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Congressman Weiner and Sexting Amongst Friends

Posted: 06/ 7/11 11:35 AM ET

We like to warn our children about many things and lately sexting has been on the top of the list. We caution against it, put applications in place to prevent it, and even treat kids as criminals over it. However, it is us adults who are getting far more press about it lately than kids ever have.

Congressman Anthony Weiner is just the latest in a string of scandals. When this story broke, the media was tripping over itself asking: Did he do it? And now, with his admission of guilt, the new question is: Should he resign?

In the meantime, no one has offered the public a chance to look at what really matters: When thinking of sexting, how does an adult answer the question -- to do or not to do?

Adults have been "sexting" for ages -- we just called it 'dirty talk' -- dirty talk that used to land on a significant other's ears and disintegrate... until now. With the onslaught of real time apps and devices like iPhones and Twitter, messaging anywhere anytime has become the norm. And yet, many adults fail to understand the permanent, far-reaching, and severe implications of these devices. Simply put, many adults don't understand that once you send/sext it, it's never coming back or going away. So, if you're thinking about sexting, you might as well print it, sign it, and put your address, phone, and photo on it and then put it on a billboard in Times Square for the world to see.

Far too many adults are letting the heat of the moment control their actions -- forgetting that once they send it, it lives forever on the Internet. It is like the Library of Congress, a repository of history. Your sext might never make it to Times Square, but you might want to think of it like it is. Granted, you might want it there for the world to see you, but that's a question only you can answer.

Congressman Weiner and Brett Favre are just the tip of the iceberg of what's to come unless adults, famous or not, start practicing what they preach to kids -- don't do it -- unless you want it to live forever on the Internet.

For more on the Internet's memory, see also Charlie Sheen Reminds Us, The Internet Has a Memory and The Bachelorette and the Drunken Passed Out Bachelor.

 

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12:58 AM on 06/08/2011
Technology helps you automate your stupidity.
06:11 PM on 06/07/2011
I agree....Sexting is all about gadgets, it has made these moveable objects available in every area of our enviroment. I am ancient so I dont qualify as a know it all. But I'll make this short and sweet, I dont know a single soul, who's beyond reproach. This guy shouldn't resign, yes, he should read your post and never do it again.
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08:05 PM on 06/07/2011
well said.
04:01 PM on 06/07/2011
To people that say "it's no big deal" my question is this: How would you like it? Make you feel confident about your mate's committment to you? Now if you're comfortable with that open type platform so be it....I would not want my woman finding that type of recreation apart of her life...but by same token if it was understood, well so be it....Kind of creepy and I doubt the number is limited to he confession...but who cares, really. Mankind, a sexual being will always do things as such regardless....Frankly, I am more bothered by his weasel like looks...and seemingly arrogant attitude, but hey, that is just my stupid superficial opinion.
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02:21 PM on 06/07/2011
Man, I wish we had a more French attitude toward this.

At President Mitterand's funeral his wife sat next to his mistress. Furthermore, the have the #1 rated health care system in the world.

Technology improves and consenting adults are allowed to use whatever technology to have the greatest best orgasms of their lives. Sex is a healthy part of life.

What Rep. Weiner did is between him and his wife and none of my business.

His political career may be over because he went on national television and lied about his behavior.

But I am tired of living in a sex-negative culture where we hypocritical judge others for their conduct while we do whatever we want in secret.