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Wait, Aren't Family Homes Off-Limits?

Posted: 10/12/11 02:30 PM ET

Last weekend, my son and I sat by the window in his bedroom and watched a swarm of skateboarders head towards Wall Street. We talked about their signs, their right to protest, and how lucky he is to live in a country where he can speak freely and march for (or against) anything he believes in. I got teary trying to explain the incredible rights and responsibilities that come with being a citizen of a country as special the United States. He asked if Mama had a boo-boo.

He's two. But hey, you can never start this stuff too early.

I'll come right out with it: I haven't been sure what to make of Occupy Wall Street. I want to get on board, but scrolling through the speeches on their website and the pictures on their Tumblr account, I'm genuinely confused. On the one hand, a transcript asks protesters to envision a brave, new world without capitalism. On the other, there's a picture of a little boy holding up a sheet of paper that says: "I'm almost 6 and my mom can't afford birthday presents for me this year." And while his sad face certainly pulls at my maternal heartstrings, a child's right to toys does not a revolution make.

Here's another sign I had trouble placing in the context of uprising and rebellion: "I graduate college in seven months with a useless degree in Classical Studies. Job prospects: zero. I am in the 99%." While I sympathize greatly with this young student (and her parents who probably saved a bundle to help send her to school), a struggling classics major doesn't exactly evoke images of Tripoli's Martyrs' Square.

Maybe it's time for a quick refresher. Arab Spring wasn't about the major you chose to pursue for college or the inalienable right to something gift wrapped on the day you were born. Protesters in Libya were fighting for (and many of them died for) life, liberty, and democracy. I'm teary just writing it.

Honestly, I wish Occupy Wall Street had smarter leadership. Things like the right "to birthday gifts" and "a job seven months before graduation," make it so easy to pick apart the movement, and that's the real danger. Because under all of this signage, there's a fundamental truth we can't afford to ignore: the growing income gap in this country is a big problem for everybody. Without expansive policy changes, the spread is only going to get worse. I, for one, do not want to leave my child a legacy of excessive inequality and instability.

Yesterday, though, they crossed a line in the sand. Taking to the Upper East Side for their "Millionaire's March," they protested at family homes of the super rich -- big names like Rupert Murdoch and JP Morgan chief exec, Jaime Dimon.

Despite the polarizing wealth distribution in this country, these businessmen (billionaires or not) still have a fundamental right to keep their public and private personas separate. Again, this is no Arab Spring, and Jaime Diamond is no Muammar Gaddafi. We aren't talking about someone who blew up a passenger jet. We aren't talking crimes against humanity or a dictator's stronghold. No matter how large and well furnished these townhouse may be, we're talking about family homes -- and they should be off-limits to protestors.

At the end of the day, this is where these people's kids return from school and gather for the holidays. This is where parents and grandchildren come together to celebrate and to grieve in private. Nothing these guys have (or haven't) done justifies this intrusion of personal space.

Everything I told my toddler on Sunday still stands. We all have a right to protest for (or against) anything we want. March down Broadway. Go to their offices. That's what makes living in this country so great. But we don't have the right to assemble on someone's front doorstep.

So here's my sign: Occupy Wall Street, just stick to Wall Street.

 

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AdamYoksas
A political animal.
05:54 PM on 10/12/2011
People use legislation and policy to enrich private hoseholds. People also use their household wealth to influence public policy. So it seems to me that there is no place that isn't a political place and (by extension) no public place that cannot also be appropriated for private gains. The very notion that some can purchase an "escape" from one's public life in the form of a family home is itself a privilege that many do not have, including the Chinese workers who built the computer this blog was written on.

Ms. Urist claims these executives have "a fundamental right to keep their public and private personas separate." Would she please explain where this "fundamental right" is for the coffee house worker who is randomly drug tested? Where is this "fundamental right" when a man applying for a job gets his Facebook investigated? Where is this "fundamental right" for a fellow who has a few Arab friends and is investigated by intelligence agencies without his knowledge? Where is this "fundamental right" to the woman who wants to end her pregnancy?

It seems to me that there is no "fundamental right" to have a private persona if you are poor. Every one of us live in a time when everything about our private lives can (and is) held against us by many of the very same companies these protestors are rallying against.
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Jac Urist
08:45 AM on 10/13/2011
adamyoksas: of course, fundamental rights to privacy transcend all income levels. Most importantly, rich/poor- every woman possess the right (I strongly believe) to terminate a pregnancy. As for drug testing, ironically, most major wall street firms REQUIRE every employee to pee in the proverbial cup. People who are very clearly in the 1% are subjected to the same humiliation. And in today's day and age, every employer (at least those who are half-awake!) looks at a candidate's social media/online presence to "investigate" their background, before hiring them. Honestly, a responsible mom might even do that for her nanny or babysitters. That's just the modern world we live in. Drunk party pictures (at least, in my case, too many of them posted the night before you have to come to take care of my child) make a lot of parents question your fit as a child's caregiver.

But thank you for making the point (albeit by accident). These rights belong to everybody here, regardless of income. I believe the right to enjoy your family home is one of them too. These guys might be rich, they may be greedy, but they haven't committed mass murder. And neither have their spouses or children.
03:39 PM on 10/12/2011
Estate planner Jacoba Urist - Since you wish to remind us of the virtues of the Arab Spring, maybe it is indeed time for a quick refresher: of the three major modern revolutions upon which all others essentially adhere (American, French, Russian), I don't believe a single one relied upon upper-middle-class moralism to determine what was justified and what wasn't. Regarding the sanctity of the home: the Russians took possession by force of the uber-expensive mansions and estates of the aristocracy and allowed citizens to move in, chasing the rich away, arresting, and often killing them (the lucky ones emigrated to... America!... and took up where they left off). Movements of this nature follow very familiar and predictable patterns (look up 'Thermidor' if you disagree, you won't but you should)... Nascent public protests, upper crust indifference, etc. are just the beginnings of an inevitable course in which the only outcomes - whether good or bad - will be filled with the worst sort of human suffering and misery. This is the true failing of our country and culture: we have allowed what were once relatively reconcilable philosophical differences in governance to degrade into an irreconcilable schism, and are now carelessly playing around with it as if it were your child's toy and not an incendiary flame! If history is our guide, life and death is at stake - don't you realize this? And you protest peaceful demonstrators surrounding a home! Yes it is time for a history refresher!!
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Jac Urist
05:56 PM on 10/12/2011
jeffyskate: Just to clarify, estate planner just means a lawyer who helps people write wills. It's not a dirty word or something that means I work with millionaires. On the contrary, I happen to write free articles for parents so everyone has equal access to information when it comes to protecting their kid's future. Choosing a legal guardian means kids don't land in foster care/or in the middle of some court battle if something happens to their parents. Second, I didn't choose the Arab Spring analogy. Occupy Wall Street's website did. Again, I couldn't agree more. There are huge stakes here: income disparity can't go on, and it certainly can't widen. But I'm not sure there's anything more "upper middle class" than a degree in classics! Talk about out of touch. There are families who can't provide homes or food for their kids.
10:14 AM on 10/13/2011
Fair enough - you shouldn't have to defend your vocation and kudos to you for making efforts to share your expertise fairly. My primary point is that dynamics of this nature are merely waiting for some event to elevate them; when they are elevated the lowest common denominator tends to prevail - a fact no moral outcry will prevent. Secondary point is that yes, unfortunately these issues very much involve families and homes; your line of demarcation seems a bit arbitrary.
06:57 PM on 10/12/2011
'...worst sort of human suffering and misery...life and death is at stake...'?? Wow...I guess drama majors are unemployable too.
10:03 AM on 10/13/2011
Out of curiosity, how do you see our current national predicament resolving? With hugs and handshakes? Hopefully more moderate voices will temper the rhetoric and my grim prediction will prove wrong, however the degree of polarization taking place in our country is very, very serious. Such things have happened before, are you so naive to think they couldn't happen again?
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BuckJ
I read a book once.
03:20 PM on 10/12/2011
The student's statement about being close to obtaining a degree is a preemptive rebuttal to the guaranteed argument that she should have gotten an education or training if she can't find a job. She's starting off with a statement that she's already fulfilled that requirement.

Of course, that's when the other person will normally move the goal posts and move to an argument of no guarantees or start-your-own-business.
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vstillwell
03:06 PM on 10/12/2011
This column really got under my skin. Urist is complaining about a classics major protesting about the economy because this person has no obvious.skill that would translate to the workplace. That would be a fair argument coming from ANYBODY BUT A TAX ATTORNEY.
The last perons on earth that should be commenting about these protests is a tax attorney. Their job is to muck up our tax code. If you have a hard time figuring out how to do your taxes, you can thank people like Urist. If you hate all the loopholes in our tax code, look no farther than Urist.
The only thing worse than a lawyer is a tax lawyer. They have less employable skills than classics majors.
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Jac Urist
03:22 PM on 10/12/2011
vstillwell: tax attorneys do not write the tax code. And there are many different kinds of tax lawyers. I write about estate planning for parents. My goal is to provide free access to information for every mother and father so that they can choose a guardian for their child and make sure their child's future isn't left in the hands of strangers-- social workers, the foster care system-- if something happened to both of them. I spend my time cutting through all the legal mumbo jumbo so parents at every income level have easy, clear help writing their will.
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OneManRoaring
Tech specialist, former educator & active citizen!
02:57 PM on 10/12/2011
A child’s right to toys? Really!? Consider that a metaphor for a living wage? The college major isn’t protesting about her college degree. What she is protesting is that this country once had jobs for everyone and especially any college graduate with writing and research skills and the corporate and banking sectors have ruined the US economy with their greed.

They are protesting the politicians who found it very easy to get in bed with the corporations and banks as long as money was funneled to them for the purchase of the gov’t and the courts. That’s what this protest is about.

I am sorry that OWSers are not as elegant and as organized as one may like, but social movements are messy things.

If the protesters are on a public street, then they have a right to be there and protest. Wouldn’t you agree that some businessmen took advantage of the economic situation over the last decade and padded their pockets without any moral concern for others? Didn't some "unduly" influence the pols? They are/were the contemporary robber barons. If so, then a public street is a fine place to protest as long as it is just protesting!

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Jac Urist
03:39 PM on 10/12/2011
OneManRoaring: I have no problem with messy. But as I say, the big problem-- one we all need to work on fixing immediately-- is the ever widening income gap. These signs aren't helping the cause. They are making it easier for many people to dismiss and disregard the need for fundamental policy change. Someone who had the opportunity to go to college (and major in classics!) is by definition, a lucky member of the educated elite. I've interviewed plenty of parents who can only hope their child gets the chance to attend a university with a classics department.
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OneManRoaring
Tech specialist, former educator & active citizen!
04:22 PM on 10/12/2011
I hate to disagree, but a college education may label one as "educated," (that is another discussion), but it does not place one into the "elite" class in contemporary America.

Trust me, the OWSers are not making it easier to dismiss them. There is way more discussion of the income inequality since OWS than before. Without the mass protest, it was easy to dismiss. There are movements in many cities and they are growing.

Do the pundits and voters dismiss the GOP because Bachmann or Palin make absurd comments?
02:44 PM on 10/12/2011
Personal family homes are off limits? Are you kidding? Perhaps you can be forgiven by simply living in New York City for not understanding the devastation many of your neighbors wreaked on American homeowners. First by creating a real estate bubble, which we now know they knew was going to burst, and second by doing everything they can for foreclose on homeowners, many of whom could be saved by simply lowering interest rates.

As you said, "we're talking about family homes". You're absolutely right. These people lost their homes. The very least you can afford them is the privilege of protesting outside the homes of the people who contributed to this mess.

Furthermore, you should take a moment and actually visit the movement. If everyone who spent an hour writing from their comfortable offices about how misguided the protesters are actually spent a few hours contributing to the discussions downtown, maybe you would begin to see the positive side of what they're doing. They have my respect. New Yorkers need to wake up to the suffering that's going on around the rest of the country.
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Jac Urist
03:53 PM on 10/12/2011
chrismacke: A family losing their home is one of the worst things there is. And, as someone who writes about family finance, one of the most heart breaking parts of the financial meltdown. You should be aware though, many of the parents I've interviewed in New York City (and up and down the eastern seaboard) will never be able to purchase a home in the first place. Prices in the north east can be so unattainable, families struggle to ever have a house of their own.
04:39 PM on 10/12/2011
I'm aware that very few people can afford homes now. I've depleted every bit of savings just to hold onto my place I bought in 2007 before the crash. Not only did I lose every bit of equity, but if I ever end up in foreclosure, I would owe around $80,000 to the bank after they come after me for a deficiency judgement (and they absolutely would).

My point, though, was that many of the people who are participating in Occupy Wall Street, either in person or online, can point to the housing crisis as the reason. That's why I think it's odd to criticize protestors walking on a sidewalk outside of freshly renovated CEO homes after banks have been kicking average people out of their homes for years (in many cases fraudulently). That's why I think the title of your article is a bit absurd. Please Google the article "Invasion of the Home Snatchers" by Rolling Stone.
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larryODBC
02:42 PM on 10/12/2011
when the system does not create opportunity for the young and educated then the system has destroyed its own future... in short, the system has made itself extinct for the sake of greed... wake up!
02:21 PM on 10/12/2011
Next time they ask me to come in on Sunday to meet some stupid deadline I'll just tell them my home time's off-limits and see how they respect that.

Get a clue. This isn't about just what happens at work, this is about everything everywhere. While they retreat into their enclaves, the rest get of the people get foreclosed, laid off, and overworked. It's already in our homes, it's high time they got a taste of this where they live.

Then again, I wouldn't expect someone who writes about estate planning to be on the side of the people in the first place.
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Jac Urist
03:05 PM on 10/12/2011
Royall Spence: for most of us, estate planning means writing a will. Regardless of income, absolutely every parent should designate a guardian for their child so a judge wouldn't be left with the decision if something happened to them. It has absolutely nothing to do with income.
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Adirondacker
07:57 PM on 10/12/2011
It has everything to do with income. If you are low income you don't have any assets to allocate with a will. Naming a guardian implies you know people who have the time, energy and income to take on an extra child or two.
02:20 PM on 10/12/2011
The fight for civil rights started with more basic complaints: the ability to use any water fountain, to use any available restroom, to use the door that everyone else uses, to ride on any available seat on a bus.

Marching down a public street in front of a private home is not a crime and shouldn't offend the occupants of said house. If the children ask questions maybe the parents will summon the courage to tell their children that those people who are marching in front of their house is a direct result of their actions at work, after all those people's work lives have impacted those people in the street's home lives.
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Jac Urist
08:54 AM on 10/14/2011
hi hawhite2000: sorry for the delay. Trying to respond to as many comments as I can. 100% agree: marching down a public street is not a crime. But again, as a I said in a comment elsewhere, I hold my party (and this movement) to a higher standard. I clearly state in the article-- the stakes are incredibly high. We need policy change NOW. Income disparity like this can't go on or spread. That said, there's a difference between what is technically "legal" and the right thing to do. I hope to teach my son the difference. I don't think it's fair or just to march on these people's homes (as opposed to a situation I outline like say, a dictator/mass murderer). I also think it obscures the message. This is not about "class warfare." This is about solving unemployment, making college affordable, making sure family's can provide adequately for their children (shelter/food), making sure there is access to health care.
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vstillwell
02:20 PM on 10/12/2011
Urist, I don't believe the classical major student is the norm. The small city I live in has over a 10-percent unemployment rate and over 20-percent under-employment rate. No one here is a classics major. I would think that someone who writes about estate planning could see through the outliers to the heart of the problem. I'll help you out, even though I'm a busy accountant and you are a quasi-journalist. Take a look at wealth distribution chart for the U.S. over the last 100 years. That might help you zero in on why those people are protesting.
As far as your house goes, you live in the financial hub of the world. You know, the place where AIG, Goldman Sachs, etc. are located. The place where Lehman used to be located. So, I think you're going to get some blowback from some protests.
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Jac Urist
04:17 PM on 10/12/2011
I absolutely agree. As I say, the real problem is obviously the ever-widening, excessive income disparity in this country and that's what we should be talking about. When a four year college will cost 400,000 in the near future and employed men and women can't even hope to buy a home-- we've got problems. People holding signs like the classics major (and there are plenty of them on the tumblr account) are only hurting the fundamental message-- or what should be the fundamental message about occupy wall street. And that's fixing the 10% unemployment rate in cities/towns across the nation. Many of whom have families to feed and shelter.
02:17 PM on 10/12/2011
History show that they have two alternatives, People with signs outside, or people with pitchforks outside. I believe that currently the protestors are on the correct side of that line.