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Holly Sidell
Holly is a writer with certifications, training, and background in holistic health, fitness, Reiki healing, and spirituality. She has also recently returned to her roots as a theater actress after nearly ten years away, simply because she loves it.

In her writing, Holly is passionate about sharing what she has learned from the highs and lows of her life's journey in the hopes that it can offer a source of empowerment or insight to others as they face the highs and lows of their own journeys.

Entries by Holly Sidell

Four Things I've Learned About Having A Healthy Relationship... and How Neil Strauss Helped Me Get There (Yes, That Neil Strauss)

(3) Comments | Posted October 28, 2015 | 11:10 PM

I've written articles about Pick-Up Artists in the past, and have voiced my disgust and disapproval with the psychological tricks, manipulation, and tactics which those like Neil Strauss, author of The Game, have taught men to use to seduce (and play) women. So you can imagine my shock when I...

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If We Want Better Love Lives, We Have to Start Making Better Choices

(2) Comments | Posted August 31, 2015 | 9:40 AM

After getting out a serious relationship two years ago (which I thought was going to be "it"), I needed some time to heal and take stock of what I had learned. But for the past year or so, I have really started wanting to be in a relationship again. I'll...

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5 Things I Learned From Dating A (Much) Younger Man

(78) Comments | Posted February 19, 2015 | 9:12 AM

A month or so ago, I stopped seeing a much younger guy. Because he's only 23, I went into it without any expectations. For the record, a) neither of us had any idea about our big age difference when we first met and liked each other, and b) apparently, I...

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How I Stopped Being a Victim to the 'Higher Plan'

(0) Comments | Posted October 28, 2014 | 1:59 PM

Earlier in the summer, I found out I had been pretty close to having something that I have always wanted for my life with all my heart. And I think that slowly, without me even being aware of it, the pain of knowing that I could have had something I...

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Men: 3 Things the Woman You're Dating Wants You to Do

(2) Comments | Posted August 18, 2014 | 4:20 PM

I've had men read my stuff and ask me when I was going to write something for them. This is a particular scenario I get asked about a lot, so, gentlemen, without further ado....

You're dating a girl you like, things are great, and then all of a sudden,...

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The Only Piece of Dating Advice You Need

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2014 | 3:20 PM

There's so much dating advice out there for women. We are inundated by it from dating experts of both genders and I know, I know, this post sounds like just another drop in the pan. But my new advice is about to make this all easier: Screw all the advice....

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What It Really Means When a Guy Says He's 'Scared'

(3) Comments | Posted March 13, 2014 | 6:01 PM

I happened to turn to the "Today Show" the other morning just as Matthew Hussey, a relationship expert, was giving advice to a woman whose story, unfortunately, is way too familiar to way too many of us. This woman said she had been dating a guy for a while. He...

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Letters From Loves Past... and What That Means for the Future

(2) Comments | Posted January 24, 2014 | 12:09 PM

I just moved into a new place, and amongst my boxes and boxes from storage, I came across a light blue satin bag, kept perfectly sealed at the top with a little white ribbon. I didn't remember this bag. So, I opened it.

It contains love letters, notes and...

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Why Dating in Your 30's is Way Better Than Dating in Your 20's

(105) Comments | Posted November 30, 2013 | 8:28 AM

I recently got out of a serious relationship and was "not excited," (strong understatement) to find myself back in the dating world. The thought of getting back out there made me want to climb into my bed and hide under my covers... FOREVER. But, I have been pleasantly surprised with...

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What Monster of Protection Have You Created? (Guess What? It's Keeping You From What You Want)

(5) Comments | Posted September 13, 2013 | 1:49 PM

I heard a spiritual teacher speak about her own personal experience with fear. She told us a story -- she, now in her 50s, has been afraid of heights her whole life, and her entire family (cousins, aunts, kids, parents, siblings, grandparents, in-laws, etc.) was going on a trip to...

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5 Rules for Proper Yoga Class Etiquette

(3) Comments | Posted August 19, 2013 | 2:42 PM

(Inspired by the lady next to me in vinyasa flow class this morning.)

In addition to the (hopefully) givens of yoga class etiquette (such as don't come if you're sick and cough and sneeze all over me), please note the following:

1. My mat is not an extension of your...

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My Interview With a Professional Pick Up Artist (and Why Some Men Can't Make It Past the 'Chase')

(24) Comments | Posted July 19, 2013 | 4:22 PM

I ran into a friend of mine a few months ago who told me he was going to start doing some business with Ross Jeffries, the guy who Neil Strauss in his book The Game calls "the undisputed father of modern seduction." My friend told me that Ross is repelled...

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When You Get Back in the Saddle Again, Expect to Fall

(5) Comments | Posted April 22, 2013 | 3:04 PM

I wrote a post around a year ago about my heartbreak and anguish over letting my fear allow me to stop following and living my passion (which had already been a 20 year-long purpose) of acting and performing. I feel like a very important part of my soul...

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Dating Advice: Want to Know What Kind of a Man he is? Look at His Friends

(6) Comments | Posted February 15, 2013 | 10:03 AM

Sometimes, it's hard to find a good man... and sometimes, we are so desperate to FIND a man and be in a relationship that we can overlook things. But I have really learned over the past few weeks that if you want to know the true quality of a man,...

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You Are Not Helpless: How to Bring Light to the World

(0) Comments | Posted December 19, 2012 | 11:25 AM

We were all touched in some way by the Sandy Hook school shootings and the loss of lives. We have either actually been part of the experience of Hurricane Sandy or sat and watched its destruction. The Aurora shootings, the terror and wars in the Middle East -- it seems...

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Red Flags: Dating and Presidents

(1) Comments | Posted October 25, 2012 | 7:49 PM

I want a strong man. That's what it truly comes down to for me, and I think for most women -- strong in the sense that he knows who he is and what he stands for. Strong in the sense that we feel safe being with him. Strong in the...

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Be Wary! Workouts Are Not One Size Fits All

(0) Comments | Posted October 11, 2012 | 1:40 PM

When I worked out in college, I pretty much just sped walked on the treadmill and copied what all the other girls I thought were in shape were doing. Once out of college, when I was doing the actor thing, I thought I should get a personal trainer -- I...

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Feeling Bored or Uninspired? Six Quick Fixes!

(0) Comments | Posted September 14, 2012 | 12:20 AM

I've had a few moments recently of feeling, well, really just bored and completely uninspired and kinda purposeless. And these feelings, once they grabbed a hold of me, really didn't want to let go! These feelings then took me farther down the rabbit hole into a space of desperation where...

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Do You Know What You Want To Be When You Grow Up? I Don't!

(0) Comments | Posted August 31, 2012 | 2:11 PM

As I've written in previous posts, I used to be an actress. I grew up an actress... I got my first agent around the age of 5, and left my last agent at 25. I was always going to be an actress. That was my identity. I never even considered...

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Why I'm Impressed With the Last Two Men Standing on The Bachelorette

(17) Comments | Posted July 11, 2012 | 10:44 AM

Yes, yes, we know I watch The Bachelor and The Bachelorette (um... because it's research for my dating articles, of course). I balk at it, and yet am still drawn in by the over-the-top, sweeping romance of it all. "The moment we jumped off the bridge on our second date,...

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