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Guy Winch, Ph.D.
Guy Winch Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, speaker, and author whose books have been translated into 14 languages. He received his Ph.D. from New York University in 1991 and has a private practice in Manhattan. His first book, The Squeaky Wheel (Bloomsbury, 2011) explored the psychology behind a universal habit—complaining. In his second book, Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts (Hudson Street Press, 2014) he breaks down the emotional wounds we sustain from common psychological experiences and spells out easy-to-use treatments we can apply to heal. His advice is always backed up by peer-reviewed scientific findings and his books feature extensive note sections. Further, his years performing stand-up comedy infuse his storytelling with generous doses of humor and wit, and make his suggestions, relatable, compelling, and entertaining, as well as highly practical. His writing has been featured on,, Psychology and other national media outlets.

Entries by Guy Winch, Ph.D.

How My Twin Brother's Battle With Cancer Inspired My TEDx Talk About Psychological Health

(2) Comments | Posted December 3, 2014 | 2:10 PM

When the organizers of the TEDx at Linnaeus University in Sweden asked me to give a talk about "How to Practice Emotional Hygiene," I wasn't surprised. I had just published a book about how to heal common psychological wounds such as failure and rejection and so my work...

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The Secret to Dealing With Chronic Complainers

(1) Comments | Posted July 7, 2014 | 6:16 PM

Optimists believe the glass is half full; pessimists believe the glass is half empty; chronic complainers believe the water is tepid, the glass has a smudge and wait, is that a streak on the side because I just got new dish washing detergent that isn't supposed to leave streaks, so...

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Sexual Rejection From Your Partner Damages Your Self-Esteem

(0) Comments | Posted June 30, 2014 | 7:32 PM

Do any of these this sound familiar?

You finally have a romantic night out with your spouse or partner but they drink too much and fall asleep on the bed as soon as you get home.

You're on vacation and away from the stresses of daily life but your...

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A Simple Mind Trick That Will Help You Manage Stress

(0) Comments | Posted May 12, 2014 | 2:13 PM

In a Seinfeld episode titled "The Jimmy," the character of George finds himself in a stressful situation and starts speaking in the third person: "George is getting upset!" He might have been on to something.

Researchers from the University of Michigan explored how we use self-talk...

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Got Rejected? How You Respond Can Damage Your Emotional Health

(2) Comments | Posted May 7, 2014 | 4:23 PM

Getting rejected hurts -- a lot! We usually compare rejections to what it feels like to sustain a physical assault (e.g., 'a punch in the stomach,' 'a stab in the heart,' or 'a slap in the face') and for good reason. Recent studies using fMRI brain scans demonstrate...

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5 Ways Brooding Can Lead to Depression

(1) Comments | Posted April 17, 2014 | 9:48 AM

Brooding (also known as rumination) is defined by a habitual focus on distressing feelings and the events that caused them. You might replay the time your boss insulted you in a meeting making you feel angry and embarrassed, you might replay the conversation you had with your romantic partner they...

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5 Critical Ways Loss Disrupts Our Lives

(0) Comments | Posted March 23, 2014 | 12:23 PM

We sustain emotional wounds in our daily lives as often as we do physical ones. Experiences such as rejection, failure, guilt or loneliness can cause psychological injuries that damage our moods, self-worth and at times, even our basic functioning. And the most disruptive emotional injury we sustain is loss.

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5 Surprising Tricks Guilt Can Play on Your Mind

(0) Comments | Posted March 5, 2014 | 8:16 AM

The purpose of guilty feelings is to alert you when you've done or are about to do something that might cause harm or distress to another person. You can then avoid the action in question or make up for your wrongdoing with apologies or gestures of atonement. As such, guilt...

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Hate Receiving Compliments? You Might Have low Self-Esteem

(1) Comments | Posted February 14, 2014 | 2:32 PM

Although most people enjoy receiving praise, some of us bristle when we hear compliments, and a few of us downright hate them. One of the biggest factors determining whether we turn sour at the first hint of positive feedback is our self-esteem.

Many of us are more likely to...

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Why Facebook and Twitter Make Us Feel Rejected

(11) Comments | Posted February 1, 2014 | 10:51 AM

We face a gauntlet of rejection all around us. Our colleagues go to lunches without us; family members forget our birthdays; spouses rebuff our sexual advances; neighbors don't invite us to their barbecues; and friends don't include us in their weekend plans. It used to be hard enough to get...

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5 Tips for Improving a Lonely Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted January 13, 2014 | 4:13 PM

Although it seems counterintuitive, many people are both married and lonely. Indeed, loneliness is determined by the subjective quality of your relationships not their objective quantity, or by whether you happen to be living with a spouse.

Lonely marriages develop slowly; the disconnection increases incrementally over years. You no...

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5 Common New Year's Resolution Mistakes and How to Fix Them

(3) Comments | Posted December 26, 2013 | 10:43 AM

Every new year we make a list of resolutions, hoping to better ourselves and our lives, only to abandon our efforts entirely by Feb. 1 (if not by Jan. 2). Such failures are not mere disappointments, as they can create emotional wounds that impact our psychological well-being. Indeed, too often...

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What Your Emotional Health Has in Common With Cinderella

(0) Comments | Posted December 18, 2013 | 3:49 PM

How much do you care about your emotional health, your life satisfaction, and your happiness? You might think you care about these things, that they are important to you, and that you pay attention to them -- but your actions probably say otherwise.

Allow me to prove it to...

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The Secret to Attaining Personal Empowerment

(1) Comments | Posted December 6, 2013 | 8:12 AM

We tend to equate personal empowerment with a subjective emotion -- the feeling of being empowered. Yet personal empowerment, by its very definition, is not something one feels but rather something one demonstrates. To be empowered is to have actual influence within any of the many spheres of our lives....

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5 Tips for Minimizing Family Tensions Over Thanksgiving

(1) Comments | Posted November 21, 2013 | 6:22 PM

Family gatherings over the holidays usually involve heightened emotions of all kinds. Such events might begin with an atmosphere of joy, connection, love and caring but they don't always end on the same note. Unwelcome guests in the form of simmering tensions, long-standing frustrations, guilt-trips, rejections, slights and other hurt...

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How Humor Eases Parenting Anxieties

(2) Comments | Posted November 5, 2013 | 5:40 PM

The incredible joy new parents feel is often rivaled only by their fear of doing something wrong. Studies found that "failure," "performing well," and wondering "what is normal?" are key preoccupations for new parents and feeling exhausted and overwhelmed creates fertile ground upon which such anxieties can easily...

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5 Common Habits That Damage Your Emotional Health

(1) Comments | Posted October 24, 2013 | 10:25 PM

When we think of unhealthy habits, items such as cigarette smoking, midnight snacking or a sedentary lifestyle are often the first that come to mind. Yet, many of our unhealthiest habits are not behavioral but psychological in nature. Unhealthy psychological habits tend to fly beneath our radars either because we're...

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The 4 Keys to Learning From Failure

(5) Comments | Posted October 10, 2013 | 9:46 AM

Failure is supposed to be a great teacher. But if that's true, why are so many of us unable to acquire the knowledge this "great teacher" has to impart? Why do we keep failing?

The problem is failure might be a great teacher, but it is also a cryptic...

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A Simple Self-Esteem Boost That Improves Emotional Strength

(1) Comments | Posted September 19, 2013 | 5:15 PM

Our self-esteem is far from stable. It fluctuates day to day and sometimes hour to hour. Getting praise from our boss, completing our first 5K run, or acing an exam will make our self-esteem go up, while failing to stick to our new diet, getting turned down for a promotion,...

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Loneliness Is a Silent Killer

(8) Comments | Posted September 12, 2013 | 12:08 PM

Despite living in an era of unprecedented potential for human connection (e.g., the internet, social media and mobile phones), estimates are that 40 percent of adults over the age of 65 will experience loneliness. Indeed, the 2010 U.S. Census found that 27 percent of households in...

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