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Evelyn Lauer
Evelyn Lauer is a writer and teacher who lives in Chicago with her husband and two sons. She holds an MFA in creative writing from Texas State University. She is currently working on a memoir about finding and losing love. She blogs about motherhood, adulthood, and womanhood in the 21st Century at You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Entries by Evelyn Lauer

On Turning 39

(0) Comments | Posted March 10, 2015 | 3:07 PM

This piece originally ran on the author's website.

Last week was my 39th birthday. 39 years. On my birthday, I drove to work, thinking of my mother 39 years ago having contractions and driving to the hospital in an ice storm. I thought of her body, pushing me...

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90년대의 사랑이 그리운 이유 7가지

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2015 | 3:25 PM

난 1993년에 처음으로 사랑에 빠졌다. 난 고2, 남자 친구 댄(Dan)은 고3이었다. 댄이 대학으로 떠나기 전날이었던 어느 9월 밤 우린 집 앞 도로, 도요타 캠리 보닛 위에 얹어 둔 붐박스에서 피터 가브리엘의 'In Your Eyes'가 흘러나왔고 우린 노래에 맞춰 춤을 췄다. 그리고 몇 달 후 우린 이별했다. 인터넷이 아직 존재하지 않던...

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7 Things I Miss About Love in the '90s

(7) Comments | Posted February 8, 2015 | 9:33 AM

I fell in love for the first time in 1993. I was a junior in high school, and Dan was a senior. The night before he left for college in September, we danced in the street outside my home, as a boom box, which rested on the hood...

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Las Navidades en que descubrí que no era el hombre de mi vida

(7) Comments | Posted January 4, 2015 | 2:55 AM

Sólo pasamos unas Navidades juntos. Me regaló una docena de rosas amarillas y una tarjeta en la que (en parte) se leía:

Nunca me he sentido tan cerca, tan cómodo y tan a gusto con alguien como contigo. Han sido esas mañanas en las que me despertaba antes que tú,...
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Das Weihnachten, an dem ich merkte, dass er nicht der Richtige war

(7) Comments | Posted December 24, 2014 | 11:21 AM

Wir haben nur ein Weihnachten miteinander verbracht. Er überreichte mir ein Dutzend gelbe Rosen und eine Karte, auf der stand (in Teilen):

Ich habe mich noch nie mit jemandem so nah, vertraut und warm gefühlt wie mit dir. Da waren diese Morgen, an denen ich vor dir aufgewacht bin, neben...
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The Christmas I Realized He Wasn't the One

(215) Comments | Posted December 23, 2014 | 10:57 AM

We only spent one Christmas together. He gave me a dozen yellow roses and a card that read (in part):

I have never felt so close, so comfortable, and so warm around anyone else but you. It has been those mornings when I woke up before you, next to you,...
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Beziehung: Was ich gern mit 20 über die Liebe gewusst hätte

(0) Comments | Posted October 2, 2014 | 4:13 PM

Der Artikel erschien ursprünglich auf der Website 40:20 Vision. Dort geben Frauen in den Vierzigern Ratschläge an Frauen in den Zwanzigern.

Die meiste Zeit meines Lebens war ich besessen von dem Thema Liebe. Wann werde ich ihn treffen? Wann werde ich die wahre Liebe finden? Warum ruft er...

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What I Wish I Knew About Love in My 20s

(12) Comments | Posted October 1, 2014 | 9:26 AM

This post originally appeared on 40:20 Vision, a website where women in their 40s give advice to women in their 20s.

I spent most of my 20s obsessing about love. When will I meet him? When will I find true love? Why isn't he calling me? Why...

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Teacher, Editor Suspended for Banning Use of 'Redskin' in School Newspaper

(8) Comments | Posted September 19, 2014 | 4:53 PM

I began my teaching career at a high school whose mascot was an Indian. This was the fall of 2001. By 2002, we became the Wolves when the school board and administration changed the name after objections of many students, parents, and alumni -- and because it was, simply, the...

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Why You Might Want to Rethink Your Baby Registry

(15) Comments | Posted July 14, 2014 | 5:46 PM

So I'm sitting at lunch and two women at the table next to me are talking about baby registries. One woman is pregnant; the other, I sense, is not even a mom yet.

"I'm registered at Target for everything," the pregnant one says.

"Is this registry just for your friends...

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My Failed Attempt at a Summer Romance

(0) Comments | Posted July 1, 2014 | 2:56 PM

When I was a child, I dreamed of having a summer romance like the ones I read about in the young adult books of the 1980s whose titles have since slipped my mind. These romances often took place in beach towns on the East coast, along Cape Cod or the...

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Por que eu odiava o termo alma gêmea (até ontem)

(2) Comments | Posted June 20, 2014 | 9:58 AM

"Alma gêmea." Essas palavras me causam repulsa. Elas me remetem a Hollywood e cartões e filmes piegas em que a protagonista fica com o homem dos seus sonhos e a cena final mostra os pombinhos se beijando apaixonadamente em um aeroporto e os espectadores saem acreditando que eles viveram felizes...

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Why Turning 25 Matters

(9) Comments | Posted May 17, 2014 | 9:22 AM

Twenty-five. Why is this age so significant? Why does it feel like we should accomplish something by this time? Why is it a marker -- like 30 or 40 or 16?

I don't have all the answers, but every day people from all over the world search the internet using...

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My First Love Story

(13) Comments | Posted April 28, 2014 | 8:46 AM

I was four days shy of my 16th birthday the night a boy kissed me for the first time. His name was Dan, and we were on our first date, "Wayne's World" followed by a cheeseburger and French fry dinner. It was February 29, 1992, and as we stood on...

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Why Life in Your 30s Is Better (and Worse) Than Life in Your 20s

(42) Comments | Posted April 17, 2014 | 12:54 PM

Recently, one of my friends (actually, an ex-boyfriend) said, "I was just telling someone life gets so much better in your 30s."

He was right. And wrong.

It gets better: more simple, more meaningful, more established, more fulfilling, more STABLE. You'll have fewer fights, cry less tears and make fewer...

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Why I Hated the Term Soul Mate (Until Yesterday)

(33) Comments | Posted April 3, 2014 | 8:32 AM

"Soul mate." Even the words make me cringe. They scream Hollywood and Hallmark and cheesy movies where the female protagonist gets the guy of her dreams and the final shot shows them kissing in the airport and the audience is left believing in happily-ever-after.

Sorry to disappoint, but there is...

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When No Means No, But Universities Don't Listen

(26) Comments | Posted February 26, 2014 | 4:25 PM

In August of 1994, my mother dropped me off at Daum residence hall, where I would live for the next year as a freshman at the University of Iowa.

Three weeks later, a student I had recently met attempted to rape me in a friend's dorm room...

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5 Reasons Why I Waited Until 30 to Marry

(31) Comments | Posted February 11, 2014 | 12:02 PM

When I was 23, I was in a relationship with a 36-year-old. I was madly in love with him -- until the month of my 25th birthday, when we broke up. Why?

Many reasons, but mostly because I was about to begin my career as an educator, a job I...

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Having Boys When I Wanted Girls

(8) Comments | Posted February 6, 2014 | 10:11 AM

I wanted both of my boys to be girls.

That's hard for me to say now, knowing them, loving them. But it's true. When I was pregnant with Noah, I imagined Sonoma, the name I wanted to give my daughter. I imagined her curls and cute dresses and conversations about...

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Why I Wish I Had Writer's Block

(1) Comments | Posted January 8, 2014 | 11:47 AM


Typical scenes at my house: I'm writing a blog post on my iPhone while my sons watch Max and Ruby; I'm editing my memoir one-handed while I butter toast with the other; I'm jotting down notes on junk-mail envelopes while I pick up...

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