Technology: Embrace It, Fear It, Live It

03/05/2015 11:18 pm ET | Updated May 05, 2015

You know when you're with your friends, but you're not really with your friends? Simply put, they're technically with their phones.

And all you want to say is, "Hey guys! How are your phones?"

And still, there they are still scrolling through Instagram as if each post is going to be deleted within two seconds, ignoring your every word.

Don't get me wrong, I'm guilty of it too; but I think it's important to be aware of the fact that we allow technology to control the critical moments of what we like to call life. Let's change perspective.

Without technology, I would not be able to keep in touch with my best friends I met in Milan whom encompass Ohio, Chicago and Toronto. I would not be able to tell them how much I wish they were here for my birthday, drinking endless craft beer or how I wish we could just pack our bags and travel to another country for merely 50 euros. I would not be able to tell my grandmother that I love her, even when she is approximately 9,000 miles too far for a hug. Most importantly, I would not be able to remind my friends and family I'm still here even though I'm not there.

Technology is a powerful tool we use to keep in touch with loved ones, but sometimes we let technology dictate our lives.

I've lost control many times, taking too much time reading about what's going on in pop culture and taking too much time trying to decide which picture to post, or which filter to use.

However, as I reflect on the woman I want to be, I know that all the various times I've cooped up in my room constantly clicking on pop culture articles, or been on my phone rather than actually conversed with the people around me, I could have utilized that time to practice the things I'm passionate about. I could have been actually making memories with my friends and family.

From all the times I've let go of my phone, I continue to learn how crucial it is to experience life: to take trips to the beach, adventure in a different city, witness and experience life first-hand.

The memories I hold onto from the different stages and different places I've been in life may not be all captured on Facebook or Instagram, but I know I've been having the time of my life.

As a tech-savvy millennial, I've noticed how detrimental technology can be to living in the moment. Fellow millennials are attached to free Wi-Fi, rather than freedom. I think it's time to realize how lucky some of us are to live a life of freedom and to cherish moments of bliss.

Technology is not evil. We are.

We need to not blame our laptops, our tablets, our phones; but instead, blame ourselves for lack of better control. Technology is an aid to society. We just need to know how to control it. We're in this life to not exist but to coexist. Life is about living and learning, and we need to learn how to embrace life.