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How To Avoid Binge Eating During The Holidays

Posted: 12/18/09 01:21 PM ET

We enter the holiday season with unreal expectations of gladness, blazing fires and ruddy cheeks. But when it doesn't turn out that way, we often turn to-yup, you guessed it -- food.

The most painful thing about using food to comfort ourselves during the holidays (or any other time) is that it is only a temporary solution. After the food is gone, whatever you ate about is still there. And, to make matters worse, you now feel fat or stuffed or spacey as well as lonely, sad, or angry. So turning to food only compounds the original problem by giving you another problem -- your weight -- to deal with.

For many years, I led one-day holiday workshops, listening to people talk about their fears, their expectations, their joys during the holiday season. I heard what triggered their descent into binging and what helped them out of it. And what I saw again and again is that as tempting as it is to eat 20 butter cookies shaped like Christmas trees when you are lonely, food is most pleasurable, delicious, satisfying when you are hungry. In every other situation, there is always something besides eating that will help you, comfort you, give you peace, which is after all, the true message of the holidays.

So here's what my students taught me about making it through the holidays (note: it takes a commitment to do these things. You have to want to to be sane more than you want to eat.)

(1) Wear clothes with pockets. Put interesting things in them (rocks, crystals, and, um, any precious stones like sapphires or diamonds that are just laying around) so that you have something to do with your hands besides eat.

(2) When you go to a party, take only three kinds of food on your plate. Go to a relatively quiet place and let yourself really really taste what's on your plate. Play with it. Eat it in different orders. Mush it around in your mouth. Notice how one food explodes on your tongue and another takes a while to be fully tasted. Have fun with the food when you are hungry. Get every last ounce of pleasure out of it -- and then, if you are still hungry, go back for three more foods. Follow the same instructions. When your body has had enough food, remind yourself that you can eat again when you get hungry.

(3) Then, find another kind of nourishment, another kind of food. Another way to give yourself
pleasure. Talk to someone. Listen to someone. Play the piano. Look at the night sky. Pray.

Remember that food is everywhere, all the time, not just on our plates. Food for the eyes, for the senses, for the heart.

One last thing: May there be peace on earth; it's the only planet with egg nog.

 
We enter the holiday season with unreal expectations of gladness, blazing fires and ruddy cheeks. But when it doesn't turn out that way, we often turn to-yup, you guessed it -- food. The most painfu...
We enter the holiday season with unreal expectations of gladness, blazing fires and ruddy cheeks. But when it doesn't turn out that way, we often turn to-yup, you guessed it -- food. The most painfu...
 
 
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icapricorn
02:24 PM on 12/21/2009
Having sapphires in my pocket never worked for me. Sex with a lot of meaningless, abusive strangers always did the trick. Of course, I still felt spacey afterwards. But when you know you're about to go back out there on the meat rack and you need to look your best because sadly even drunks have standards, and purging is not something Listerine or even Old Spice can mask, you lay off the cookies. It's simply not as rewarding as making beautiful moments with whomever.
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afgail
Wise and strong.
12:46 PM on 12/21/2009
Forget the baby carrots as a means to fill up They are full of sugar and very little fiber. Before a party, eat a whole foot long carrot. It is crunchy and is loaded with fiber and most importantly, it satiates instantly.
07:56 AM on 12/21/2009
which can be very beautiful on the table but not so great in the stomach.
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msbeal
Let no neo-con lie go unchallenged
03:26 AM on 12/21/2009
The photo model is cute.
01:33 AM on 12/21/2009
I suppose wearing the horse hair shirt at table is optional.
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clearthinker2008
we need to respect each other
08:12 PM on 12/20/2009
Just let us enjoy the holidays
07:21 PM on 12/20/2009
The only ones who have to worry about "binge eating" this holiday are the CEO's and commision-paid executives of the MEGA-BANKS and Wall Street!

And I don't think anyone on Main Street cares if those crooks get heart disease from getting overweight!!!

I plan on saving my Banquet turkey TV dinner for Christmas dinner and my bottle of Welch's grape juice for New Year's Eve!!

Thanks a lot Washington, Wall Street, and Corporate America!!!!
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ramal
One's only real life is the life one never leads.
10:07 PM on 12/20/2009
Marie Callendar makes a very tasty turkey and dressing dinner and Frexinet "Champagne" is quite a good buy for the money. Go on, blow it out for the holidays.
01:03 PM on 12/21/2009
I hate them too, but you've got to let go of that one track mind. This post had nothing to do with them.
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ramal
One's only real life is the life one never leads.
07:13 PM on 12/20/2009
Better binge eating than binge drinking. Isn't this what the holidays are for? Eat up while it's there. You can always hit the apples and canned tuna after the 1st.
06:51 PM on 12/20/2009
I have no idea what the author is talking about. Why would anyone not want to overeat and drink during the holidays? I love the holidays. And I love to eat, drink, and be merry during them.

Why do Americans pay people to tell them they should feel guilty about indulging? Weird.
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clearthinker2008
we need to respect each other
08:12 PM on 12/20/2009
Me too, and I plan on indulging in all eating drinking and being merry! Every American I know are also going to enjoy that particular trio , and being American that's most folks I know. :)
handypom
yes, i know my micro is empty.
04:34 PM on 12/20/2009
too late!
03:46 PM on 12/20/2009
As I'm snowed in, am focusing on the winter wonderland beauty all around me and not my packed fridge! Thanks for the reminder.
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02:59 PM on 12/20/2009
I always eat before going to a party, and then discreetly bring my own healthy alternatives. While there, I fill up my glass with ice,water, and a spritz of lime, happily sipping and avoiding empty alcohol calories.
03:57 PM on 12/20/2009
That's a great suggestion. I never go to a party hungry either.
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huffponewbie
02:44 PM on 12/20/2009
Really? All of those words when one would suffice. How to avoid binge eating during the holidays? -- Don't.
03:58 PM on 12/20/2009
Congrats! You've never had an eating problem. This article was aimed at other people.
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PhilipB
02:41 PM on 12/20/2009
I have been experimenting with traditional recipes that incorporate heavy cream, butter and cheese and finding ways where you can use skim milk, and other low fat approaches.
Flavor is enhanced by fresh, organic ingredients and herbs. Spices such as used in Moroccan recipes enhance flavor, and you can greatly reduce salt.
Being mindful of portion size, and eating slowly helps.
Good food, lovingly prepared makes you satisfied. And take a walk every day!
:)
01:12 PM on 12/20/2009
thank you for recognizing the holiday food perils and recommending some good tactics and a mind set to help us through the season.
i hope to be mindful of this and project it thru the new year. gee- my 1st resolution!