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We Don't Actually Have to Believe Everything We Think

Posted: 04/07/10 04:40 AM ET

We all have negative thoughts and doubts that come up for us every waking second of every day. They bombard us all the time.

Here are some, just to name a few: "I can't. It's too hard. I'm not smart enough. I'll never get out of the situation I'm in. Who am I to think I can make a difference? I'm nobody. I'm never going to get married. I'm going to be alone forever. I'm never going to get a job or make money..."

And so on and so on... sound familiar? But here's the newsflash: We have the choice not to believe those thoughts! For me, I acknowledge whatever comes up. I acknowledge it, and honor it, no matter how negative or dark it may be. I say "oh, hello old thought or doubt, there you are again!" By observing it, it floats away.

The more we try to ignore or fight those negative, dark thoughts and doubts, the more energy we give them and the more they grow. So I just let them come up... because what we resist persists. So I don't resist those thoughts in my head that still come up telling me that I'm not worthy, not able, not good enough or pretty enough or skinny enough or smart enough or cool enough, etc. I don't fight them. I let them come up. I just chose not to believe them.

The truth is, those thoughts will always come up for everyone, no matter how spiritual a person is or how much work they do on themselves. What changes is how we handle those thoughts. We can chose to let them keep us from living the life we want. We can choose to let them keep us unhappy or unfulfilled. Or we can choose not to believe them.

 
 
 

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