showered with love by family and friends during times of suffering and have felt my connections with all kinds of people in my life strengthened to new levels.

What blessings and beauty have you experienced in the middle of your toughest times?

God promises that we will receive, "a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair." (Isaiah 61:3).

No matter what you are in the middle of, whether it's a minor crisis or a full-blown catastrophe, just know that as Bob Marley says, everything's gonna be all right.