We tend to rush everything that we desire without letting it simmer long enough. Many people rush their want for a relationship without even giving themselves enough time to get to know the person. Not only that, they don't even know who they are themselves. You must take the time to be alone to figure things out and figure YOU out!
With some forethought and fortitude (and, yes, a little flexibility), you can regain some of that child-like spirit this holiday season.
A personal relationship is so much more than its transactional aspects. And we are wise when we put that part of the relationship in its place, relegating it to a lower level of significance. We can instead work to cultivate a more mutual generosity and trust.
At work, we show up 100 percent, are on time, are responsible, are proactive and intentional. Then, when we get home, we bring what Perel calls, "the leftovers". We're exhausted, we're on autopilot and even flat out lazy. No wonder desire and intimacy is dwindling with this way of showing up.
A daily practice of meditation pulled me through negotiating a term sheet with investors despite not having raised money before, to overcoming my very real anxiety around public speaking, as well as the highs and lows of building a startup you hope millions of people will love.
Starting is the hardest part, then consistency. Take the leap to start then consciously choose to make good decisions that benefit you, and your goals.
The less I judge myself, and the less energy I spend trying to manage and shape myself, the more I get to experience the truth of who I am. It seems the more I relax and let go, the more easily I get over myself and experience my formless nature.
It's true that there is so much that's worth appreciating, but sometimes we seem to let the daily minutiae of our lives get out of hand and, in the end, end up feeling like events pass us by on fast-forward. And that's when a balanced home life would be most beneficial.
These eight strategies really helped me this year when I was lost and low and extremely out of flow. With the silly season nearly here I'd like to share these with you so that if you are feeling worried, anxious, exhausted or simply out of sorts you can delve into them, to help you shift some of that lost-ness.
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