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Isobel White

Entries by Isobel White

Legal Same-Sex Divorce

(8) Comments | Posted February 17, 2012 | 5:42 PM

Last week's Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals ruling on Prop. 8 brought joy and jubilation, and for at least one Californian in a same-sex marriage, a profound sense of disconnect.

I am one of the over 36,000 individuals who legally married their same-sex partner between June and November 2008...

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Same-Sex Marriage After Maine: What Can We Do Differently?

(10) Comments | Posted November 11, 2009 | 12:45 AM

The cameras are gone now. The lawn signs will slowly disappear. Queer folk of Maine can go back to watching ads for cars and hair gel, not ads that put their humanity up for a popular vote.

And now comes the hard part.

If experiences in California - not to...

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Same Sex Marriage in CA: 8 Reasons Why We Should Lay Off the Debate over 2010 v. 2012

(32) Comments | Posted July 17, 2009 | 4:44 AM

In recent weeks, some prominent LGBT organizations have been attempting to energize the rest of us by holding "2010 v. 2012 forums," where we debate when to return to the ballot box in California and ask voters to approve same-sex marriage. My first reaction was "2012, please -- I'm tired!"...

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Gay-Married At Last

(23) Comments | Posted June 10, 2009 | 3:16 AM

When I was finally pronounced legally married, I wasn't in a church, nor a garden, nor at City Hall. I wasn't with any of my loved ones. In fact, I wasn't even with my wife.

I was on a conference call. My wife Angela was at work; our daughter Norrie...

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Legal Same-sex Marriage: The True Paperwork Reduction Act

(15) Comments | Posted April 15, 2009 | 1:17 PM

The pros and cons of same-sex marriage have been debated endlessly, but there's one advantage that is routinely ignored: saving trees.

Yes, without all the cumbersome and repetitive paperwork same-sex couples now have to complete just to prove they are committed to each other, think of all the forests that...

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Same-Sex Marriage: 5 Years Ago Today

(1) Comments | Posted February 14, 2009 | 3:19 AM

Five years ago today, my partner and I stood in line for hours at SF City Hall, waiting patiently to get our marriage license. I've chronicled how the day felt in this post, so right now I'll just say "Wow! Just like straight couples, we can look back at...

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See, You Can Wear Your Fairy Wings to School!

(5) Comments | Posted January 22, 2009 | 7:30 PM

One morning last week, my daughter wanted to go to preschool as a fairy. Consumed with kindergarten tours and info nights, obsessed with her impending entry into public school -- a place where I think they expect you to wear shoes and clothes that aren't pj's -- I said to...

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A Trip Down Memory Lane Littered with Letters

(0) Comments | Posted January 9, 2009 | 1:40 AM

Twitter x 365 = Holiday Family Newsletter.

My partner and I just finished sending out our holiday Year's cards, featuring an image of our 4-year-old daughter. But to some people, especially the assorted older women who love her, we sent more photos and artwork. And notes. Handwritten. Personalized for...

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Rick Warren: Another Damper on My Chance at Obama-mania

(52) Comments | Posted December 18, 2008 | 2:20 AM

Like everyone else who cares about LGBT equality, election night brought a mix of joy as it became apparent Obama would win, and pain as we realized Prop. 8 would pass. My wife and I spent the evening in Union Square trying to enjoy a birthday dinner with friends before...

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Prop. 8 and our schools -- time to tell it like it is.

(20) Comments | Posted December 12, 2008 | 8:12 PM

One of the most cynical - and successful - claims made during the Yes on Proposition 8 campaign was that unless the proposition passed, our schoolchildren would be subjected to teachings about homosexuality. The No on 8 campaign's response? In essence: as my 4 year old daughter says, "nuh-unh!"


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Have You Hugged an LGBT Person Today?

(38) Comments | Posted November 6, 2008 | 1:55 PM

If not, do. We need it.

Don't get me wrong - somewhere deep inside me, in a place I can't access at this moment, I am thrilled that Obama was elected. I know his presidency will be infinitely better for everything I care about - ending the war with Iraq,...

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For the Fourth Time, Yes I Do

(7) Comments | Posted November 3, 2008 | 10:27 AM

Last month I got married for the 4th time. To the same person. And we've never been divorced.

When my partner Angela and I tied the knot in late September, we became one of the more than 11,000 same-sex couples to be married since the California Supreme Court ruled same-sex...

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