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Why My Kids Will Not Be Watching The Little Mermaid

Posted: 07/23/2012 1:36 pm

Years before Miley Cyrus couldn't be tamed, there was a different Disney princess who stirred up controversy for her rebellious ways. Trading talent to fit into a world she deemed more glamorous than the one in which she lived, this young woman caused a bit of drama and wouldn't take advice from family or friends. No, not Lindsay Lohan... another redhead.

I am completely aware that Disney's The Little Mermaid is a movie meant to entertain children, but is it sending the right message to young ones, specifically little girls?

Ariel is an adored, adventurous, smart and kind beauty with an amazing gift -- her voice. Not only is she perfectly slender, naturally curious and socially superlative among the creatures of the sea, she is the king's daughter -- a legitimate princess with social stature.

As we soon find out, swimming around the ocean and singing songs is not enough for our leading lady. Ariel desires to become something she clearly is not -- a human being. She continues to question her environment (sea of friends), her body (lack of legs) and her happiness, envying us land folk, until she gets what she wants (a man).

To achieve her desires, the bubbly redhead gives up her special voice to be part of a society that would not normally accept her in her true form.

Because every Disney movie teaches us that the story is incomplete (read: no happy ending, no ride off into the sunset, no fairytale) without a man, Ariel changes herself for a partner of the opposite sex. Enter charming Prince Eric.

With a sexy smile, confidence and a cool boat (a cute dog, too), Eric falls in love with Ariel, who has never spoken a single word in his presence. Forget politics, religion and issues of the world -- these two do not discuss anything.

The moral of the story lies here: change who you are -- not simply to be loved, but also to be accepted by others. Additionally, it portrays men as physically judgmental, only caring about the way a woman looks, bats her eyes and smiles -- that they do not consider any thoughts, feelings or concerns in one's pretty little head.

I'm in favor of Ariel evolving from girl to woman (thanks, Britney Spears, for that gem) and discovering/exploring her identity, but I don't feel comfortable when influential characters and role models suddenly cast away their differentiating and admirable qualities for acceptance... or, like Ariel, gunshot weddings (again, thank you, Ms. Spears).

Is there a hero in this story? I'm not sure. Though I do think there are some redeeming lessons to be learned.

Sure, the dark and villainous Ursula is cruel and harsh -- a bit self-centered and unpredictable, but there are many of these people who walk (no pun intended), talk and strive among us. They exist, and it's important for kids to know that not everyone is going to look out for their best interests, however tempting some offers may be.

While adolescent celebrities in the coming years will continue to amaze, mesmerize and shock us, it's easy to feel that we've been let down by these idols. In reality, they are people, and, like Disney plots, people are imperfect. Some of our icons' stories will have happy endings, some will not. Many of these famous individuals will have lives, opportunities and accomplishments we very much envy, and ultimately, some will not.

Instead of glorifying movie stars (actual or animated), I think it's important to teach kids and remind ourselves to be thankful for the gifts we have. Maybe with this attitude, sooner than later, we can learn to stop sizing up our environments, our bodies and wanting to be "part of that world."

 

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Years before Miley Cyrus couldn't be tamed, there was a different Disney princess who stirred up controversy for her rebellious ways. Trading talent to fit into a world she deemed more glamorous than ...
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12:00 AM on 09/05/2012
This might be the Disney version, but this isn't what it originally was. This story was written as a symbolization of a love that was forbidden between the writer and a prince.
11:54 PM on 08/24/2012
The Little Mermaid in its beginning wasn't intended to be about throwing away your current identity to be with a man - it was supposed to be about longing to be what you are when everyone says you can't be. Essentially Ariel does just what anyone would do to be able to be who they truly believe they were meant to be - give up everything you hold dear. The original story was actually written by a man who fell in love with a man who rejected him, and so he wrote The Little Mermaid as a metaphor for how he longed to be "part of [a] world" where his love could have flourished. The original story actually ended unhappily as the princess did NOT get the man, and that is of course how it was supposed to happen, but Disney doesn't believe in tragic endings, particularly for children (what child wants a sad ending?) and thus they changed the ending, but the rest applies. This movie, like almost all Disney movies, is about allowing yourself to be yourself even when everyone else is telling you it's not possible. Therefore this movie is perfect for children as it is exactly the message we need to send to our children, despite the superficiality that comes with the territory of Disney.
01:43 PM on 08/17/2012
Obviously someone obsessed with Jersey Shore would not look to Disney for role models.

Well, I hope this generated the hits you were going for. Way to just say a bunch of stuff to try to attract people to you. Ariel did what she did for love...you're doing it for what? Money and fame? How noble.

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04:10 PM on 08/06/2012
I feel so offended by stuff like this because first before anything else, people need to get a grip on psychology and parenting. A child isn't going to interpret a movie that deeply when their cognitive development hasn't even progressed that far to do so, at the age they will be when watching this movie, but even if it were , people blame everything else for how their children turn out when its your job to be a parent and first and major role model in your childs life: its not Miley Cyrus' job- she didn't give birth to your kid, not Britney Spears- she was older than little children and didnt give birth to your kid either.Its not the tv's job, the computers job, or a movies job to teach your kids. With that said teach them and engraine in them the morals and lessons you find important and let them be entertained by movies that are fantasmic for that reason. Its hilarious how so many people love to point the finger at everything and everyone else, their job is to entertain, your job is to raise not the other way around.
08:18 AM on 07/28/2012
You're assuming that the children, for whom the movie is intended, have the ability to read into the movie as you have. Children are simply not able to make the associations that you have mentioned. They view the movie at face value, not, oh wow. I must change my appearance so a man will fall in love with me. Sorry, but that just isn't the case.
09:46 AM on 07/24/2012
The Little Mermaid is a story by Hans Christian Anderson. Like most of his stories, it is not your typical modern fare. The princess mermaid in the story (as opposed to in the movie) rescues the prince from drowming and falls in love with HIM, not the otehr way around. She makes a bargain to give up her voice in order to have legs, and therefore have a chance to win him, even though "it feels like walking on knives". And if that weren't enough, she will turn into seafoam if she doesn't win his love. The prince does NOT marry her, and she DOES turn into seafoam at the end.
Disney took only the barest elements of the story to make the movie.
01:20 AM on 07/24/2012
Also, love how you screen the comments before they are published...Arielle has more nerve than you!
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09:00 AM on 07/24/2012
Hi there! Always open and happy to hear the opinions of others. I don't screen any comments - I don't have that authority - the site does :)
01:14 AM on 07/24/2012
Are you kidding me? Snow White and the Seven Dwarves, Sleeping Beauty, and oh I could so get going! Those were sniffling whiny can't help themselves heroines yet here is Arielle who actually brings up the topic to discuss with kids, who is rebellious, who tries to think for herself...are you saying you have never as a kid or adult tried to figure out who you are and that you don't have to change yourself after you made the mistake of thinking you should have? Regardless it's an awesome movie and musical and you sooooo need to chill. And I have three kids, 22 male marine, 15 female heroine, 12 male architect in the making while legoing!
11:39 PM on 07/23/2012
the writer of this piece needs to get a life The Little Mermaid teaches kids to dream.The Little Mermaid is one of the best Disney films to date, both plot line and animation.This is yet another case of a person trying to over dramatize a childs film, and make it more then it is.Disney is Disney, let it be that a animated film for childs entertained.Quit making something out of nothing!