Every parent wants to see their children grow up to be independent and successful adults. But in today's world where attitudes of entitlement prevail, this task can seem daunting.
By setting expectations and boundaries, as well as implementing reasonable and relevant consequences and rewards, parents can help children develop a sense of self-confidence and self-reliance. They'll learn to use sound judgment and become independent, capable and self-sufficient.
Here are six ideas to help teach children vital life skills:
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What do you really want for your kids? What do you mean by success? Does your vision of "success" really translate into contentment for THEM?
#2 Life is unbelievably expensive because investment bakers have been raping the middle class for 40 years so you need to grow fast and make a lot of money.
#3 Being a child is an entry level job, this is a little insane childhood is a time to grow and lean the value of life not money!
# 4 help your kids strategizing the next rung on the ladder.
#5 Skin in the game, yes kids its all game to see who can get the most from every one else.
#6 This wouldn't be so bad if the first five were not so horrible.
1. You CAN always get what you want.
2. Life is unbelievably cheap (back to point 1.)
3. You have no responsibilities in this family.
4. You don't have to think for yourself, Mom and Dad will do it for you.
5. You are not required to contribute any time or effort to the rest of your family.
6. No matter what you do, there will be no consequences - Enjoy!
Isn't one Paris Hilton in this world enough?
2. I never said life was cheap, but the important point is that things that really matter are free.
3. You have a right to exist and be happy in this family without being manipulated by punishment or enticed by rewards. Time to play is not a privilege to be meted out.
4. You have every right to think for yourself and I will use my experience to help you look at the options and make informed decisions in complicated situations.
5. I will treat you with kindness and generosity, and I will expect the same in return.
6. There are always consequences for your actions. Natural ones, not artificially imposed. Even if you have all the money in the world. Even if you are Paris Hilton.
Here is how I see if I am maintaining appropriate kindness towards my kids. I take what I want to say to them and imagine I am saying it to my husband. Picture for a minute what it would feel like if you came home and your husband said to you... "did you do the dishes like I told you?" (clean your room!), "have you payed the bills yet?" (done your homework?) etc. Can you imagine how resentful you would feel and how much you wouldn't want to do what you already knew you had to do? This is the standard way many people treat their children and I am telling you from experience that there is a much more effective way to raise a happy productive child. Kindness, love, generosity, understanding, guidance, RESPECT! That is how it's done. Truly.
Surely, our times are uniquely absurd.
And, furthermore, within the context of our civilization's present predicaments, perhaps 'success' is not altogether a worthy goal for us, much less our children.
Yet another 'false expert' to through in the mix of these perplexing times?
GET A LIFE!!