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Gloria Horsley

Entries by Gloria Horsley

Death and Friends: Unacknowledged Grief

(5) Comments | Posted April 23, 2015 | 6:42 PM

Mondays are exciting days for me. Some people dread Monday as the start of a new workweek, or even get a "case of the Mondays." But Mondays are my favorite day of the week, because it is the day that my daughter, Heidi, and I interview amazing people who have...

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Death in India: 8 Things to Help You Deal With Unresolved Grief

(7) Comments | Posted March 19, 2015 | 11:55 AM

I've always wanted to visit India and had an opportunity last month when my husband and I spent two weeks touring Rajasthan, the largest state in northern India. We started with the majestic Taj Mahal, located in Agra. The Taj, as it is commonly known, was commissioned in 1632 by...

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Grief: 6 Reasons to Give Yourself a Hall Pass

(0) Comments | Posted February 26, 2015 | 4:21 PM

After your loss have you sometimes wished you lived in another time, where those who were grieving were excused from social commitments for up to a year? Imagine, no pressure to attend family gatherings, or go to friends' engagement parties or baby showers for a year following a death. No...

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Thanksgiving When You Don't Feel Thankful: 6 Helpful Tips

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2014 | 9:21 AM

Thanksgiving is a time when we join with friends and family to express gratitude for all that we have. Indeed for our bounty. But what if you are missing a beloved family member at your table? What if your daughter suddenly died in her sleep the day before graduating from...

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Cleaning Out a Deceased Loved One's Closet: 12 Tips to Make the Process a Little Easier

(2) Comments | Posted October 30, 2014 | 2:30 PM

Preparation and pacing can help make the unbearable task of sorting a deceased loved one's belongings possible. Before you begin the process, you will want to gather your supplies. Plenty of boxes labeled "Keep," "Discard/Trash," and "Donate," permanent markers, gloves, and garbage bags. You will want to ask friends to...

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Tips for When Your Widowed Parent Begins to Date

(1) Comments | Posted October 8, 2014 | 2:03 PM

Remember how much you cared whether your parents liked your high school boyfriend or girlfriend? That is exactly how much your widowed parent (and his or her significant other) care whether or not you approve of their relationship--not at all. This can be a difficult truth when you've

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September 11 and Coping With Emotional Milestones

(0) Comments | Posted September 10, 2014 | 4:41 PM

I was recently talking with a young man about his 9/11 experience. I told him that I had worked on a Columbia University research project with the widows and families of the firefighters and how impressed I had been with their resilience and courage. Robert then told me...

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Joan Rivers, Grieving and Laughter: 4 Tips for Healing after a Loss

(1) Comments | Posted September 4, 2014 | 8:54 PM

I can't believe that Joan Rivers is dead. As someone who has worked in the intensive care unit, I fully expected her to recover and to come out with great stories and jokes about her experience with the healthcare system. She had an indomitable spirit, lifting us up in some...

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5 Tips for Dealing with a Natural Death of a Family Member

(1) Comments | Posted August 29, 2014 | 10:51 AM

Little did I know that today I would be moved to write a second blog on celebrity loss. Earlier in the day I penned an article on the tragic deaths of Robin Williams and Philip Seymour Hoffman, only to read hours later on my iPhone that legendary actress...

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10 Tips on Helping Teenagers and Young Adults Cope With a Death in the Family

(2) Comments | Posted August 18, 2014 | 10:30 PM

Our grandson, Ryan, an eigth grader, told me last night that he will have football practice the entire month of August. The comment tugged at my heart and reminded me of another era. It seems like only yesterday that our son, Scott, was working out with his team, getting ready...

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8 Things You Can Do to Take Care of Yourself After a Celebrity Loss

(2) Comments | Posted August 13, 2014 | 11:09 AM

The death of actor, comedian and academy award winner Robin Williams by suicide after a battle with depression and alcohol abuse has taken me back to several months ago when we were mourning the death of another American icon, actor Phillip Seymour Hoffman, who died of...

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Spousal Death Cause Power Outage: 25 Ways to Amp Up Your Power

(0) Comments | Posted August 11, 2014 | 10:18 AM

In the past two years my brother-in-law and brother both died. It has been interesting to see how my sister-in-laws have responded to the death of their spouses. Of course it has been difficult and very sad for all of us, but looking at it from a family systems perspective...

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Malaysia Airlines Tragedy: Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder -- 10 Tips for Recovery

(0) Comments | Posted July 18, 2014 | 12:55 AM

A few months ago I played golf with a friend whose sister was killed on Pan Am Flight 103, which was destroyed by a terrorist bomb on December 21, 1988, killing all 243 passengers. Although it had been 26 years since her sister died the loss of the...

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How Are Baby Boomers Handling the Death of Their Parents?

(1) Comments | Posted June 25, 2014 | 1:52 PM

America's 76 million Baby Boomers are losing 4,900 of their parents every day. A surprising statistic, which explains why the number one search at Open to Hope is "Death of a Parent." How are the Boomers handling the death of their cheerleading parents? Wikipedia describes Baby Boomers as...

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11 Things to Do This Mothers Day to 'Mother Yourself'

(0) Comments | Posted May 9, 2014 | 3:20 PM

If I could use one word to describe my feelings about Mother's Day it would be ambivalent. When I was a child I loved the day because it gave me an opportunity to honor my very special mom. My mother died many years ago, but if she were...

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Death and Mourning on the Easter Holiday

(0) Comments | Posted April 19, 2014 | 12:01 PM

Holidays can be bitter-sweet as they remind us of our loved ones and the special times we had together. Thirty years ago, Easter took on a sad note for our family with the death of our son Scott, killed in an automobile accident one minute before Easter. As a Christian,...

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Flight 370: Culture and Grief

(0) Comments | Posted March 26, 2014 | 12:00 AM

During the past several weeks Malaysia Flight 370 has been missing, I have heard a number of psychotherapists interviewed about what the Chinese majority of families are going through. Most therapists interviewed have been Caucasian Americans. While in the psychotherapy world of which I am a member, there is emphasis...

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Darcie Sims: Nationally Recognized Grief Expert Passes Away

(0) Comments | Posted March 4, 2014 | 1:44 PM

Darcie D. Sims, Ph.D. was a bereaved parent, grief management specialist and nationally recognized grief expert. She died unexpectedly in Puyallup, Washington on Friday, Feb. 28, 2014.

Darcie Sims was a dear friend of ours and one of a kind. She never ceased to amaze me. First...

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Philip Seymour Hoffman Grief Relief

(0) Comments | Posted February 6, 2014 | 3:26 PM

Philip Seymour Hoffman was one of my favorite actors. I was shocked and distressed by his death, and welcomed the opportunity on Tuesday to be a guest on HuffPost Live to participate in a discussion on celebrity loss.

The show was hosted by Caroline Modarressy-Tehrani and included Reverend Robert...

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Father's Day: A Different Kind of Dad

(0) Comments | Posted June 16, 2013 | 8:51 AM

Although my dad died in 1985 at the age of 76 I think of him often and the richness he brought into my life. I have vivid memories of the smell of his after-shave lotion as I sat on his lap reading the Sunday funnies. I remember the Teddy bears...

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