Here are the 10 most common happiness mistakes:
- Delaying doing something important until you have some "free time," because you may never have any free time.
- Retreating into isolation when you're unhappy.
- Neglecting to make a small change because you think a big change is necessary.
- Refusing to consider a big change because you assume you can only make a small change.
- "Treating" yourself to something you wouldn't ordinarily permit yourself, because you're feeling blue.
- Postponing something important until you're feeling healthier, or thinner, or married, or whatever.
- Thinking that you can "make" someone else be happy.
- Imagining that what's true for other people is true for you.
- Spending too much time, or not enough time, thinking about the past, present or future.
- Ignoring the truth about your own temperament, interests and aptitudes.
I had an eleventh mistake, but my computer didn't save the document properly, and now I can't remember what else I'd added. Very annoying. What have I overlooked? Wait! I just thought of another: Thinking about everything you don't have, instead of everything you do have. But that wasn't the one that I forgot...
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