04/26/2010 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

National Eating Disorder Awareness Week: 3 Minute Cure

If your girth is increasing while your happiness is decreasing; if you feel like you are about to explode and/or implode; if you think that you may have an eating disorder, then read this!

Here follows an email I received from one of my readers that I am sure we can all relate to. A valuable lesson that can help you with your healthy living (and thinking) plan.

Dear Janice ~ I have zero will power. I can't stick to anything. I am tired of all this weight I have on my hips, thighs and belly. I just don't know how to get rid of it. I keep eating too much all of the time! Help!!! ~ Susan (note: name changed for the purpose of anonymity)

Dear Susan ~ Before you begin your healthy eating plan, might I suggest that you first look at the belief systems that are present in your language?

Your subconscious mind is taking in everything you say, embedding those thoughts and acting upon them. Basically, this is a powerful example of negative self-hypnosis! Let's take a look at what you say...

1. "I have zero will power." Zero? None whatsoever? Please think of a time -- even if only for a brief minute -- that you did exhibit will power.

2. And... as I love to say, "There is no such thing as will power; only want power." You have to want it enough -- no if, and or buts -- about it.

3. "I can't stick to anything." Another blanket statement! Really, nothing whatsoever, at all???

4. Instead of saying, "I can't stick to anything." Say this: "I don't know how to follow my food plan, YET! I am investigating, exploring and discovering ways to make this work for me. One step at a time."

5. "I am tired ..." is a tiring statement. How about, "I am ready to work at this and change the way I think, talk and eat."

6. "Get rid of it." What might it be like to say '"I am exploring ways of letting 'it' go?" I don't know about you, but -- for me -- getting rid of something feels a bit aggressive. If it works for you -- okay -- but I kind of steer my brain toward a gentler way -- how about 'let go of the excess weight?'

7. "I am eating too much all of the time." All of the time? Another blanket statement. AND -- "I am..." is an identity statement. When you hear yourself saying "I am ..." remember that you are defining yourself, in this case as a person who eats too much all of the time. How else might you define yourself, in a positive way?

Language is important. Our actions follow our thoughts. Your first step to healthy living may well be to simply listen to and observe your thoughts, your words, the phrases that you spin and then, if need be, stop and rewrite them.

How much better do you feel now that you are infusing positive language into your thoughts and beliefs?

Thanks to Susan for sending in your email that is ripe with delicious learning and possibility. ~ Janice

Sometimes our language alone can send us spinning into a negative space of feeling overwhelmed.

Take 3 minutes now to write down how you are going to -- today -- explore, investigate and discover how to change your thoughts and actions, in the most positive terms possible.

Your gain IS my pain. How can I help you?


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