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Garry Gilfoy
Garry Gilfoy's formal education includes Honours work in Theology, a Graduate Diploma in (Adult) Education and a Master of Social Science (Counselling). He has been a counsellor and trainer of counselling students since 2001 at the University of South Australia and TAFE SA. He is currently doing a PhD titled 'The Emerging Male'. Garry lives in the Adelaide Hills of South Australia.

He is the author of “The BIG Picture — Insights from the Spiritual World” which explores themes of reincarnation, the relationship between destiny and karma, the divide between religion and spirituality, humanity’s task in creation and a new Western spirituality.

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Entries by Garry Gilfoy

The Bulging Suit in the Jazzy Sports Car

(1) Comments | Posted October 12, 2015 | 9:14 AM

It's too much of a cliché really, the sun-glassed ageing dude in the cool sports car. Some smile at the sight, others cringe depending on how close to home the image strikes, but we all know what's up. The mid-life crisis. Here's my take on it.

The typical path...

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The Fifties - Soaring Or Snoring?

(1) Comments | Posted August 8, 2015 | 12:06 AM

Let's talk about the forgotten 50s. There's not much work out there that focuses on the developmental psychology of these years, but their significance for a generative later life is profound.

Through your 20s you're humming along, pretty fast-paced, hopefully having a variety of experiences and plenty of fun in...

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The 50s: Flourishing or Floundering?

(0) Comments | Posted September 15, 2014 | 2:15 PM

When I was in my 20s I met the work of a Dutch psychiatrist and educator named Bernard Lievegoed. He was well known in Holland and abroad, having founded the Netherlands Pedagogical Institute and written numerous books. He won a national award -- the Gouden Ganzenveer -- for his cultural...

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Fathers, Be Good to Your Sons

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2014 | 7:45 AM

Many of us look forward to weekends, but more and more I'm saddened by a particular phenomenon. It's the great number of young men out with their children with no mum in sight. It's pretty clear that most of these men no longer live with the mother of their children....

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4 Parenting Tips to Live By

(0) Comments | Posted April 28, 2014 | 1:34 PM

Every child is as different as every snowflake, so let's get it straight from the start. Our job is to get our small self out of the way and let them grow. Children need to be raised to be who they are, in all their uniqueness. If you end up...

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The Human Capacity for Greatness Is Immense

(0) Comments | Posted April 2, 2014 | 12:12 PM

Carl Jung was one who saw our collective possibilities. He considered that growth was an innate principle, both of the individual and the universal. He considered the development of individuality as a microcosm of human evolution. He called this immutable process individuation. It's the big picture. We don't look forward...

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On Parenting

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2014 | 4:06 PM

I just read a great article by Lori Gottlieb about the perils of raising kids today. Not what you might think -- stranger danger and screen dreaming -- but rather our lack of perspective and failure (my words) to reflect on our own lives as a context for...

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The Beloved Son

(1) Comments | Posted November 27, 2013 | 12:35 PM

I wrote previously about the father-son archetype in therapy, with my views that men need to exorcise their demons and embrace their gods through meaningful conversation with other men. My thoughts on this originated through my ongoing work in a group of men, witnessing how they were affected by other...

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The Winding Road of the Middle Years

(0) Comments | Posted August 21, 2013 | 11:13 AM

As a trainer of psychotherapists and career counsellors, I've had to come to an understanding of developmental stages in adult life. It just won't do to assume all grown ups have similar needs, irrespective of age. The things that move and motivate us shift as we grow older. As a...

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The Empty Nest Syndrome

(15) Comments | Posted March 15, 2013 | 6:10 AM

I'm a man, but don't let that throw you. I work full-time, write in my spare time, and I've raised three strapping young things to the verge of adulthood. I've been chief cook and bottle-washer, chauffeur, lawn-mower and friend-keeper. That's because the mother of my children, my partner of 20-plus...

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The Mystical Experience

(1) Comments | Posted December 5, 2012 | 7:00 PM

On TV the other evening I saw interviews with two people who'd had out-of-body experiences. They were both mature adults. One was a neurosurgeon who had, through the course of his work, heard numerous stories of people who had "died" and then returned. He was a complete non-believer until he...

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The Shifting Morass of Morals

(0) Comments | Posted October 25, 2012 | 12:31 PM

It is interesting to follow the current polarisation in society around moral issues. During political campaigns, moral issues are often revived as leverage for garnering votes. Gay marriage seems to come up lately as a wedge to define who is really "Christian." It's quite a spectacle.


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Where Has All the Magic Gone?

(2) Comments | Posted October 15, 2012 | 1:33 PM

I was walking along the beach on a beautiful spring morning in South Australia, feeling somewhat overwhelmed by the magic in the air, the kind that reminds you that you're part of a great and mysterious universe.

Being in my mid-50s, I felt moved to ask myself, "If this was...

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The Gift of the Truculent Teenager

(5) Comments | Posted August 20, 2012 | 5:07 PM

As an educator of teachers and counsellors, I never have to wait long to hear the next sentence that contains an expletive alongside the word "teenager." Having raised three of my own, I'm not unrealistic about the challenges that they can bring. In addition to the expense it takes to...

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Leadership and You

(1) Comments | Posted August 3, 2012 | 8:00 AM

For the most part it's a sad and sorry world in terms of leadership. We look around, whether at work, in our religious and cultural institutions, or in the political sphere, and it seems no one can inspire the masses with vision and hope. Many who might have been able...

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An Esoteric View of the 1960s and '70s

(2) Comments | Posted June 26, 2012 | 4:50 PM

Firstly, I want to make the claim that the evolution of consciousness is central to humanity's task, which, by the way, is the development of freedom -- refer to our creation myth with its starting point of eating from "the tree of the knowledge of good and evil" and being...

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The Father-Son Archetype in Therapy

(2) Comments | Posted May 19, 2012 | 9:50 AM

I was recently asked to deliver professional learning to some counselors and psychotherapists on the topic of "men's issues." I left my son's football game to do so and found a gathering of about 60 people. Perhaps 10 of these were men, all but one or two of them, sat...

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