Jag Carrao -- a.k.a. Malibu Rules Girl -- is a relationship expert and dating coach. After many years of advising friends on romance, she trained with Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, authors of The Rules to help other women practice the hard-to-get-but-easy-to-be-with approach to finding true love and avoiding heartache. Prior to getting married and launching her coaching practice, she was a on-air and online contributor to MSNBC, and has published articles on culture and women's issues in the New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, the New York Post, the Los Angeles Times and Women’s Quarterly.

Blog Entries by Jag Carrao

Holiday Dating Do's and Don'ts

Posted December 1, 2009 | 03:08 PM (EST)


Other than staking out her territory under the mistletoe, what can the single woman do to leverage the holidays to her advantage?  There’s plenty of tactics she can employ to advance (or at least not sabotage!) her romantic goals – whether her aim is simply to meet someone new or...

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The Rules Redux: How To Be Engaged By Christmas

62 Comments | Posted November 16, 2009 | 02:11 PM (EST)


What does the girl who’s been happily dating her boyfriend for several months really want for Christmas this year?

 

An engagement ring.

 

Christmas music and movies have helped stoke seasonal-hopes for happy endings.  Think of the lovers who “face unafraid, the plans that [they] made, while walking in...

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The Rules Redux: 4 Mind Games Men Play

107 Comments | Posted November 9, 2009 | 03:42 PM (EST)


My last blog on top dating mistakes women make caused an uproar among male readers who complained my advice encouraged women to “play games.” Not a huge surprise, since the most common dating blunders are a boon to lazy men looking for casual flings. But a bit ironic, given...

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The Rules Redux: Five Dating Mistakes Women Make...And How You Can Avoid/Undo Them

307 Comments | Posted October 22, 2009 | 08:19 AM (EST)


"We all make mistakes."  Nowhere is the cliché more apt than when it comes to relationships.  As a dating coach I've been privileged to help other women recognize and break free of self-defeating patterns and habits that have kept them from realizing the relationship of their dreams.

The most...

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The Rules Redux: Language Barrier Love And The Surprising Advantages of Dating Someone You Can't Understand

76 Comments | Posted October 13, 2009 | 07:14 PM (EST)


Is communication the key to long-lasting relationships? Not according to Sean Connery. The former James Bond star credits the language barrier for the longevity of 30-year marriage to his French wife, Micheline. Though no paragon of husbandly virtues, Connery may be on to something. 

As a dating coach...

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The Rules Redux: The Five Red Flags of Online Dating

15 Comments | Posted October 5, 2009 | 03:30 PM (EST)


Want to avoid the disappointments and aggravation of online dating? Girlfriends, you know what I'm talking about: the "no-show" flakes, the chronic complainers, the promising first couple of dates that lead nowhere? The answer is all in selection. Signing up for online dating can be a little like learning to...

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