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Gerit Quealy
Gerit Quealy currently writes on Style for NBC digital’s Life Goes Strong. She covers everything from lipstick to Shakespeare. On good days a polymath and bad days a dilettante, her pieces have ranged from dollhouses to birdhouses; beauty, brownies, and brides, for publications such as the New York Times, Country Living, Modern Bride, among others. She’s had her hand in a number of books that have pulled in former stints as a model and actor, but her overriding passion is for history, with a particular penchant for putting contemporary mores and practices in a historical context. Her wish: that other people’s spare time could be converted into rollover minutes that she could appropriate (but frequent flyer miles will do).

Entries by Gerit Quealy

Dead of Winter -- End of Life With Lightness

(2) Comments | Posted February 5, 2015 | 10:34 AM

The idiom "the dead of winter" actually holds a chilling truth: More people die in January than any other month of the year. But why should it be chilling, other than a play on the weather?

The fact is, we seem to not know how to die anymore....

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Florida Ice Skating: Cultural Compromise

(3) Comments | Posted February 14, 2014 | 10:35 AM

Culture clashes. Weather wars. North vs. South. Palm tree vs. fir tree. All families have their set of differences to navigate -- but this year, I thought I'd found an ideal compromise!

Due to our mum's fragile health, holidays mean Christmas in Florida. "I'm a cold weather girl," I grouse....

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Rethink Gift-Giving, Queen Elizabeth Style

(0) Comments | Posted January 31, 2014 | 12:04 PM

Finally, one of my favorite holiday cards arrived in the mail -- the Miller family's annual New Year's card. It's always full of the anecdotes, accomplishments and concerns of their previous year, with a focus on what they are looking forward to. I like that. And I have time to...

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How Miracles Work

(1) Comments | Posted January 9, 2014 | 10:04 PM

I couldn't tell if it was the rain or the tears. That's not true, it was clearly the rain -- because the windshield wipers weren't working! Again. Tears just compounded the problem.

The New Year had not begun well,...

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Lighthousing: Making Newtown a New Town

(3) Comments | Posted December 13, 2013 | 9:46 AM

There is a mysterious beauty to scars.

They are echoes of the magic of healing.

That magic allows the pain to heal, the wound to heal, but the scar is a lingering whisper of what caused the wound... so that it won't happen again.

No deep wound heals without...

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The Real Reason to Have Perfect Hair

(0) Comments | Posted December 9, 2013 | 9:09 PM

I was always amazed, when writing for NBC's Style Goes Strong, at how well the hair articles did. It was tough, given the constant pressure of accruing pageviews, not to cater to the seemingly insatiable quest for tress perfection. Our jobs guru, Leslie Ayres, summed it up when she said,...

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Fear, Failure and Being a Real Man

(3) Comments | Posted November 3, 2013 | 10:38 AM

I had never heard of Jimmie Briggs. But now, I'll never forget his name. I was at a TEDx talk at Barnard College on November 2, All Soul's Day as it happens. The topic: Rethinking Failure.

I'll be writing more on the overall event and some of the...

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Can We Still Call Her Kate Middleton?

(32) Comments | Posted March 1, 2013 | 1:46 PM

"For you are called plain Kate, and bonny Kate, and sometimes Kate the curst, but Kate, the prettiest Kate in Christendom..." That's from Shakespeare's "Taming of the Shrew." While Kate the curst might not be accurate for Kate Middleton, it is Kate that is at issue -- still being called...

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An Anthem for Sandy Hook

(10) Comments | Posted January 16, 2013 | 5:12 PM

Loss is made endurable by love...

It is a line I "found" in an expected place, the voiceover of the PBS series Call in the Midwife.

I was watching it with my cousin while trying to explain to her what spending most of the week in Sandy Hook, Conn.,...

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Shakespeare for Hurricane Sandy Relief

(1) Comments | Posted December 17, 2012 | 4:20 PM

"Blow, winds, and crack your cheeks! rage! blow!" Turns out Hurricane Sandy was just following King Lear's advice.

And rage she did, leaving up to $50 billion in damage in her wake -- so many areas in rubble and people trying to rebuild their homes and their...

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Coffee Bars Have Made Me Fat

(4) Comments | Posted November 28, 2012 | 2:33 PM

I think everyone would agree that, for the most part, the proliferation of coffee bars is a good thing. I mean it's better than, say, a proliferation of opium dens (although I have noticed a lot more hookah bars of late). The easy access to this rich, dark, aromatic liquid...

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Finding the Voice of Snow White -- In Search of the Greatest Speech by a Woman

(15) Comments | Posted November 19, 2012 | 12:46 PM

As the sun sets on the Twilight saga (although it is a movie about vampires, so it could be undead), a friend of mine and I discussed watching another Kristen Stewart film, Snow White and the Huntsman. I had seen it on the big screen, but wanted to see it...

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Is This the Dawn of the End of Meanness?

(1) Comments | Posted October 4, 2012 | 1:20 PM

I just learned that October is National Anti-Bullying Month. It's also Breast Cancer Awareness Month, Menopause Month, National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and a host of others, including National Squirrel Awareness Month. Given all this, it is perhaps understandable that I missed it.


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Forgotten Women: Bombs, Bombshells and Barbed Wire

(3) Comments | Posted June 14, 2012 | 3:48 PM

For women on the front lines of war, the glass ceiling is lined with barbed wire.

A few weeks ago, two female soldiers filed a suit against the Army and the Department of Defense "to end policies prohibiting women from serving in a combat role," according to the

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Curse of the Scottish Play -- the Opposite of Life

(13) Comments | Posted May 30, 2012 | 5:43 PM

Ghosts and vampires and zombies, who cares? Movies can't hurt you, but the curse of Macbeth in the theater is real.

Almost nothing makes me happier than sitting in the theater as the lights are going down at the start of a play. This past weekend it happened to be...

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Why Doesn't New York Have a Walk of Fame?

(2) Comments | Posted April 26, 2012 | 6:54 PM

The notion of a New York Walk of Fame first crossed my mind when I was putting together the slideshow on film director/producer/studio mogul/cinema visionary Alice Guy-Blache... I suggested she deserved a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. And she does. Although she didn't really work in...

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My Style Icon: Bill Cunningham and His Secret Hat Stash

(1) Comments | Posted April 18, 2012 | 3:18 PM

My shoes were killing me. Even though the Bard Graduate Center gallery where "Hats: An Anthology by Stephen Jones" was being celebrated with an opening night gala was only three floors.

On the way to the top floor, I asked the elevator operator if he would carry me....

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Twilight of the Seniors: Terms of Embezzlement

(6) Comments | Posted April 17, 2012 | 12:45 PM

They're coming for your mom, they're coming for your dad, they're coming for your elderly aunt or nice neighbor.

This last weekend saw the premiere of the documentary film Last Will and Embezzlement, a chilling account of how the senior population in this country is being vampirized.

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Sober St. Patrick's: Drunken Past, Sparkling Future

(1) Comments | Posted March 19, 2012 | 6:12 PM

The Big Question: Can St. Patrick's Day be rebranded?

I sat down with Malachy McCourt, author, actor, and arguably the godfather of the Irish American at this point, to hash out the preconceptions and misconceptions of the Irish Big Day Out. As a supporter of Sober...

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Love After 50: Lessons On Long-Term Relationships And Middle-Aged Love From Real Couples

(19) Comments | Posted February 20, 2012 | 6:55 AM

I don't mind fairy tales. I like them actually. But not the watered down, commercialized, PC-corrected, gutless ones.

The real, original stories in all their gritty, rough-and-tumble glory are rich with real life. They are stories of the soul. Ask psychologists such as Bruno Betelheim or

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