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From 'Mommy' to 'Mama' to 'Mom'

06/01/2015 03:48 pm ET | Updated Jun 01, 2016

Last night, my 9-year-old daughter walked up to me and said, "I love you, Mommy."

Which meant she wanted something.

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It used to not be like that. My daughter's first word was 'Mommy,' and she used it a lot.

"Mommy, can you pick me up?"

"Mommy, I can play with this toy?"

"Mommy, you are my favorite."

I know for a lot of people, it can be a bit overwhelming to answer to a child's every call, but I never got tired of this when she was little. I was fortunate enough to stay home with her and we spent our afternoons wandering through the park, or trying out the Mommy and Me classes. I don't remember the transition from 'Mommy' to 'Mama,' because it was a gradual one. When she started school, she used them both interchangeably for a while, and then I was just 'Mama.' The fun person who showed up at school with snacks or to read with the kids.

But then, very suddenly, 'Mom' happened. My life changed when I got a divorce, and we all had to grow up a little bit. Out of that came 'Mom.' The person she turned to for advice, the person she FaceTimed from a friend's house. I became the person that was no longer involved in the fun so much as the facilitator of it.

This is a difficult role to slip into. My house is the house where all the kid come to hang out, and I know my daughter doesn't always want her mom hanging around listening to all the gossip. (Don't worry, I still listen -- I know they need privacy, but I am helicopter enough to want to know what is going on in their lives.) I love my new role, and I love watching my little girl grow into a beautiful tween with thoughts, ideas, jokes and just an amazing personality all her own. But I will always miss being 'Mommy.'

Recently, we threw a big slumber party and had all of her friends over. They popped in a movie and everyone snuggled in to watch.

"Mommy, will you come in and watch Harry Potter with us?" I heard from the living room as I popped the popcorn.

Mommy? What is that all about? Oh, she hates snakes and there's one in the beginning of that movie. "I'll be right there."

I slid in next to her and passed around the popcorn.

"Thanks, Mom." And just like that, it was gone.

But sometimes, just sometimes, I get to be 'Mommy' again. And (even if she wants something) I am totally OK with that.

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