Esther Perel
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Esther Perel is a licensed marriage and family therapist who has spent half her life treating patients and the other half coaching, consulting and training for organizations and lay and professional audiences. An acknowledged authority on cultural identity, cross cultural relations and ethnic and religious intermarriage, she has led private and public interventions around the world. For nearly a quarter of a century, her expertise in wartime, post-war and refugee families has been sought after by victims of conflict as well as by therapists and crisis counselors in training.

Ms. Perel has a private psychotherapy practice in New York, with multilingual clients. She is fluent in eight languages. Her clinical teaching and interests center on culture and sexuality with a focus on couples.

A frequently referenced author, Ms. Perel’s book, Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic was published last fall. Her 2002 essay, “Erotic Intelligence: Reconciling Sensuality and Domesticity,” was featured on the front cover of the Utne Reader and was included in the anthology, Best Erotic Writings 2004. She has written numerous articles and chapters about intermarriage, the families of Holocaust survivors, cross-cultural couples and cultural and religious identity.

Ms. Perel’s innovative strategies and models for leadership have won her an international clientele of non-profit organizations, foundations, schools, community groups and corporations, including: New York University Medical Center; Hebrew University in Jerusalem; Psycho-social Center for Refugees at the University of Oslo, Norway; The Soros Foundation’s Open Society Institute; The Wexner Foundation; The 92nd street Y, The Skirball Center and United Jewish Communities.

A frequent keynoter, she regularly addresses the therapeutic and lay community at conferences, cross-cultural forums and workshops. In New York Ms. Perel hosts the Downtown Salon, a capacity crowd forum on zeitgeist issues that grew out of the Ideas Cafe she launched at the Skirball Center in 2003.

Born and raised in Belgium, Ms. Perel holds degrees from the Hebrew University of Jerusalem and Lesley College. She was trained and supervised in family therapy by Dr. Salvador Minuchin and serves on the faculties of the Department of Psychiatry, New York University Medical School, and Columbia University’s International Trauma Studies Program, Mailman School of Public Health.

A popular media commentator, Ms. Perel has been interviewed in leading publications such as The Washington Post, Tikkun, New York Magazine, The New Yorker, The Atlantic Monthly, The Observer, Vogue, Self, Salon.com, Health Parent and Working Woman, and has appeared on television programs including The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Today Show, CBC News, Good Day New York, CNN This Morning, Women Aloud and CBS This Morning. She has also been a guest on popular radio shows such as The Brian Lehrer Show, Jim Richards, Dan Gresham and The Mancow Show.

Please visit Esther's website to learn more about her groundbreaking ideas: EstherPerel.com.

Blog Entries by Esther Perel

An Affair To Remember: What Happens In Couples After Someone Cheats? Part Three

Posted November 10, 2010 | 12:07:08 (EST)

If you would like to get the opportunity to work with Esther directly, check out her upcoming workshop where you will learn to cultivate desire and bring creativity to your relationship November 14th and 15th in Manhattan. Singles and couples welcome. To learn more and register, go HERE....

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An Affair To Remember: What Happens In Couples After Someone Cheats? Part Two

Posted October 27, 2010 | 06:06:59 (EST)

If you would like to get the opportunity to work with Esther directly, check out her upcoming workshop where you will learn to cultivate desire and bring creativity to your relationship November 14th and 15th in Manhattan. Singles and couples welcome. To learn more and register, go HERE....

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An Affair To Remember: What Happens In Couples After Someone Cheats? Part One

Posted October 13, 2010 | 14:02:15 (EST)

If you would like to get the opportunity to work with Esther directly, check out her upcoming workshop where you will learn to cultivate desire and bring creativity to your relationship November 14th and 15th in Manhattan. Singles and couples welcome. To learn more and register, go HERE....

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Sex in America: Can We Change The Conversation?

Posted February 17, 2009 | 15:11:58 (EST)

Esther Perel will join Amy Sohn, Leonore Tiefer, Ian Kerner, and Cory Silverberg for a conversation called "Sex in America: Can The Conversation Change?" The symposium is co-sponsored by the Huffington Post and Open Center and will take place in New York City on Friday, February 20th. Click here...

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Sex Needs Space

Posted October 21, 2008 | 13:08:52 (EST)

While the diversity in the couples I work with is infinite, one complaint rings true across all cultures: couples who describe themselves as loving, trusting and caring complain that their sex lives have become dull and devoid of eroticism.

Why is it that great sex so...

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The Mechanics Of Sex

Posted August 10, 2007 | 15:04:49 (EST)

According to Don and Debra MacLeod's Lube Jobs: A Woman's Guide to Great Maintenance Sex, maintaining the sexual spark is akin to the way we maintain a car: we don't get to do the big check-up, so we do small upkeep to keep the engines running.

The car maintenance metaphor...

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Mating In Captivity

Posted May 28, 2007 | 16:07:13 (EST)

As a couples therapist in New York, I've seen young and old, married or not and gay, bi and straight, with passports from all over the world. Plenty has changed in my 20 years of private practice, but not my patients opening lines.

They tend to...

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