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Attitude of Gratitude

Posted: 11/25/10 10:00 AM ET

Tis the season to be... what? Grateful, Gluttonous, Generous, Greedy, Gregarious, Good?

The bombardment of messages, and yes I have heard my first Christmas song, "Silver Bells" ("ring a ling"), the messages tell us to -- charge and want, bigger and flatter is better, buy and eat. Buy and eat. Buy and eat. It feels like a lean holiday a comin'. Buy with WHAT? The country is on a financial diet and credit has lost its street cred, and we are all cutting back and rethinking our lives and how to change the patterns that brought us here.

I listened to an on-air conversation about reusable grocery bags and an upcoming ban on the thin, plastic ones that markets offer. I hear a lot about environmental impact on one side and job losses on another, but nowhere did I hear someone say, changing anything is HARD, messy and complicated, be it on a manufacturing level, corporate and consumer. To change is to think, and we don't like to do so.

I'm grateful and thankful that we can think. That we live in a country where we can think and not necessarily be put in prison, tortured or killed because we THINK DIFFERENTLY than others. We ALL think differently. No two minds or hearts are the same. The holidays are a time for family and friends to gather and talk and collectively think about what we can do to change. Change our spending, our eating habits our addictions to media and electronics and talk about where we can shift our attitudes and actions and make some change for our own lives and then, in doing so, the lives of others.

This Thanksgiving I am mostly grateful for my own mind's ability to change my attitude and the message. Act not distract. Give not get. Talk and listen. Talk and listen. Talk and listen.

 
 
 
Tis the season to be... what? Grateful, Gluttonous, Generous, Greedy, Gregarious, Good? The bombardment of messages, and yes I have heard my first Christmas song, "Silver Bells" ("ring a ling"), the ...
Tis the season to be... what? Grateful, Gluttonous, Generous, Greedy, Gregarious, Good? The bombardment of messages, and yes I have heard my first Christmas song, "Silver Bells" ("ring a ling"), the ...
 
 
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07:07 PM on 11/30/2010
Love your work Jamie Lee. Keep it up.
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Kris Bui
10:39 AM on 11/30/2010
Right on, Mrs. Curtis!! Be PROactive not REactive, I always say! By the way, Today I Feel Silly is my childrens' favorite book! We've had it for years and look forward to getting your newest one. Cheers to you and your family. :)
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11:16 PM on 11/28/2010
Interesting point of view, Mrs Curtis, thanks for sharing it with us. I would add that changing mentalities is a tough process in any culture and whatever point in time, just because we all think differently and based on that and other factors, we all adjust differently to ... environment, but I consider it as something achievable if there is a will for change.
Wish you & your loved ones a wonderful 2011!
09:20 PM on 11/28/2010
You are so talented, you have a beautiful heart and mind, Ms. Curtis! You have no idea! And, you have no idea how much I love you! You just keep getting better and better!

Even though I'm a girl, and even though we have an age-difference, you are my celebrity-crush!
I love you, Jamie-Lee!
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acacia72
08:27 PM on 11/28/2010
Merry Xmas to you to Jamie Lee. Now go enjoy Barbados while the rest of us rot.
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plages
Take a plunge
07:05 PM on 11/28/2010
Not only is Jamie lee Curtis an absolute knock out, but her thought's and words are spot on with a tremendous amount of feelings!
07:37 PM on 11/28/2010
fanned because I agree totally
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03:22 PM on 11/28/2010
Interesting point of view, Mrs Curtis, thanks for sharing with us. I would add that changing mentalities is a tough process in any time and in any culture, just because we all think differently and based on that and other factors, we all adjust differently to ... environment, but I considere it as something achievable if there is enough will for change under any circumstances.
Wish you & your love ones a wonderful 2011!
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Lisa Kaas Boyle
03:00 PM on 11/28/2010
Jamie: I love your post and I am thankful for all the wonderful books you have written that have encouraged thinking in my home! Regarding change, yes it is often difficult, but that is a poor excuse for avoiding change. Some changes are so simple and can have such huge positive impacts. Like changing from plastic bags to reusable bags - simple change, huge impact in benefits to the environment and saved taxpayer dollars that can be spent on creating good instead of cleaning up plastic waste. Please take a look at the site dedicated to the recent TEDx on plastic pollution, www.TEDxGreatPacificGarbagePatch.com and also the site www.PlasticPollutionCoalition.org for more information on the impacts of plastic bags on the environment, wildlife, and even human health. Thanks again for inspiring thought and dialogue on yet another important subject.
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Fusero
12:31 PM on 11/28/2010
I think we also need to keep in mind that many families get torn up during the holidays by attempting to talk about current events and politics. I have right-wing in-laws who have no tolerance for any kind of dissent, force their opinion on you, and give my spouse intense distress since we are forced to keep quiet or put our relationship with her family at stake. To be around that energy, and those kinds of intentions, is toxic, full of blame, and ruinous to the holidays. We've dealt with these issues by disengaging and letting them be who they are, but beyond that we have not resolved them. This kind of situation, I think, would be an excellent topic to grapple with for Jamie Lee in post about life during the holidays and for us all to discuss.
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02:30 AM on 11/30/2010
I have the same problem with my left-wing in-laws. I can't get a word in edgewise, and they spend most of the holiday preaching to anyone who will listen how to live their lives ... e.g. no more plastic bags, driving only hybrid cars, etc.
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Natalie Pace
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11:25 AM on 11/28/2010
Great Blog, Jamie Lee. And it was inspirational to see you there each week supporting your friend Jennifer Grey during her quest to win Dancing with the Stars. She was stunning, so agile, making 50 look like the new 20. But, given the challenges, physical & emotional, having a friend there clapping and cheering and celebrating each milestone was power fuel to keep her pushing on. This holiday season, I think, more clapping and celebrating. Happy holidays to you and your family.
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alexii
01:42 PM on 11/28/2010
I'd never be Jennifer's friend but I'm funny like that. Can we all say IRELAND?
10:50 AM on 11/28/2010
Consumerism is an incessant drumbeat in our culture, but for all that we're now enduring a fusillade of black-, cyber-, and small business- hyphenated shopping days, we all feel the quiet moments of reflection welling up in us too. At midnight in the Catholic cathedral near us -- not my denomination, but I've been a few times -- even the Catholics stop gossiping during the mass to watch that moment of silence when the lights are down.

On Christmas Eve, after church, my little family and I turn off the electrics. The only wired light in our house then is the string of lights on the tree. We read bits and pieces of favorite Christmas books and stories, and we talk about them, by candlelight. And then we go to bed.

We need to talk about things we should change, sure. Honestly, though, we just need to hear each other's reassuring voices sometimes. Even those everyday things are lost, a lot of the time, in the welter of dense sound.
07:43 AM on 11/28/2010
The way you brought together consumerism and a possible ban on plastic grocery bags made me realize what a perfect example this is of an empty gesture. We start using ecologically friendly bags, when the truth is that, if we bought several plastic bags a day and threw them away unused, but otherwise bought no more than we could carry in our hands, the environment would not only be better off, but we'd probably stop global warming...
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08:52 PM on 11/28/2010
and wouldn't your idea be great! we could all see them, in the ocean, when we fly west. i think the mass is something like 15 miles across. plastic bags and crap.
10:05 PM on 11/28/2010
Eliminating eyesores, as seen from planes, that's your environmental priority? Well, don't worry. My idea would reduce the total garbage production so much that discretely disposing of some plastic bags would be a cakewalk.

In fact, plastic bags are fairly easily disposed of. Firstly, they can be recycled into new plastic bags several times over, and then into other plastic products. Secondly, used as fuel in a power plant, they generate the same energy and pollution as the oil they once were. Until we no longer rely on fossil fuel at all, they can replace some of the oil.

And, of course, with my idea, there would be a lot less cr@p.
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Razpootin
02:11 AM on 11/28/2010
Thank you Jamie, I thing you are the cutest and the most sweet and spiritual person. I hope your message does insite people to think.
Humans being creatures of habit will esily revert to gluttony and self indulgance.
Change is the greatest challenge to humans; even though nothing is permanent except change.
The change that I would like to see is that we act not distract so that at all times of the year we have compasssion, moral integrity, forgiveness, generosity, responsbility, appreciation for cultural diversity, the ability to talk less and listen more and the courage to change.
Thank you for your insightful words.
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waldopepper
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01:28 AM on 11/28/2010
I am grateful that I don't know how good I have it.
01:12 AM on 11/28/2010
It is important to think about what we are grateful for because we are constantly bombarded with ads we watch on TV and hear on radio that subtly suggest we do NOT have everything we should have, and because of that we are not happy.

Specifically, they subtly suggest that their product will make us happy and fulfilled. The constant bombardment with these ads leads many to feel they are lacking in life and must buy, buy, buy to get to that nirvana promised in the ads.

Think about what you DO have. You will quickly realize it is a huge amount - especially compared to most humans on this earth who lack enough food and have shoddy shelter.

Talk to yourself and family and consciously enumerate what you have, starting with health, family, a roof of some kind. a land that supplies at least basic foods and a government that is good - but we need to get involved with that government more because the wealthy want what you have and are getting it.