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Jane Adams Ph.D.
Jane Adams Ph.D. is a social psychologist and postparent coach. Her books incude “I’m Still Your Mother” and “When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us.” She is currently writing “Permanent Parenthood: How the Baby Boomers Redefined Independence and Reinvented the Family Life Cycle.”

Entries by Jane Adams Ph.D.

Not A Bad Day To Die

(0) Comments | Posted September 10, 2014 | 6:23 AM

Movies at midday are one of the pleasures of aging; the theaters aren't crowded, the tickets are cheaper, and afterward you can fill up on happy hour hors d'oeuvres and skip dinner.

I was headed for "The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel" on a balmy, blue sky day in June a...

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A Better Idea Than a Bucket List

(2) Comments | Posted August 27, 2014 | 11:45 AM

Everyone I know is downsizing. We still come home from our travels with souvenirs for the grandchildren, but nothing more to adorn, decorate or set off the too many things we already own. "Not one more thing for the Box," declares Henry, which is where he puts the chotchkes his...

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I Just Can't Quit You, Jeff

(2) Comments | Posted August 27, 2014 | 11:03 AM

The disclaimer comes first. In Amazon's early days, I had a regular gig reviewing mystery novels -- it was like being a taster at the chocolate factory! Still, it wasn't enough to convince me to invest in their stock, which could then be had for even less than my occasional...

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Can Social Media Predict Behavior?

(1) Comments | Posted July 16, 2013 | 12:00 AM

"The Night Without a Riot," David Wiegel's weekend post in Slate covering the post-Zimmerman verdict and the absence of social unrest predicted in the wake of an acquittal, is cause to consider how social media shapes expectations about social behavior. Has Twitter become our national ID, a seething...

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Attention Must Be Paid, Even By Fiat

(0) Comments | Posted July 8, 2013 | 2:15 PM

The news that China has had to officially remind its citizens to look after their elderly parents rippled across the tranquil watering holes of summer afternoons like pebbles tossed into a pond.

While trying (or not) to let go of our grown kids and enjoy the responsibiity-free...

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What Kind Of Parents Were We?

(5) Comments | Posted May 26, 2013 | 9:04 AM

"What have you been doing since graduation?"

It's the kind of question you hear from former classmates who still look vaguely familiar, even if you haven't seen them in decades and have no idea who they are. No one at reunion replies "housewife" any longer, not even the elegant, bird-like...

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Will They Still Love Us When We're 64?

(0) Comments | Posted June 29, 2012 | 4:40 PM

In sixth grade I had a best friend who called her parents by their first names. I thought that was very cool and tried it at home, but my father and mother just laughed before they made one thing perfectly clear: They were not my friends, and therefore not to...

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How Close Is Too Close To Your Grown Kids?

(3) Comments | Posted June 19, 2012 | 3:11 PM

According to recent academic research, depending on your parents for life's necessities past the time when you were expected to provide them for yourselves isn't as soul-destroying as it might have felt to them when they were your age. In fact, it's brought you closer -- a lot...

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Permanent Parenthood, Whether We Like It or Not

(1) Comments | Posted June 18, 2012 | 6:36 PM

With births to unmarried women continuing to rise -- 4 out of 10 in 2009, a two-decade increase of 46% -- it's clear that the real threat to the sanctity of marriage isn't coming from gay couples wanting to marry. A close look at the data reveals the...

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Why Kids Don't Leave Home -- It's Not (Just) The Economy

(7) Comments | Posted May 31, 2012 | 10:34 AM

By the time PolitiFact tracked a frightening statistic about how many recent and current college graduates (85%) will be moving in with their parents this year to its source and proved it was a hoax, I was on the hunt, spurred on by the repetition of this figure...

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