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Janell Burley Hofmann is the author of the book, iRules: What Every Tech-Healthy Family Needs to Know About Selfies, Sexting, Gaming and Growing Up. She is also a speaker and consultant on topics like technology, media, health, relationships and personal growth.

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5 Tiny Stories From SxSW

(0) Comments | Posted March 18, 2015 | 5:54 PM

I had a glass of chardonnay. You drank dark beers. The sun was incredible on the restaurant patio. You radiated youth and tech world, start up company bliss. We talked about family. You told me that you fell in love with your baby sister when she was born. And you...

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I Come Here For Answers Too

(0) Comments | Posted January 30, 2015 | 3:35 PM

During holiday break, my husband and I took our three daughters on a wintery Cape Cod trail hike. They were resisting us. They were cold. Tired. Just wanted to go back home after our visit to the coffee shop. We always do this to them. We always make them walk....

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Our 'Slow Tech' Family iRules

(1) Comments | Posted December 30, 2014 | 2:47 PM

For years, we have been a 'Slow Tech' family. We have worked hard to live in balance with technology, using it mindfully and deliberately. But as our family grows and changes along with the technology, this approach is becoming more of a challenge. We are working at it. It's not...

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How Celebrities' Stolen Pictures Can Help You Talk to Your Teens About Sexting

(0) Comments | Posted November 4, 2014 | 12:48 PM

1. The recent celebrity picture robbery involved adults. Adults can choose to have naked pictures or not -- "should or shouldn't" can be part of your lively family discussion, but robbery is not a natural consequence of having naked pictures.

2. The celebrities were invaded and violated. Privacy is...

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Slow Tech Living Brings Tech Health

(0) Comments | Posted October 1, 2014 | 6:32 PM

During the past few years I have been talking, encouraging, and preaching The Slow Tech Movement. On the road at speaking engagements, in private consults and in my newly published book, iRules: What Every Tech Healthy Family Needs to Know About Selfies, Sexting, Gaming & Growing Up, Slow Tech livin'...

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18 Things I Want My Son To Know Before He Starts High School

(5) Comments | Posted August 25, 2014 | 12:30 PM

It's not that I don't think you're ready. You're active and smart and social. You work and set goals to meet them. You make consistently good choices. You have a compass suited for self-direction. You've grown taller than me. You've even grown away from me -- pushing back, questioning --...

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The Beauty of Device-Free Days

(0) Comments | Posted June 19, 2014 | 9:23 AM

Often when celebrating holidays or birthdays in my honor, I outline my special requests on our large family white board: hot coffee, breakfast, handmade notes and drawings singing my praise. I also list my wishes for that particular day's adventure. Last fall, on my birthday, it was a rainy mountain...

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Everything I Needed to Know, I Learned From My Mom

(0) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 6:30 PM

1. Education matters. If it takes four years or 20. It is an investment in opportunity, self-confidence and a sacred value. Don't take it for granted. Not ever.

2. Believe in equality. If the 8-year-old girls' athletic uniforms and fields aren't as good as the 8-year-old boys' uniforms and...

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The Slow Tech Movement

(0) Comments | Posted May 6, 2014 | 9:09 AM

The hustle of family life -- work, school, appointments, practice, homework, dinner, bed -- is constant. We move in and out of activities and commitments with ferocity. Some days, I'm certain all I really say to my children, in one way or another, is "move." As in, let's go --...

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Device-Free in Disney: A Survival Story

(0) Comments | Posted February 27, 2014 | 2:01 PM

Recently, I was facilitating a parent workshop on building tech-healthy families. It was a roundtable discussion and we were really able to dig into specific examples, challenges and strategies around technology and parenting. Later that night, I started thinking about their stories, their families. Some were parenting the very young,...

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The Christmas I'll Carry

(0) Comments | Posted January 10, 2014 | 4:53 PM

For some time, I've wanted to write about the holidays and celebrations and Christmas and family. I've wanted to talk about all the magic buried in the chaos and hold it up -- to share with you and to remind myself. But the season is so, that when it's over,...

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What I Know One Year After Giving My Teenager an iPhone Contract

(3) Comments | Posted January 2, 2014 | 11:41 AM

In 2012, I sat down and wrote a list of rules for my teenage son, Gregory, to follow after receiving an iPhone for Christmas. He read it, laughed at how on point it was and agreed to it. The viral, global response and professional opportunities spawned from that...

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Dear Holiday Parent

(3) Comments | Posted November 20, 2013 | 7:25 AM

Dear Holiday Parent,

As a writer and speaker on parenting and the "tech and respect" movement, this is the core question I hear over and over again: "Is my child ready?" It comes in different forms about all sorts of technology -- portable electronics, e-readers, video games, smartphones and...

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A Puppy For My Girl

(6) Comments | Posted September 29, 2013 | 9:49 AM

To Ella,

I am about to make all of your dreams come true. See, this week, while you're at school -- working and playing and weaving your way into a new year as a fourth grader, Daddy and I will kiss you good bye, travel over that great big...

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How I Learned to Stay Still

(6) Comments | Posted September 8, 2013 | 10:31 AM

I rally my son one spring Saturday morning to get moving. I have to finish some work at my office and I need him to play with our girls while I do. I could leave them all home, in a heap on the couch, plugged in to their games, buried...

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Grandparents: The Sacred Things I Carry

(1) Comments | Posted May 31, 2013 | 2:14 PM

By the time I was born, not one of my three living grandparents were married or raising families anymore. Some were only married briefly, some spent the second half of their lives living apart by choice. They had sacrificed and pushed through life with great challenge. But I never saw...

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The iPhone Contract Heard Round the World

(8) Comments | Posted March 20, 2013 | 6:03 PM

On Christmas morning, we gave our 13-year-old son an iPhone. He dug through the refrigerator-size box to find it buried, wrapped and hidden under endless paper to keep him fooled. When he saw it, he looked at me suspiciously and asked "Is this real?" He smiled wide, his genuine boyhood...

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My Daughter, My Teacher

(45) Comments | Posted January 11, 2013 | 10:31 AM

I call over the stairs for the third time this morning, "Wake up! Get up! Let's Move!" Even with ten hours of sleep my third grade girl is sluggish and weary. I climb the stairs and pull myself up over her top bunk. I bring myself close to her warm...

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À mon adolescent: un contrat d'utilisation pour ton iPhone, avec amour

(17) Comments | Posted January 7, 2013 | 8:14 AM

Ce billet a été initialement publié dans Le HuffPost Screensense.

Mon cher Gregory:

Joyeux Noël! Tu es maintenant le fier propriétaire d'un iPhone. Ça alors! À 13 ans, tu es déjà sage et responsable et tu mérites ce cadeaux. Mais si tu l'acceptes, il faudra suivre certaines règles....

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Al mio tredicenne, un contratto per l'iPhone da tua mamma, con amore

(70) Comments | Posted January 6, 2013 | 11:00 PM

Caro Gregory,

buon Natale! Ora sei il fiero proprietario di un iPhone. Accidenti! Sei un tredicenne buono e responsabile e ti meriti questo regalo. Ci sono però alcune regole per accettarlo. Leggi con attenzione il seguente contratto. Spero tu capisca che il mio compito è di crescerti e farti diventare...

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