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How Obama Won Me Over With a Single Speech

Posted: 05/21/2012 11:54 am

I am not a gushy sort of person when it comes to celebrities, nor am I particularly political. So, when I heard that President Obama was going to speak during our daughter's graduation from Barnard College last week, I was less than thrilled.

"Think of the security," I said to my husband. "What a nightmare!"

"We can't even bring water through the gates," my husband grumbled, reading through the detailed commencement regulations. "Maybe we should skip it." He gave me a hopeful look.

We both wanted to bow out of the event. New York City is enough of an ordeal as it is. But New York plus Obama? Chaos. We actually considered missing the first half of graduation, figuring we could order photos online and sneak into the reception tents later.

But of course we went, because we love our daughter, who worked hard to graduate from Barnard with honors. We're proud of her, and this is what proud parents do everywhere, every day: We sit on uncomfortable metal chairs in gymnasiums and stadiums and auditoriums, trying to unobtrusively read our phones or Kindles during the boring parts of school celebrations and athletic events.

All of the advice from Barnard indicated that we should arrive on campus by 9 a.m., since they were going to close the gates by 11 a.m. Graduation wasn't scheduled until 12:30; there would be no food available, but the campus was providing water and paper cups. They were even confiscating umbrellas -- I guess so nobody could stab Obama.

We didn't arrive until 10:30. (I think that my husband was still hoping there might be an excuse to go to the Museum of Natural History instead.) The security screening was remarkably efficient -- pretty much like airport lines -- and it was amusing to watch the collection of confiscated umbrellas grow by the gates as we plodded through the maze of barricades constructed to control the crowd.

Inside the tent, we sat on the dreaded metal chairs and waited. And waited. Every building on campus was closed; this meant standing in line for forty minutes to use a portable toilet. The only food handed out consisted of one puny granola bar per graduation goody bag.

Eventually the graduates joined us, a vibrant ocean of nearly 600 young women in pale blue robes. Then, like magic, Obama was beamed into place, presumably escorted onto the stage via one of the tent tunnels rendering him invisible to snipers.

I had been cynical about this whole idea of Obama giving a commencement speech. The election is coming up; this seemed like a pretty damn convenient move. I voted for this president, and I already knew I would vote for him again, given the choice between him and Romney. I disagree with Obama on certain issues (mostly military), but I agree with him on many, including abortion, gay marriage, and health care. At the same time, I'd have to say that for most of my adult life I've been that sort of passive, head-in-the-safe-suburban-sand kind of liberal rather than any kind of activist.

But, when Obama took the stage, I was suddenly cynical and passive no more. I don't know how to explain this bizarre transformation. The closest I can come is to say that the president emanated an energy that was so generous and good in spirit that I swear I could almost see the halo. (No, I'm not religious, either.) The effect on me was such that I wanted to move closer to him, to be included in that circle of warmth, the way you edge closer and closer to a fireplace on a winter's night.

Obama is capable of being too academic and calm when he addresses a crowd. But he wasn't on this day. On this day, perhaps because he has two daughters of his own, the president's speech was inspired and inspirational. He made a few jokes and then talked seriously about the economic crisis -- surely of uppermost importance in the minds of all new college graduates -- and of how far women have come in the roles we play professionally, athletically, and politically.

And then he laid things on the line, telling these young women, "After decades of slow, steady, extraordinary progress, you are now poised to make this the century where women shape not only their own destiny, but the destiny of this nation and of this world. But how far your leadership takes this country, how far it takes this world -- well, that will be up to you." Rather than spend too much time telling these remarkable young women just how extraordinary they were -- which was the stump speech of almost every other person at the podium that day -- Obama urged the graduates not to sit back and watch events unfold in the world, but to "stand up and be heard, to write and to lobby, to march, to organize, to vote."

This part of the speech transported me to my own post-college attempts to make the world a better place. I volunteered as a Spanish translator in a juvenile court; I served with the Big Brother, Big Sister organization; I tutored inner city kids in math and science; I wrote grants to fund science enrichment programs for at-risk high school students; I volunteered as a mentor to teen mothers.

Somewhere along the way, though, I got tired and my volunteer efforts flagged. These days I volunteer with local schools and libraries, but just a few hours a month, because I'm a working mom operating on too little sleep. My husband has been laid off one, two, three times. We worry all of the time about our own children and whether they'll have jobs, health insurance, and roofs over their heads when we're gone. Forget buying a house. Our kids will be lucky to pay their car repairs.

Yet what have I been doing, to stand up and be heard?

Not enough.

Finally, Obama urged us all to persevere. "Nothing worthwhile is easy," he said. "No one of achievement has avoided failure -- sometimes catastrophic failures. But they keep at it. They learn from mistakes. They don't quit."

The president then shared a personal story of his own attempts after college to try and organize community meetings in a Chicago neighborhood plagued by gang violence. "Nobody showed up," he said, despite the fact that they had done everything possible to get people there.

He was tempted to quit. So were the other volunteers. But they didn't give up. They just kept chipping away at the problems in the neighborhood. "Whenever you feel that creeping cynicism," Obama told the Barnard grads and their families, "whenever you hear those voices say you can't make a difference, whenever somebody tells you to set your sights lower -- the trajectory of this country should give you hope. Previous generations should give you hope. What young generations have done before should give you hope. Young folks who marched and mobilized and stood up and sat in, from Seneca Falls to Selma to Stonewall, didn't just do it for themselves; they did it for other people."

After the speech, Obama was whisked away immediately through another secret tent tunnel. One minute he was there. Then he was gone.

Except that he wasn't gone, not at all. I could still hear his words ringing in my ears and feel that warmth and goodness, even as the gates to the campus were flung open and we cheered the graduates crossing the stage to receive their diplomas, young women with big smiles and, I hope, even bigger hearts, who will always stand up and be heard.

I am back in my real life now, away from New York City. Yet I still hear the president urging me to do my part. It's never too late to "reach up and close that gap between what America is and what American should be," as Obama concluded, and I intend to do exactly that.

 
 
 

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I am not a gushy sort of person when it comes to celebrities, nor am I particularly political. So, when I heard that President Obama was going to speak during our daughter's graduation from Barnard C...
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02:37 PM on 07/16/2012
Although I have never heard Obama speak in person, I assume from your comments and others that he must be a very powerful teleprompter reader. Problem with this is that he can not do much else besides reading the telprompter. What has he actually accomplished the last four years? he complains that he can not get Washington to work with him. He seems to think that is everyone else's problem not his. Maybe he should look in the mirror instead of blaming everyone else. People that vote for him because of "one speech" are shallow and should look at his record - ie: look at what he does not what he says he will do.
All talk no action.
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Leadsled
Love-child of the ghosts of FDR and Napoleon
03:48 PM on 05/22/2012
While I applaud your sentiment I must say the whining is a bit much. A. New York City is not an "ordeal", it is the ideal place to either live in or visit. There is no ordeal involved. B. re food: you arrived at 10:30 and the commencement was done by about 2:30. That's 4 hours. If you ate something before you arrived there is no reason to complain about having to wait 4 hours. If you didn't eat something before you arrived, that's your fault, not the President's and not Columbia University's. Even with the 9am arrival proposed, eat a hearty breakfast and then have a late lunch. Not exactly a challenge.
11:23 PM on 05/22/2012
This was the most personal speech I have heard from Obama. Only the graduates
were seated in front of him behind the press pool. For the rest of the guests it was
a distant podium or large monitors, but I doubt any of the crowd didn’t find his
words both direct and intimate. Yes for people from out of town it was difficult.
The Columbia University graduation was Wednesday and the early hour for security
meant Sunday flights and New York City has lost 20,000 hotel rooms to redevelopment.
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Holly Robinson
Author of The Gerbil Farmer's Daughter: A Memoir
10:18 AM on 05/23/2012
Ha! Too true. I deserve to have my hand slapped for that remark. In truth, I adore visiting NYC, despite being a country bumpkin--but my husband does not, and I had a 14 year-old boy in tow. We did eat a hearty breakfast, but you have to feed those teen boy animals about every 20 minutes or they crumble. Hollow legs and all that. Yep. I know. That's a first world problem to whine about. Thanks for the wake up smack.
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Leadsled
Love-child of the ghosts of FDR and Napoleon
04:24 PM on 05/23/2012
Ms. Robinson, you didn't make clear you had a teenage boy with you when talking about the food-timing issue.  That gives significantly more context to your comments and seeing as how I can vaguely remember my days as a teenaged boy back a decade+ ago that context definitely changes my interpretations of what you said.  Anyway thank you for both taking the time to respond to me personally and for taking my comments in the spirit they were intended (a gentle poke in the ribs) rather than the way I realize in re-reading them they might have come off (i.e. I think I was a bit of an a** in my phrasing).  
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MUDPUPPY
03:25 PM on 05/22/2012
What, no tingle up and down legs?
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Frank Bourne
The truth hurts.
02:52 PM on 05/22/2012
>>> "Our kids will be lucky to pay their car repairs"

Oh, those poor dears. Such a tough road ahead.
02:29 PM on 05/22/2012
What was the intent of this blog? To prove P. T. Barnum was right?
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Catriona
Wha daur meddle wi me?
01:01 PM on 05/22/2012
He does nothing for me. Talk.

If I still lived in the US, and hadn't taken work abroad, I'd be destitute. By now I would have sent my children away to live with relatives, also abroad. His healthcare 'solution' would have been no help to me.
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laurieanichols
je pense donc, je suis
12:41 PM on 05/22/2012
I can see that President Obama has a very real, authentic respect and admiration for women. That sense of his appreciation of us as human beings has done a lot to propel me to his corner since the beginning. I have always been a democrat, since the age of thirteen when Ronald Reagan was on the scene. I was immediately put off by his war-like positions and his disregard for poor people, black people and unions. I have always been drawn to the democratic message; that we are all better off as a nation when everyone can have access to freedom, opportunity, education, health care and social mobility. The message that underlies the GOP mentality, as long as I have mine, puts me off. We as a country need better than the GOP message, all for me and me for me. Romney, for all his religious beliefs, still believes that money is at the heart of everything and that, for a President isn't the moral way to look at our country. We need and deserve more and I believe that we have it in President Obama.
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Sue-in-Jersey
Now I am in Pennsylvania. Hope they let me vote.
11:39 AM on 05/22/2012
Dear disdainful "conservatives:" This is your President, too. I have seen your websites, reviewed your posts, and shopped through your outrageously bigguted antiObama bumperstickers. I recognize your dog-whistles (not as secret as you think) and can debunk your "truths." Let me speak this plainly: If you are willing to hurt America to hurt this President, then you are NOT a patriot. If you so despise this President's color that you must make up fictions about his life and his policies, then you are NOT a patriot. Bottom line.
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Jamie Kowalski
Composer
12:44 PM on 05/22/2012
F/F!
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Sue-in-Jersey
Now I am in Pennsylvania. Hope they let me vote.
11:29 AM on 05/22/2012
Thank you for sharing that. I'm guilty of doing less and less to make the world better, too, but I do find myself inspired by this President. I've decided that if I do nothing else for the 2012 elections, I'm going to at least encourage people to VOTE. I think that the angry fear-promoting corporatists are doing their darndest to make people cynical and to convince people to give up and give in. I think they WANT us to believe that they have so much money that nothing we little voters do will offset their influence. Well, I intend to push back. My own daughter is getting married a few weeks before Election 2012, but I am still going to do what I can to see President Obama re-elected. I feel my daughter's future depends upon it.
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farleft1917
Nothing is new but only forgotten.
11:20 AM on 05/22/2012
All well and good but why is it that all former presidents lead such pampered lives after they leave office? Ever heard of a president having to work? Ever read of a child of a president not offered a well paid job?

Obama has been blocked by Republicans but he also made sure that when Democrats had control of Congress that they behaved like 1990's Republicans. That was not what we voted for.

I'm glad the writer feels uplifted but I feel cheated. I did not vote for money to be spent on Drones to kill villagers and American citizens. I did not vote for the rich to become richer. I did not vote for him to tell us to admire Bankers and CEO Oligarchs.

Obama is better than any Republican but that's not the Audacity of Hope but the Audacity of Greed.
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Leadsled
Love-child of the ghosts of FDR and Napoleon
03:51 PM on 05/22/2012
If you didn't vote for those things then you didn't bother to listen to what Candidate Obama said he would do when he became president. He was very explicit in his discussions of his plans for Afghanistan/Pakistan. You apparently didn't bother to listen.

Re "rich become richer" thats called "republicans". During the roughly 1 year democrats had effective control of congress you had Obama obsessed with being "post-partisan" or "bi-partisan" which he also explicitly campaigned on.

You are essentially saying you didn't vote for precisely what the candidate you voted for said he was going to do. You can't blame him for that. That is your mistake and yours alone.
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parlimentMike
Terrorists keep you in fear
11:06 AM on 05/22/2012
Consider your favorite Obama speech from 2008.

How much of that has he fought to deliver, and how much did he pretend to concede under threat of potential challenge by Republicans?
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Leadsled
Love-child of the ghosts of FDR and Napoleon
03:54 PM on 05/22/2012
The vast majority. He said he'd kill bin ladin. Check. He said he'd do a watered-down weak form of national health insurance. Check. He said he'd do some minor wall street reforms. Check. He said he'd double down in afghanistan. Check. He said he'd be "post-partisan"/"bi-partisan" and "reach across the aisle" with his proposals. Check (well he did his half of that).

I cannot think of a single thing in which President Obama didn't do precisely what Senator Obama said he would do. I think your problem, much like many other people, is that for some reason you convinced yourself Obama was far to the left of the Moderate Conservative he ran for president as. Remember, Obama was the most right wing of all the major democratic candidates in 2008.
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stingjim
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11:03 AM on 05/22/2012
Obama believes in wealth redistribution, an economic philosophy at the center of the former Soviet Union. Obama makes more people dependent on government, rather than encourage people to rely on themselves and the opportunity America offers.

In the 39 months since Barack Obama took the oath of office as president of the United States, the federal government’s debt has increased by $5,027,761,476,484.56.
He has served less than a term, Obama is now the first president to see the federal government’s debt increase by more than $5 trillion during his time in office.
The full eight years that George W. Bush served as president, the federal government’s debt increased by $4.9 Trillion. (Rising from $5.7 trillion to $10.6 Trillion.)
The $5.02 Trillion that the debt has increased during Obama’s presidency equals $16,043.39 for every one of the 313,385,295 people the Census Bureau now estimates live in the United States.

Obama remains firmly in the grip of the Keynesian Superstition, which is the belief that government deficits boost the economy. He didn’t seem to notice that his $862 billion in “stimulus” vanished without a trace.

It is this superstitious belief in Keynesianism that led White House Press Secretary Jay Carney to lecture a reporter from The Wall Street Journal that extending unemployment benefits would boost the economy. It is also what prompted Agriculture Secretary Tom Vilsack to claim that every dollar spent on food stamps adds $1.84 to GDP.
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theriveryeti
Blue in Red-land
11:47 AM on 05/22/2012
Interesting reaction to a story about a commencement speech.
12:18 PM on 05/22/2012
I'm not always sure Obama "believes in wealth distribution," but I do. Guess that makes me one of those "socialists" you conservatives are always ranting about. Your empty words an equally empty hearts don't faze me. I vote in every election and I always vote against your cramped and selfish world view. Keynesian economics demonstrably works, your Republican "voodoo economics" doesn't and never has. I've raised three kids who do the same... so we reliably deliver five "socialist" votes every time, rain or shine. Thanks for reminding me why ;-)
01:35 PM on 05/22/2012
Can you send me your $?
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Sarah Trickey
love, luck and lollipops. Narf!
10:24 AM on 05/22/2012
Thank you, Holly!
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Holly Robinson
Author of The Gerbil Farmer's Daughter: A Memoir
09:47 AM on 05/22/2012
Wow. I never imagined that I'd get such feedback--thank you, everyone. I can see very clearly how split the country is, but isn't it wonderful that we live in a country where each of us can voice our views and act according to our ethics? This kind of lively discussion is what makes our country great--now it's a matter of taking action on our beliefs, not just spouting them. Thank you all for weighing in.
09:18 AM on 05/22/2012
You said you voted for him in 2008 and would vote for him again 2012. I would have been more impressed if you were an undecided voter who had been transformed by something he said.