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Retired teacher and counselor, now walking barefoot.

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The HIV Equal Campaign: We All Have a Place at the Table

(3) Comments | Posted April 14, 2014 | 7:28 PM

After a heated exchange between a father and his son in the 1967 classic movie Guess Who's Coming to Dinner, Dr. John Prentice (Sidney Poiter) tells his father (Roy Glenn) that the biggest obstacle that lies between them is how they see themselves. "Dad, you see yourself as...

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Yes, Virginia, We Deserve the Right to Marry

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2014 | 12:55 PM

Currently in Norfolk, Va., U.S. District Court Judge Arenda L. Wright Allen is considering a reversal of Virginia's legal position on same-sex marriage. If Wright Allen, an Obama appointee, rules that the case has merit, it will be sent to the U.S. Court of Appeals, 4th Circuit, in...

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Why I Think HIV-Positive Guys Make Great Boyfriends

(5) Comments | Posted January 30, 2014 | 5:26 PM

As I was ringing in the new year, I thought about all the things I meant to write about but, for one reason or another, didn't. Maybe I didn't want to be judged and subject myself to criticism and stigma. But I've come to the conclusion that there are always...

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My First Boy Crush, and Why I Will Always Remember Him

(4) Comments | Posted October 29, 2013 | 7:29 PM

The first time I said "I love you" out loud and actually meant it was on my high-school stage in the spring of 1966. Of course, there was the time I told my friend Sally that I loved her. We were 5. This felt a lot different, though, because I...

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The Origin of HIV/AIDS Stigma and How to End It

(1) Comments | Posted September 26, 2013 | 4:48 PM

Illnesses have always been stigmatized. Even the person who ventures into the office with a head cold is ostracized by the others. We jokingly cross our arms to ward off any germs that may be airborne, and then we quickly find a pump sanitizer so that we can lather our...

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We Really Are As Old As We Look In The Mirror

(5) Comments | Posted June 26, 2013 | 7:49 AM

I'm one of those people you see watching other people in public lobbies. Whether it be a doctor's office, the DMV or a hotel lobby, I will be there studying your every move and eavesdropping on everything you say, but only if I find it interesting to me.

While...

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Coming Out of the HIV/AIDS Closet

(19) Comments | Posted April 24, 2013 | 12:32 PM

"I'm a young African-American male, and I have AIDS." So quoted my priest, who is really a middle-aged white guy, straight and married with grown children.

The script, which my priest read from, was all part of a service recognizing World AIDS Day last Dec. 1. The prepared program,...

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10 Things I Will Try to Remember About That Week in Boston

(2) Comments | Posted April 22, 2013 | 12:40 PM

1. People described as "lovely and compassionate" are just as likely to commit acts of violence as mean-spirited people are acts of kindness. We are multi-layered, the combination of our experiences and genetic wiring. Some of us may never understand ourselves well enough to understand others. It's a shame, because...

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Saying Goodbye to Our Parents: Their Trip Home

(5) Comments | Posted January 22, 2013 | 1:39 PM

Mom was the first to go. She tripped on a rug that had been placed in front of the refrigerator to catch spills. It was about two days later when my sister got up to our folks' house. She found Mom in bed complaining of excruciating leg pain.

"Well,...

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The San Fernando Chronicles: When White People Lived in Pacoima

(2) Comments | Posted December 18, 2012 | 8:24 AM

This is Part 1 of a series of blog postings about growing up in the San Fernando Valley of the '50s and '60s.

It was innocent enough. Kay just wanted us to snap a picture of her standing in front of the childhood home she shared with her mother...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Epilogue): What I'd Like to Say to Those With HIV/AIDS

(0) Comments | Posted December 5, 2012 | 8:11 PM

This is the epilogue to the series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, Part 5 here, Part...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Part 15): There's a Witch on My Back

(2) Comments | Posted November 16, 2012 | 5:05 PM

This is the conclusion to the series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, Part 5 here, Part...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Part 14): Jesus and the Crow Disciples

(2) Comments | Posted November 12, 2012 | 6:05 PM

This is the 14th installment in a series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, Part 5 here,...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Part 13): 'He's Got the Shugah!'

(2) Comments | Posted November 6, 2012 | 3:23 PM

This is the 13th installment in a series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, Part 5 here,...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Part 12): 'It's Lymphoma'

(4) Comments | Posted October 24, 2012 | 4:50 PM

This is the 12th installment in a series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, Part 5 here,...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Part 11): 'Anybody Who Gets Infected Now Deserves AIDS'

(5) Comments | Posted October 1, 2012 | 8:32 AM

This is the 11th installment in a series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, Part 5 here,...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Part 10): 'I Want to Live'

(2) Comments | Posted September 24, 2012 | 3:36 PM

This is the 10th installment in a series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, Part 5 here,...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Part 9): You're Alive Until You're Dead

(1) Comments | Posted September 6, 2012 | 6:27 PM

This is the ninth installment in a series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, Part 5 here,...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Part 8): The Truth Hurts

(1) Comments | Posted August 27, 2012 | 8:10 PM

This is the eighth installment in a series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, Part 5 here,...

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Robert's Walk With AIDS (Part 7): Thanks for Everything

(1) Comments | Posted August 22, 2012 | 5:32 PM

This is the seventh installment in a series of blog posts chronicling life with my partner, Robert, who died of AIDS March 21, 2002. Read Part 1 here, Part 2 here, Part 3 here, Part 4 here, and Part 5

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