Spring has sprung and love is in the air. I'm reminded of the marriage vows that two young people said out loud to each other last April in front of their community of family and friends -- vows so lovely that I opened my book, "Marriage Rules," with...

How you talk and listen defines how your marriage goes and whether or not your partner is happy to see you at the end of the day. It comes as no surprise that most of us are more motivated to improve our talking skills than to attend to the other...

January has a bad rap for both low temperatures and high divorce filings. But January also inspires New Year's resolutions and fresh starts. Here's how you can give your relationship the best chance of succeeding. If you're not one to make New Year's resolutions, just think of what follows as...

If you're married to an entrenched non-apologizer, it won't help to doggedly demand one. Some folks lack the self-esteem required to take responsibility for their less than honorable behaviors, feel remorse, and offer a heartfelt apology. And many people are so hard on themselves for the mistakes they make, they...

A cartoon tacked up in my therapy consulting room shows a dog and a cat in bed together. The dog is looking morose and reading a book called "Dogs who Love too Much."
The cat is saying, "I'm not distancing! I'm a cat, damn it!"

I love this cartoon,...