10 Common Happiness Mistakes

11/29/2010 10:26 pm ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

Here are the 10 most common happiness mistakes:

  1. Delaying doing something important until you have some "free time," because you may never have any free time.
  2. Retreating into isolation when you're unhappy.
  3. Neglecting to make a small change because you think a big change is necessary.
  4. Refusing to consider a big change because you assume you can only make a small change.
  5. "Treating" yourself to something you wouldn't ordinarily permit yourself, because you're feeling blue.
  6. Postponing something important until you're feeling healthier, or thinner, or married, or whatever.
  7. Thinking that you can "make" someone else be happy.
  8. Imagining that what's true for other people is true for you.
  9. Spending too much time, or not enough time, thinking about the past, present or future.
  10. Ignoring the truth about your own temperament, interests and aptitudes.

I had an eleventh mistake, but my computer didn't save the document properly, and now I can't remember what else I'd added. Very annoying. What have I overlooked? Wait! I just thought of another: Thinking about everything you don't have, instead of everything you do have. But that wasn't the one that I forgot...


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