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Farah L. Miller is the executive family and relationships editor at The Huffington Post. Prior to this, she launched HuffPost Parents, was the deputy editor for digital at OWN: The Oprah Winfrey Network, and has worked on the editorial staff at O, The Oprah Magazine, Brides.com, and iVillage. She also ran new media for Alfred A. Knopf and Pantheon Books at Random House where she produced campaigns for bestselling books and authors.

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Why Making New Mom Friends Is Exactly Like Dating

(9) Comments | Posted September 3, 2014 | 2:21 PM

Trying to make friends in kindergarten was easy. Meeting a significant other in a sea of singles? In retrospect, also a piece of cake. Approaching the cool mom at the playground when you've had negative hours of sleep, forgotten to shower (again) and poured the requisite amount of coffee on...

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16 F'ed Up Things Kids Have Done

(30) Comments | Posted July 2, 2014 | 12:49 PM

Comedians Shayna Ferm and Tracey Tee understand that lovely and common feeling as a parent where your heart is so full of love for your child it could explode. They also know that there is a converse emotion -- when you feel as though it isn't your heart, but your...

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What A Dad's Complete Surrender To Love Looks Like

(6) Comments | Posted June 18, 2014 | 11:18 AM

When we posted an ad for Boba carriers that was actually a love letter to motherhood, dads and moms alike asked, "Where is the ode to fatherhood?" Now, in response to the original's success the company produced a new tear-jerker of a spot called "You Made Me a Father."

Boba used the same creative team to produce their new video. Director Jasper Gray, of Futuristic Films, interviewed real dads to find out how they felt they changed after having kids. Then, Laurenne Sala, the same writer who crafted the script for the moms' video, worked her magic. (Read the full text below.)

The main difference between the two videos is that this one features a reverse timeline. Jenna Benson, a rep for Boba, explained this choice via e-mail: "Dads become more emotionally invested through their ongoing relationships with their kids (vs. moms who may form an emotional bond throughout pregnancy or immediately at birth)."

She also said that the dads Boba interviewed focused on foibles and physical play, and mentioned how much having kids changed their priorities in life more than the moms did. Through both projects, it became clear that all parents hold one experience very much in common -- "a complete surrender to love."

And so, we throw down the same challenge as last time. How far can you get into this without tearing up?

You and me -- we're in this together.

I get to spend my life helping you figure out who you are.

I get to show you what I love and teach you to believe in yourself. Teach you to be curious, to think, to dream, to put one foot in front of the other...

I get to teach you to get back up, to try again, to be brave, to be human, to be part of this big world...

I'm your example, your friend, your pillow, your hero.

And you know what? You're mine too. You taught me to slow down, to be amazed -- at you, at life.

You taught me how to re-order my every priority, and that my heart could exist outside my body and I could hold it in my arms.

You taught me that I do know what I'm doing. Maybe. Or maybe it doesn't matter.

From you, I've learned to be loud and free and silly. You and your hugs and your love. You've shattered my hard shell, scrubbed away my roughness, and taught me that being a man isn't always about being manly.

When you came into my life, you welcomed me into the greatest club in the world. You made me a...

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5 coisas que eu não sabia sobre minha mãe até que tive minha filha

(0) Comments | Posted May 26, 2014 | 10:04 AM

Como a maioria das crianças de 4 anos faz com suas mães, minha filha me entrega lixo o dia todo -- embalagens de lanches, guardanapos usados, canetas que não funcionam. Ela também me dá sua boneca quando está pronta para andar de patinete, seu abrigo quando fica quente demais e...

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5 Things I Didn't Know About My Mom Until I Had My Daughter

(2) Comments | Posted May 11, 2014 | 4:06 PM

Like most 4-year-olds do with their moms, my daughter hands me trash all day long -- snack wrappers, used napkins, markers that don't work. She also gives me her doll when she is ready to ride her scooter, her sweatshirt when she gets too hot and the leaf she had...

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Last Year, The Internet Threw A Pizza Party For A Little Girl In The Hospital. Now She's Cancer Free!

(4) Comments | Posted May 2, 2014 | 12:52 PM

Last summer, the image of a toddler having a pizza party in her hospital room took the Internet by storm. It was the capstone to a remarkable story. Two-year-old Hazel Hammersley, a little girl battling cancer, had asked her mom and grandma to put up a sign requesting...

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17 Nightmare-Inducing Easter Photos You Can't Unsee

(64) Comments | Posted April 18, 2014 | 4:47 PM

Christmas photos get a bad rap for being awkward, but families in pastel outfits at Easter brunch give those wearing ugly holiday sweaters a run for their money. Plus, as we already know, setting children on a giant bunny's lap is a recipe for...

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Glennon Melton, Of 'Momastery,' Will Lead Our Next Stress-Less Parenting Workshop

(2) Comments | Posted April 11, 2014 | 8:24 AM

Glennon Doyle Melton first came into our lives two years ago, when she wrote "Don't Carpe Diem," a funny and relatable but also wise and life-changing piece about having young children. (It is required reading for parents, so if you haven't been there, done that,

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This Is What Saturday Mornings Look Like After You Have Kids

(63) Comments | Posted April 6, 2014 | 10:13 AM

Once upon a time, weekend mornings were for sleeping in, brunch, maybe a few errands... And while it may be common knowledge that becoming a parent means giving up all of those things, we don't always talk about what you get instead. Now, thanks to one Internet famous dad, who...

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Dad's Baby-Inspired Workout Is 90 Seconds Of Adorable Genius

(50) Comments | Posted March 2, 2014 | 12:08 PM

Juggling work and family every day leaves precious little time for the gym. But never fear. While your baby is getting some tummy time and building her neck strength, you can follow her good example and get an excellent workout -- or at least a very cute one....

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This Ad Puts All The Emotional Truth Of Motherhood Into Words

(34) Comments | Posted January 23, 2014 | 10:24 AM

You may be able to watch this entire clip without realizing what it is an ad for. (Answer: The Boba baby carrier, which makes a couple of quick cameos.) It is far more difficult to get through the thing without tearing up.

The script was inspired by real moms' comments in Boba's community. "These parents often share their own stories about how becoming a mother changed their lives. We wanted to document and share that thought, since it is such an amazing gift," a representative for the company told HuffPost.

So, which line can you make it to without crying?

I felt you. You were a pea. Then a lemon. Then an eggplant. I followed advice. I read twelve books. I quit coffee.

Could you tell I was scared?

I talked to you, sang to you... I wasn't ready.

But then you were here. Ten toes. Eight pounds. Love. Big fat love.

I held you. I fed you. I realized that I would spend my life doing things to make you happy -- and that that would make me happy.

And then there are the times I want to give up. You've made me rethink my sanity. You've made me want to fall on my mother's feet and tell her that I get it.

But then you smile and you say my name -- and you grab my hand with those little fingers.

We're growing together. We are seeing the world like it's new. I will open my heart and love will rain down all over you. You'll giggle, and I'll do it all over again. And we will walk hand in hand. Until you let go.

I made you, but you made me a mother....

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For My Daughter on Her 4th Birthday

(1) Comments | Posted January 22, 2014 | 1:16 PM

Dear Zadie,

There are stories about mothers who will perform incredible feats of strength for their babies. I'm not saying that this is one of those tales, but I walked a good 20 minutes in a blizzard, yesterday, to get to a train that would ensure my...

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This Is What The Year Your Life Changes Looks Like

(12) Comments | Posted January 6, 2014 | 9:28 AM

For the second time, photographer Kent Frost has made a video of an entire year, told through one-second clips. He created one to document 2012, and received acclaim for it.

This year's film has one notable difference though. In 2013, Frost and his wife Carolyn became first-time parents.

As he says on YouTube:

A LOT happened this year. We shot several weddings, baby portraits, and family video portraits. We had 60º weather in February, ice in May, and record flooding in August. We had two major comets. A massive meteor exploded over Russia. The Boston Marathon was bombed. The US Government shut down for 16 days. The pope resigned. China soft-landed the first spacecraft on the moon since 1976. And we lost great people like James Gandolfini, Lou Reed, and Nelson Mandela among many others.

And in the middle of all that chaos...we had a baby anyway.

On November 14, 2013, Cameron Frost made his way into the world. The seconds that represent the days following his birth make one thing clear -- a new baby takes center-stage in your life in a beautiful way....

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'Cardboard Box Office' Is The Coolest Thing You Can Do With Time, Supplies And A Baby

(13) Comments | Posted December 23, 2013 | 10:23 AM

New parents Lilly and Leon say on their website, Cardboard Box Office, that the idea for a family project was the result of accumulating two things: many cardboard boxes ("due to moving") and one small baby named Orson ("due to giving birth").

Please allow us to add...

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Baby's First Year Video Is Actually A Love Story Between Two Sisters

(6) Comments | Posted December 5, 2013 | 10:33 AM

Consider this the antidote to all sibling rivalries.

Mom of two, Ilana Wiles, didn't think she would be making a "first year video" for her baby Harlow. She produced one for her older daughter, Mazzy, and thought there was no way she'd have...

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The iPad Bouncy Seat: 'An Embarrassment For Humankind'

(101) Comments | Posted December 3, 2013 | 11:13 AM

The bouncy seat. It lets new parents take a shower or make dinner or spend five blissful minutes without a baby attached to your person. In other words, it is a sacred parenting product.

You know what the bouncy seat doesn't need? An iPad. Fisher-Price, however, seems...

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One Miraculous Year In The Life Of A Baby Born Too Soon

(805) Comments | Posted November 21, 2013 | 4:20 PM

It is one thing to make a video of your baby’s first year as a surprise for your wife. When that baby was born 15 weeks prematurely, scored the lowest he could on a test for bleeding in his brain and spent his first 107 days of life in a...

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Everything Parents Really Want To Say To People With No Kids

(674) Comments | Posted November 18, 2013 | 10:13 AM

People with kids have unique challenges. For example, leaving the house. It's so hard to get out the door with small children that, as a parent, you may have forgotten how easy it once was.

Comedian Michael McIntyre, who has said he wouldn't actually have...

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Watch How Beautiful It Is To Be A Mom In 2 And A Half Minutes

(18) Comments | Posted November 8, 2013 | 9:08 PM

Three moms, three different lives, one remarkably universal experience.

Filmmaker Matt Bieler found himself in awe of his sister, who was raising three young kids. (She is one of the three anonymous women in this film -- unnamed because he hopes they stand for every woman.) "It made me...

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The Video Every Mom Must Watch On Repeat Until She Gets It

(586) Comments | Posted October 31, 2013 | 9:32 AM

"I struggle with my temper."

"I wish I was better at taking time to sit down with my child."

"I wish I was more confident."

Sound familiar? Motherhood comes with doubts. From the moment you hold your first baby at the hospital, and wonder if you've got her cradled...

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