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Success Tips: Push Past Your Fear!

Posted: 09/02/2012 10:00 am

Most of us would love to be more successful, yet we often feel stuck at our current level of success or feel that just getting by is always going to be the way we live our lives. We watch the news and see the statistics about what is going on in the world, and we can feel there is not much we can do to truly change our fortune.

No matter your current level of success, there are ways for you to eliminate the internal blocks holding you back from living life more fully, as opposed to watching life pass you by.

We all share common blocks. Just by seeing that these blocks are only thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, you can let them go and start to break free. If you allow yourself to do even a little conscious exploration of these apparent obstacles, you can discover that nothing can truly hold you back unless you allow it.

The following are the four most common inner obstacles to success:

1) Giving Up Before You Have Even Started
It is important to learn from our past successes and failures; however, most of us let them dictate what we attempt and how we approach the possibility of success. We often do not even try to move forward if the circumstances mirror past situations we feel we have not mastered. This all results in us backing through life rather than moving forward with open hearts and minds. We avoid the new and keep repeating the same strategies that have either failed or brought mediocrity in the past, while hoping for a different result.

2) Letting Fear Decide
We often let our fears, doubts, and anxieties decide for us how to succeed without checking to see if they are true. A friend told me that great adage: FEAR equals False Evidence Appearing Real. If we challenge the validity of our fears, we can discover that most are either completely unfounded, highly exaggerated, or can be easily overcome. Fear is just a feeling that we can let go of if we choose. When we stop letting our fear dictate what we can or cannot do, we find all sorts of new possibilities opening up.

3) Following the Herd
Most of us live life following the herd. We are like lemmings following our brethren off the cliff. The news and our friends tell us times are rough, and we earnestly believe them and act accordingly. Yet even in the worst of times, some people are still succeeding and even thriving. This is not to say that you ignore facts and pretend all is well when it is not. You simply examine the facts with clear reason and openness to your intuitive knowingness and discover what is true for you. When you allow yourself to challenge conventional beliefs about the state of the world, you can start to uncover the opportunities that are here for you right now.

4) Allowing Yourself To Be Sold
We are being sold all the time (even by ourselves), and when we buy the latest pitch, it can sometimes have disastrous results. When we buy the pitch of others, we often spend money we do not have. We can also start to feel like we are not enough or do not have enough, even when the opposite is obviously true. When we sell ourselves, we can plunge blindly into bad investments and stay with bad career choices long past the time that we should be covering our losses or changing our directions. In both cases, we feed our lust by imagining how great it would be for things to turn out well while ignoring all the signs that things are going in the opposite direction.

All four of these common blocks are not as real as they appear. By being open to this understanding, you will start letting them go.

Here's a process you can use to go beyond these blocks. I also recommend that you find your own tools, techniques, and perspectives to help you find your way.

  1. Allow yourself to think of how any one of the four blocks is affecting your success right now. (You can repeat this on all four blocks as well any others.)
  2. In this moment, can you simply allow yourself to welcome whatever thoughts, feelings, or beliefs this brings into awareness? In other words, just stop fighting for a moment and notice what is actually here now.
  3. Could you allow yourself to welcome all of your desire to fix or change this and all of your desire to do something with or about this? Note that I am not saying that you should not take appropriate action -- this is simply welcoming the energy that may be in the way.
  4. Could you welcome any sense that this is personal -- about you or who or what you are? I know it feels personal. I'm not asking you deny that. I'm suggesting that if we welcome how personal we've made this apparent block, we can see beyond the personal to what is your highest and best good in this moment.
  5. Could you allow yourself to welcome your intuitive knowingness and clear reason and invite this inner power to lead you to a solution? You can also ask yourself: What is the simplest or most outrageous action you can take right now to move beyond this block? The more we open to our own clear reason and knowingness, the more likely we are to find real, lasting solutions.
  6. Now allow yourself to get into any constructive action.

As we allow ourselves to move beyond our blocks to success, we can start to find creative and intelligent ways to allow more success into our lives and the lives of those we care about. There are always more possibilities than it may seem if you are open to them.

Please comment below to let me know how you are using this material to support yourself in your life.

This free recording will guide you through the above process and some other processes that will help you to eliminate your blocks to success. Enjoy!

This post is based on the principles explored in the new movie Letting Go: Transform Your Life, Transform the World. It is the culmination of over three decades of experience with a simple, powerful, elegant and easy-to-learn technique that shows you how to tap your natural ability to let go instantaneously of any uncomfortable or unwanted feeling, thought or belief. For more information, visit www.LettingGo.tv or Sedona.com.

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08:18 AM on 09/08/2012
I just woke up and the first thing I am doing is reading this article. It is a wonderful and powerful one.
Letting go of the four most common inner obstacles and welcoming our intuitive knowingness is the key for lasting happiness.
Thank you Hale.
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Hale Dwoskin
01:38 PM on 09/08/2012
jgoldi,
Better than a cup of coffee :) I am glad it was helpful.
Love,
Hale
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themightyabealrd
screw the real world-I'm an artist!
10:07 PM on 09/04/2012
Throughout life, we build mental structures that define our abilities & limitations....it's important to question their validity & to identify those which are informed by irrational fears. Assumptions are just that, assumptions. And like the old saying goes, 'When you assume, you make and 'ass' out of 'u' and 'me'.'
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Hale Dwoskin
02:53 PM on 09/05/2012
themightyabeaird,
I agree. We assume we have all sorts of limitations that are just not real.
Love,
Hale
Ana4
neutrino alert, just passing through
10:02 PM on 09/04/2012
Wonderful article! If there is one thing needed in the world it is to transform fear into Love.
Ana4
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10:18 PM on 09/04/2012
Let that read: dissolve fear and open the heart to love.
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Hale Dwoskin
01:38 PM on 09/06/2012
Ana4,
I think it works both ways :)
Love,
Hale
PS. Love is always here right under the fear and it reveals itself as the fear dissolves.
iflew
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04:43 PM on 09/04/2012
I was wasting time reading articles and writing comments when I saw your article. Thank you for your article, I should be creating a prototype product instead of writing wierdo comments. Thanks for the reminder.
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Hale Dwoskin
02:54 PM on 09/05/2012
iflew,
Enjoy creating your new prototype :)
Love,
Hale
iflew
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07:01 PM on 09/05/2012
Thanks. If it works maybe we can make jobs, and use less fossil energy.
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budanatr
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08:22 AM on 09/04/2012
Thank you Hale.

I have found that disassociating from fear and seeing it for what it really is is a wonderful exercise. I use these meditations... http://www.jonshore.net/inspirationaltapes.html. When we discover that fear is not who we are we are left with something quite amazing and real.
04:26 AM on 09/04/2012
One of my main fears in life, is public speaking. Always avoiding these situations has made me miss lots of opportunities. But am working on it, and your pointers are helpful.
On another front, I decided to write a blog some time ago, but was internally talking myself out of doing it. A while ago a friend told me to just do it ! Taking the plunge, I stared writing my blog, and am loving it. As usual, I ask myself why I did not do it sooner ?
Biggi
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11:01 AM on 09/04/2012
public speech affects lots of people. Emotional Freedom Techniques come from Chinese Chi Kung. By gently tapping the meridians throughout your body, blockage of emotional energy or Chi is released.

EFT intro
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6i33V2EcVlY

Release fear
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WIOxO12lFOA&feature=related

you have a negative self talk program internally. Replace it with a different program that is positive and constructive.

http://www.effectivelearning.com/shop/category/by-category/
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Hale Dwoskin
01:40 PM on 09/04/2012
Rosys,
EFT and The Sedona Method work hand in hand.
Thanks for your post.
Love,
Hale
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Hale Dwoskin
01:38 PM on 09/04/2012
Simplyburgenland,
As you let go of your fear you will discover that is totally safe to speak in front of groups. I used to be shy and now I routinely and enjoyably speak to thousands.
Love,
Hale
Ana4
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09:55 PM on 09/04/2012
Thanks for the article, and this comment to the blogger above. I've been wondering how to get past such fears. I've just started doing EFT.
03:44 AM on 09/05/2012
Thank you Dale, for your reply. I will give it a bash. There is an event coming up this month...hold thumbs.
Thank you again.
Biggi
http://www.simplyburgenland.blogspot.com
02:26 AM on 09/04/2012
Thank you this is a terrific post and practical release which have already put to use!!. Posted here the other day but mustnt have been loged in.... things are looking up...amen, and thanks again... !!
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Hale Dwoskin
01:38 PM on 09/04/2012
Kate,
Thanks for sharing and for reading and for being who you are.
Love,
Hale
09:56 PM on 09/02/2012
FEAR might also be viewed as Future Events Appearing Real because our fears are so often triggered by all the "what ifs" and "what could happens" that our imaginations so readily conjure. However, I do feel that letting go of fear often takes more than just "choosing to let it go." I share ways in which to effectively defuse our fears in my my book and writings about letting go of control. One very effective way is through a worse case scenario exercise based on what we can do if our "what ifs" actually happen. In most instances, there are viable options available to us even under the most dire of circumstances and once we realize that, we can more easily let go of our fear.

Danny
www.losingcontrolfindingserenity.com
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Hale Dwoskin
02:17 PM on 09/03/2012
Danny,
Thanks for your comments. Yes picturing your worst fears and then letting go is very powerful indeed. However, letting go in my experience is always possible and always a choice. All fears is based on what was and what might be. It is never about what is. When even our worst fears are happening right now we deal with what is as best we can.
Love,
Hale
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Toogee
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12:24 PM on 09/02/2012
Overcoming fear is a wonderful tool in being able to live a more satisfying life. BUT a little fear now and again can serve a wonderful purpose. At times it can help us to multiply the sensation of FEELING more alive than we normally do.
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Hale Dwoskin
02:19 PM on 09/03/2012
Toogee,
Fear is just energy and can be enjoyed like any other energy as long as we feel that we can let it go safely and effectively. All energy is welcomed here!
Love,
Hale