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11 Things All Good Divorce Lawyers Need To Know

Posted: 05/23/2012 7:20 pm

Judges often look down upon divorce; I've seen one judge refer to family court as the kiddie court. Why? Because divorces are messy, complicated and emotional. People often become totally irrational during a divorce. It is therefore up to the lawyers to make sense of the process. Here are 11 things all good divorce attorneys should know:

1. A divorce attorney must know the law regarding divorce, child custody and all other aspects of family law where he or she practices.

2. The attorney should not only know the laws related to this area, but should also have an understanding of basic tax laws, especially as they impact upon property division and alimony.

3. A good divorce attorney should know real estate and understand issues involving real estate both with regard to commercial and residential property, as well as issues regarding mortgages and other encumbrances. This is especially true with so many houses having a negative equity.

4. A good divorce attorney should have some knowledge of issues with regard to corporations, especially closely-held, family-owned or small corporations, which are often evaluated and become a key component of many divorces.

5. An understanding of businesses including partnerships, professional practices, such as medical, dental, CPA, and law practices, can be important in many cases as well.

6. Having a good knowledge of discovery can be important. It is important to be able to represent your client fully. Having a complete picture of the assets and liabilities is critical because if something is missing, your client will be short-changed.

7. It is important for a good divorce attorney to know the judges, the legal system, and the workings of the court where your case is occurring. Every court has its own way of doing things.

8. Another issue to be mindful of is domestic abuse and domestic violence. Too frequently this comes into play in many divorces. These issues should never be ignored.

9. It is important to have some understanding of psychology and human relationships because in family law, there is a huge psychological overlay that makes this area of the law so difficult. No one gets married thinking about divorce and sadly, too many marriages end in divorce. Thus, a client coming in is unhappy in the first place at the beginning of the divorce, especially if it is something that he or she does not want. At the end of the divorce, the client is often more unhappy because he or she will be receiving half or less of the assets. People often end up with huge liabilities, and this is especially true in these tough economic times where so much real estate is down. The client will often still owe attorney fees. This is not a happy time, and a good divorce attorney recognizes this.

10. It is important to have a knowledge of child custody and the law regarding custody, parenting time, and any other aspects impacting the child or children.

11. A good divorce attorney understands all of these factors and should be a good negotiator as well as a good listener.

Family law covers so many issues that are exacerbated by the tremendous amount of emotion, anger, resentment, and unhappiness that clients have. Many clients refuse to deal with these emotional issues as they go through a divorce. This is why practicing family law can be very difficult, to say the least. It can also be very rewarding because a good family law attorney knows that he or she is helping someone through some of the most difficult times in his or her life.


By: HENRY S. GORNBEIN
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12:23 PM on 05/31/2012
I am lost at the title "All Good Divorce Lawyers" I didn't know there was any. First question out of their mouths, "any domestic violence in the relationship", followed by "what kind of assets do you have", followed by "I'll be out of the office next week" {shopping for a new ?????? spending your assets.}
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KBES
Dumb all over and a little ugly on the side
04:27 PM on 05/30/2012
Wish I had this before I got divorced. My lawyer did nothing but take my money.
09:47 AM on 05/31/2012
That is how divorce works.

Divorce is a transaction structured for the benefit of divorce lawyers.

That is because divorce lawyers have structured divorce.
03:43 AM on 05/27/2012
It's good to have this kind of post for all readers to take note of. This can also be good guidelines for possible divorce clients to consider when choosing the best lawyers for them.
01:01 PM on 05/24/2012
Your posts are outstanding. (I think you well know that you are uncommon among divorce lawyers.) Thank you.

This post covers what a good divorce lawyer should KNOW.

Can your next post cover what a good divorce lawyer should DO (and perhaps more importantly NOT do)?
bgbytoys
staring down the corrrect end of a 45 barrel
11:42 AM on 05/24/2012
i don't think a patent lawyer should know these things. law is a sub field specialty. i wouldn't want a generic lawyer handling my special case.
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Henry Gornbein
08:53 AM on 05/25/2012
Hi bgbytoys, Thank you for your comment. I have found over the years that many attorneys would try to dabble in divorce with very poor results. It is important to have a specialist for your divorce attorney just as it is important to have a specialist if you have a patent issue. Have a great weekend!

Henry Gornbein
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greenstraws
I am me not you.
10:32 PM on 05/23/2012
These are things that any "good" lawyer should know regardless of the field in which they practice. Especially, true if a divorce lawyer is contemplating a divorce himself or herself...highly likely since at some point 1/2 of all married U.S. couples end up divorced from each other.
01:22 PM on 05/24/2012
In the educated and upper income groups, the divorce rate is much lower -- perhaps down around 15 percent ... nowhere close to 50 percent.

Divorce is mostly for "dumb"/deluded people and people in or below the middle class.

In other demographic categories, divorce generally is for marriages with at least one personality-disordered spouse.

(The very wealthy can afford divorce also but that is a small fraction of society.)

Smart, sound people -- those who have worked/educated themselves to get to the upper middle class -- are rarely in divorce court. Especially if children are involved.

Smart, sound people instead parent their children effectively, advance their careers, save/invest money, work out relationship issues with poise and caring -- building a better future for themselves and their families.

The "dumb"/deluded are in divorce court where they trash their families and their own lives and cause lasting injury to their children -- while transferring their assets to their divorce lawyers.

Divorce is a harmful "product" that is sold to millions.

The affected children -- who are not even the parties -- are harmed the most.

Divorce with with divorce lawyers is a "fool and money" thing -- and guess who is who?

(Divorce lawyers love "celebrity" divorces because they promote the notion that divorce is "normal" and that the nutty of us out here in society can get a divorce "just like" our favorite celebrity.)
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greenstraws
I am me not you.
07:39 PM on 05/24/2012
The divorce rates might be lower but in those groups but that doesn't mean that the couples you mentioned that are in those marriages you describe, are any happier than those that end up divorced from each other.
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Henry Gornbein
08:58 AM on 05/25/2012
Hi 759 w, thank you for your comments. I agree that divorce harms children the most. I disagree that smart sound people who are well educated are rarely in court. That is incorrect. Sadly I represent people from all walks of life and every educational and economic background. Have a nice weekend,

Henry Gornbein
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Henry Gornbein
08:55 AM on 05/25/2012
Hi greenstraws, Thank you for your comments. Sadly a lot of lawyers try to practice in areas that they don't have the appropriate expertise. It is also true that a lot of divorce attorneys end up divorced. There is an old adage that an attorney who represents himself or herself has a fool for a client. Good luck to you.

Henry Gornbein
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greenstraws
I am me not you.
02:37 PM on 05/25/2012
Thanks.