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Truisms To Learn and Love By

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Following this self-therapy exercise every day for just four weeks can help boost your positive feelings about yourself. People tend to marry at their level of self-esteem. Anything that contributes to feeling better about yourself will help you to draw the dates and a mate who match the new and improved version of you!

Put post-its on the mirror, a card in your wallet, and a reminder message on the computer. Don't just read the truisms that resonate with you, keep them coming at you until your nod of agreement has become your next new habit.

Hope is not a strategy. Visualizing your goal is great but the pretty picture must be followed by effort and action.

Don't go shopping for food or love without knowing exactly what you want and need.

Raise your sense of self-worth before you date or you might choose a mate who's not worth your while.

Let every date get to know the real you from the start. Just be sure to start with the most positive possible version of you.

You wouldn't take a job because of the office building. Inner beauty tends to get prettier over time while a lack of it will leave you wondering what you saw in the first place.

Most men will dress differently if they get a positive physical reaction. In short: they usually don't care that much about clothes, but they do care about getting laid.

By the time a man sees you naked, he is more likely to be focused on enjoying than judging.

You can't eliminate all of the stress from your life, but do reduce where you can. Stress makes you haggard, harried, impatient, and much more likely to reject great potential just because they are not yet perfect.

If you are ready for love, you create the right time and place when you meet the right person.

Listen up: practice good listening skills in all of your relationships, so when you find the love of your life, you'll be ready to hear what he or she is saying.

If you feel worse about yourself when you're around anyone, quit rationalizing their good points, they simply aren't worth being around.

If you absolutely cannot let go of being annoyed by a trait of your loved one, it probably won't just fade a way. Address it with kindness.

No one is going to marry you to be alone. If you are serious about getting married, you need to get serious about your work/life balance starting now.

Country Western song title wisdom: "It's hard to kiss the lips at night that chewed your ass out all day long" (Vince Gill and Rodney Crowell).

Negativity is extremely unattractive, and can doom you to love failure.

Even if they do mean well, the road to love hell could be paved with their
good intentions.

Rough doesn't always have a diamond inside. If a diamond doesn't emerge with minor excavation, stop mining.

Do let the sunrise on your anger. With more sleep and less alcohol, you'll probably have less anger.

Character assassination is not foreplay.

Pushing a man to iabel your relationship before he thinks it's time is like putting a cross in front of a vampire.

Let over be over. If a past relationship had been the right one, it probably would have worked out for you.

Put on a happy face. A smile is the most attractive accessory you can wear. Your happiness level is going to be your best self-marketing tool.

Enthusiasm is contagious. If you have it, others will want to catch it and you will have draw. Rarely are people attracted to someone they fear may put them to sleep.

Get good at rejection. The loss of deep and/or lengthy love relationships require grieving, whatever the reason for the end. Brief dating relationships do not. If your past relationship was dating briefly, move forward now.

A huge element in compatibility is the feeling that you have a helpmate-someone who wants to help you reach your goals and develop as a person. With this base, staying together is relatively easy.

Either you feel great about yourself when you're with someone, or he or she is not the one for you. No exception to the rule.

Don't marry without believing the man or woman right in front of you is 100 percent lovable, livable, and likable.

Love is more than just a feeling. It's an action verb.

Your personal behavioral therapy starts one step followed by many repeats. Use the truisms that you want to live by one a day every day for your four-week attitude adjustment program. I like to think of them as fortunes from a fortune cookie, when you get a good one that resonates with you -- you hold on to it and keep it!