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7 Laws of Fearless Living

Posted: 05/07/2012 8:00 pm

Don't believe what the spiritual sharks and clever carnival hustlers tell you about fearless living -- they lie. But you already sense the truth of this, or you wouldn't still be looking for ways to escape those everyday fears that stalk your happiness like a lion does the unwary gazelle.

The deepest parts of you know that if freedom from fear was as easy as "creating a new reality" for yourself, then you would already be the fearless person you know in your heart that you're meant to be. It's just not that easy... which brings us to a great liberating truth, an insight you must prove to yourself before you can know its power to dismantle any fear.

When it comes to the fearless life, the divine gives nothing freely... save to those who freely give themselves to discovering the truth about their own fearless selves. The good news is that this supreme confidence and calm already lives within you, needing only your realization of its unshakable presence in order to empower you with the fearlessness you seek.

The following seven laws are like a golden invitation to your own coronation. To "open" each one and receive its royal instruction about how to live free of fear, you need do only one thing: Ask sincerely that you might understand its secret message, and then, when the answer comes, welcome those insights as long-lost friends -- for that is exactly what they are. They will do the rest for you.

  1. When you know that what you're looking for is what you already are -- and not what you may become -- you stand on the threshold of fearless living.
  2. No psychological fear exists without negative imagination.
  3. When it comes to fear, the feel is real... but the "why" is a lie.
  4. You cannot change one thing about times past or the fears that belong to old regrets, but you can be in a different relationship with what is happening to you right now -- and that changes everything!
  5. Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.
  6. Your experience of any moment -- good or bad, calm or conflicted -- is a direct reflection of your understanding about it. This means that the only thing that frightens you about any event is what you've yet to understand about yourself.
  7. The universe itself is actually set up for you to succeed with realizing the fearless life, which means that you are made for whatever happens to you!

Now to these seven laws, let's add three additional facts that will help prove the possibility of a fearless life. Taken alone, each of the following statements supplies insight into the seemingly impenetrable darkness that surrounds any fear. Taken altogether, these bright new facts reveal a whole new understanding that penetrates fear's protective shell, dispelling both the feared and the fearful at once. The light that remains is freedom.

We can either spend our lives struggling to protect ourselves from our fears -- which is the general existence of the unconscious masses -- or we can learn how to use our lives to discover that, in reality, there is no self to fear, and that the shaky world perceived by this shadow-self is but its own unreal shadow. The good news is that it's possible to learn so much about the nature of fear that one day, it simply runs out of ways to make you believe in its shaking.

No fact is frightening unless it runs into conflict with what you want. When this happens, the fear is not in the event, but in you -- who have decided that in order to feel secure, life must jump through your hoop. The fear you feel is in your hoop, not in the fact that life may have jumped unexpectedly.

Last but by no means least of these fear-busting ideas is this final fact and implied action: It is in your power to discover that who you really are has nothing to fear, but that you make yourself fearful each time you look outside of yourself for some power to make you feel fearless.

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09:39 AM on 05/13/2012
I think there is some confusion here between "fear" and "anxiety". Fear can be healthy, a natural reaction to a potential threat and can be overcome (this is called "courage"). Anxiety lingers and it's mostly unhealthy and quite often rooted and maintained irrationally.
As for: "1.When you know that what you're looking for is what you already are -- and not what you may become -- you stand on the threshold of fearless living":
I think the basis for change is the ability to say "no, I do not accept this". How can one improve oneself or others if one merely accepts things as they are? Accepting things one cannot change can be overcoming fear ("courage" again) but that is not fearless living. It could lead to a fuller and fulfilling life but that fear is necessary as well.
01:33 PM on 05/14/2012
Thank you for your insight. I think the distinction between fear and anxiety is a very good point.
10:05 PM on 05/12/2012
wow, what a bunch of pessimistic, judgmental commenters.
09:39 PM on 05/10/2012
I think the Zen take would be that fear is perceiving the risk of loss of something you value highly.
This is a big problem because many losses - for example youth, health, looks, and life itself, are inevitable.
And, being a social animal other losses such as reputation, prestige, love, admiration, acceptance, usefulness, appreciation or just tolerance can hurt as much or more.
Such things are not trivial and can not be avoided or overcome by trivial means.
They would say that, relief from suffering only comes from ceasing to cling to those things - a heroic task and not without side effects.
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Be afraid!
11:17 PM on 05/07/2012
Nothing to fear but "self" itself! I like it.
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f0rTyLeGz
Everything is falling.
10:21 PM on 05/07/2012
I can tell you have it all figured out.
09:17 PM on 05/07/2012
Your number one is really the key not only to fearless living but also to peaceful living. It's about accepting who we are, loving ourselves the way we are, accepting that life can turn out not the way we want, but we are still ok, we are good.
thanks.
02:43 PM on 05/07/2012
This is way more "buy my crystals" than "eye of tiger".
10:09 AM on 05/07/2012
Ludicrous. Do you want to find a place full of people, who at least momentarily, overcame their fear of shame and consequences? Check out a prison. Decent people are afraid of a lot of things:
-Not doing their fair share.
-Letting the team down.
-Looking like an anal aperture.
-Bringing shame by association to people they care about.
-Hurting others for merely selfish reasons.
People act heroically because they are afraid that others might suffer. To truly act with "no fear", you have to take empathy out of the equation. Like in everything else, the good person seeks balance.
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03:57 PM on 05/06/2012
this might come across as shallow, but i feel ill in my stomach because you wrote this.

see the world does not revolve around you:

here, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/05/sahar-gul-afghanistan-child-bride_n_1483610.html

here, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/06/finding-nimo-a-rap-stars-_n_1490643.html

&here, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/06/russia-protest-march-arrests_n_1489596.html
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01:25 PM on 05/06/2012
This is so New Age I am typing this more than thirty three hours before the article will be posted.
03:01 AM on 05/06/2012
It's great to help and be supportive of people in their quest to live good lives, but please don't throw around words like "divine" (there is nothing divine or not divine), and childish concepts like "the universe is actually set up to help you succeed". There is no "set up", there is only randomness, and whatever you may believe success to be, it will happen or not or not based on a combination of events brought forth by accidents of birth and successive choices and occurrences.
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09:05 AM on 05/09/2012
accidents of birth?
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Two 'alves of coconut!
07:18 AM on 05/05/2012
I've got some fears. Fear of drunk/distracted drivers. I think it's justified. Fear (manageable) of strangers. You don't know what's going through people's heads, and sometimes, finding out just increases the fear, depending on the situation. Fear of heights. Gravity sucks and so does that sudden stop at the end. Fear of getting inextricably sucked into other people's B.S.(see: fear of strangers). Fear of making mistakes. There's not an 'undo' button on life, and sometimes, it's all about the unintended consequences. Fear of strange dogs(see: strangers). Fear of lightning. Static happens. Fear of the ocean. I don't have gills, or three rows of teeth. I could probably come up with more, but to sum up, I think there are some things in life that should be respected, if not feared. Fear is part of survival in this world, and to blithely assume that everything will be ok, no matter what, is to let yourself in to complacency, and effectively, reckless behavior. What you don't know, CAN hurt you, so maybe it's better to learn about the world as best you can, and make your choices accordingly. You can't cower under the bed for the rest of your life, the dust bunnies WILL get you eventually, but you can go through life with eyes open and try and at least be situationally aware.
12:08 PM on 05/06/2012
I'm afraid of bunnies. Thanks a lot.
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I want my country forward!
03:28 PM on 05/07/2012
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screw the real world-I'm an artist!
04:14 AM on 05/05/2012
Fear is so often a reaction. To lose your fear, live a non-reactive life as much as possible. A lot of our reactions are fed by past impressions and experiences that we have not processed properly or simply gotten rid of. The Buddhists say 'It is not necessary to react, just respond'
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08:52 AM on 05/09/2012
but how do you learn to not have feared in the past if your experiences shape the way you react to what is happening to you now, even if you did process it correctly or hold it only as an impression or a notion? isnt it kind of futile to resist fear after you have the experience of it? i mean what is the gain from denying that i could happen again, or even knowing that it wont?
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screw the real world-I'm an artist!
09:44 PM on 05/09/2012
One cannot change how one reacted in the past, but one can decide to be mindful of the now.Each day we have the power to decide how we will deal with what crosses our path-it is not necessary to be chained to how we dealt with things in the past. Being mindful and aware and in control of our emotions are among the methods available. Some truly believe that their emotions are things that are happening to them & that they have little or no control over them. Others (like myself) believe that we set up deep inside our mind images of how things ought to be...then, when things differ from that image we get upset. Which defies the popular myth that other people can 'make' us feel anger or fear. Instead, it is our own set of control issues that informs the fluctuations of our moods. When we remain aware of this, we can take charge of our emotions and deal with stressful events in a proactive, rather than reactive, manner.