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Henry Gornbein
Henry S. Gornbein is a Family Law expert in high profile divorces and all aspects of family law, along with mediation, arbitration, and collaborative law. He is the past president of the Michigan chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, a member of the International Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, former Chairperson of the Family Law Section of the State Bar of Michigan. He is the past president of the MIPA, Michigan Inter-Professional Association on Marriage, Divorce and the Family. He received the Oakland County Bar Association Professionalism Award in 2004. He has been named as a Super Lawyer every year since 2007. In July of 2010, he was appointed to a three-year term on the Oakland County Friend of the Court Citizen's Advisory Board. He is the creator and host of the award winning cable television show Practical Law, which recently won its 3rd Philo T. Farnsworth's Award for Excellence. He is a blogger, journalist and has also been doing regular pod casts, covering all issues regarding divorce and family law, on He is also involved in the websites, and

Entries by Henry Gornbein

Equal Child Custody Revisited

(90) Comments | Posted June 27, 2013 | 4:12 PM

Several months ago I submitted a blog entitled "Why Equal Child Custody Should Not Be Presumed." It is accessible on the Huffington Post Divorce Website in permanent archives. In that blog I stated that one size does not fit all and that I believed the statutory policy requiring 50/50 equal...

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Affairs to Remember

(1) Comments | Posted June 13, 2013 | 3:46 PM

Over my many years of specializing in family law, I have seen many marriages end due to an affair. Affairs come in all shapes and sizes. In this blog, I would like to pose some questions for you regarding the impact of affairs on a marriage.

Most common...

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Cyber Wars and Your Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted May 31, 2013 | 3:21 PM

In my practice I am seeing more and more cases where the Internet and cyber wars are part of divorces. Let me give you some examples:

-- I have had cases where IPhones are being used to track another spouse.

-- I have had situations where computers are...

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Your Cheating Heart

(1) Comments | Posted May 16, 2013 | 11:49 AM

What is cheating? In my over 40 years of practicing family law, I have seen just about every reason under the sun for a divorce. I have seen many cases where people reconciled after an affair or more than one affair. When I am representing a person who is the...

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Guns and Divorce, a Dangerous Mix

(9) Comments | Posted April 25, 2013 | 4:46 PM

Divorce and domestic violence are all too common. Check with any police agency and you will find that a family out of control is one of the most volatile situations that a law enforcement officer ever has to deal with.

We are now in the middle of a...

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Words Hurt

(4) Comments | Posted April 3, 2013 | 10:46 AM

I recently attended a session with a referee where we were discussing procedures in a divorce. Custody is involved in the case and the referee made a very telling remark that I want to share with you. She said that words hurt. In prior blogs I have stated that once...

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The Gray Divorce

(8) Comments | Posted March 6, 2013 | 12:37 PM

As our population gets older, we are not only seeing a growing interest in "Fifty Shades of Grey" -- we're also seeing an increase in gray divorce.

Gray divorce concerns with anyone over fifty. There are issues facing older divorcing couples that younger couples do not have to worry...

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How Do You Determine Child Support and Alimony?

(6) Comments | Posted February 21, 2013 | 1:26 PM

In many of my divorce cases, the hardest issue is determining someone's real income. Income impacts upon child support as well as alimony. We live in an era where there is a huge underground economy. Think of some of the jobs and businesses where there is a lot of cash....

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Thirteen Reasons Why Your Marriage May Fail In 2013

(153) Comments | Posted January 5, 2013 | 12:19 AM

It is a new year. Is your marriage better or worse? After going through another holiday season, is your New Year's resolution to end your marriage this year? Following are 13 reasons why your marriage may be doomed in 2013.

1. You stop communicating.

2. You fail to...

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New Year's Resolutions -- 13 Ways to Have a Better Marriage in 2013!

(1) Comments | Posted December 31, 2012 | 2:30 PM

As we get closer to the New Year, everyone is making New Year's resolutions. The following are 13 ways to have a better marriage in 2013:

1. Communicate with your spouse. Do not ignore your spouse. This includes no longer talking or sharing thoughts and ideas. You become like...

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Why Is It So Hard Being A Step-Parent?

(1) Comments | Posted December 14, 2012 | 12:55 PM

Think of the fact that nearly 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Second marriages have a higher failure rate than first marriages. Why is this? Here are some reasons that I have seen over the years:

In a first marriage, we are young, usually naive and innocent....

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Holidays and Children

(7) Comments | Posted November 22, 2012 | 11:50 AM

As we approach the holiday season, the question I am often asked is, "How do you maintain the holiday traditions after divorce?" Here are some of my thoughts on this subject.

We have a lot of holidays. Three significant ones include Halloween, which people spend more money on than any...

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Pet Custody

(20) Comments | Posted October 23, 2012 | 9:45 PM

When your marriage goes to the dogs, and pets are involved, what is the solution?

Couples, especially those who do not have children, adore their pets and often treat them like kids. It's no surprise then that pet custody has been a growing issue in the courts.

In Michigan, where...

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Children And Trigger Points

(5) Comments | Posted September 25, 2012 | 12:22 PM

Over the years, I have seen many divorces in which right after the final judgment is entered, the parents agree to disagree on child-related issues. There are certain issues that parents seem to continuously disagree on, prohibiting them from getting along and moving on with their lives. Here are some...

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Why Equal Child Custody Should Not Be Presumed

(166) Comments | Posted August 29, 2012 | 1:35 PM

I recently read a blog on the Huffington Post advocating for a statutory policy in all cases that children should spend equal time with both parents. I've specialized in family law for over 40 years and have handled many custody disputes. I've seen a trend for shared or...

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Pot Smoking Vs. Medical Marijuana: What Are The Implications In A Custody Dispute?

(414) Comments | Posted August 6, 2012 | 12:15 PM

Since the legalization of medical marijuana under certain circumstances in California, Michigan and several other states, there has been a lot of discussion about the implications of this in divorce. I have talked with judges in particular about the impact this has on child custody and parenting time....

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Addiction And Divorce

(881) Comments | Posted June 30, 2012 | 2:40 PM

I have been practicing family law for over 40 years, and I have seen just about everything. I've witnessed numerous divorces in which spouses have had addiction issues -- including alcohol, drugs, pornography and gambling -- that led to the divorce. Throughout the course of my career, I have represented...

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How Should Your Attorney Act in Court?

(6) Comments | Posted June 18, 2012 | 12:00 PM

An associate was recently telling me about her experience with an attorney in court. The attorney was making misrepresentations to the judge. The judge was trying to question her and get to the point. The attorney wouldn't stop talking and she would not stay on point. This is a case...

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11 Things All Good Divorce Lawyers Need To Know

(18) Comments | Posted May 23, 2012 | 7:20 PM

Judges often look down upon divorce; I've seen one judge refer to family court as the kiddie court. Why? Because divorces are messy, complicated and emotional. People often become totally irrational during a divorce. It is therefore up to the lawyers to make sense of the process. Here are 11...

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How To Divorce: What Should You Ask Your Divorce Lawyer At The Initial Meeting?

(8) Comments | Posted April 30, 2012 | 12:30 PM

If you are contemplating a divorce or your spouse is on the verge of serving you with divorce papers, you should immediately contact a divorce lawyer. At the initial consultation, there are several important questions that you should ask. In no particular order, they are as follows:


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