The Best 'Stay Fat' Strategies

Especially when it comes to weight loss, people sometimes have to see the picture of failure before they can be motivated toward success.

One day, I was on the phone with a client. Jo was in the dumps, feeling defeated, and telling me how she pretty much felt like a failure. "Why can't I lose weight?"

Suddenly, it hit me. I said, "Jo, you know you really are a major success."

"HUH?" she replied.

"That's right. You are quite successful at NOT losing weight. I'm not sure if you aware of it or not, but you have put a brilliant strategy in place."

I asked Jo to make a fun list to catapult her out of the "I can't" rut. She laughed, but as she wrote, her energy shifted dramatically. Here's Jo's list--maybe it can bust your rut too!

1. Beat Yourself Up

Do this daily, or even more often. Tell yourself that you can't do it, that you are not smart enough, pretty enough, rich enough, young enough, talented enough, or even tall enough. That's right, tell yourself that you are just not good enough, plain and simple. Beat yourself up, and feel bad.

2. Hate Fat People

Hate fat and fat people, and make every effort to dislike yourself. Distaste for obesity in America started growing in the 1860s. First the term 'porky' was coined, followed by 'jumbo,' and then 'butterball.' Keep the tradition going. Call yourself names such as 'you fat pig' or 'oinker.' This goes along well with method #1, beating yourself up.

3. Eat Mindlessly

Mindless eating is always a good idea. Sit around a lot playing computer games such as scrabble or casino games while thinking about what constructive things you should be doing. Have snacks while doing this to maximize the results. Don't skimp on the snacks. Go for the gusto. Eat the entire bag of full-fat chips.

4. Make a Pile of Lists

Make lots of lists of things to do: diets to follow, exercises to do, errands to run, people to call. Top it with a list of low-cal foods to buy at the supermarket. Make yourself a promise to de-clutter. Put it all in writing, then add the paper to your pile of to-do lists. Sit back, all pleased and proud of yourself, confident that you've gotten it all down on paper. Reward yourself with some TV watching or more computer games.

5. Buy Diet Food

Buy only low calorie foods such as sugar-free ice cream and 100 calorie packs of cookies or chips or candy. Then, eat it all, secure in the knowledge that it's lo-cal and it can't be that bad for you. This is one of the many ways to fool oneself!

6. Shop Hungry

Go shopping, preferably before lunch or dinner when you're at your hungriest. Go with the intent of buying just the one or two items that you need, then browse through the store, picking up cake, ice cream, sourdough bread, peanut butter and other necessities. Then go home and eat what you bought. Just be sure and throw any leftovers away so you can start out your diet fresh in the morning.

7. Use Food as Entertainment

Take yourself out to lunch at a Mexican restaurant, preferably one with huge baskets of chips as appetizers. Take a good book along and relax and eat and read and eat and read.....what fun! Have a large margarita with extra salt on the rim. May as well go for the full experience!

8. Force Your Diet

Tell yourself that you absolutely HAVE to go on a diet. Force yourself to stay on a diet, then rebel and eat whatever you want. It is always a good idea to tell yourself that you HAVE TO, SHOULD, MUST STOP. Drive yourself nuts, and then go eat something.

9. Have Selective Memory

Have convenient lapses of memory, forgetting that you're supposed to be eating right, and pig out. How did you get covered in crumbs? What are those stains on your clothing? Oh well, tell yourself that you'll start again tomorrow. (Yeah right!)

10. Skip the Workout

Cut your exercise time short. Maybe just do 15 minutes on the treadmill or bike. You certainly don't want to injure yourself. Skip a couple of the weight machines at the gym because someone is already on them, and you certainly don't want to sit there and wait until they're done. In fact, better to be as sedentary as possible.

If you do all of the above, you will most certainly NOT lose weight. And with perseverance, you might even manage to gain a few pounds!

Originally published at Beliefnet.com.

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Comments

[honestman]

Janice is spot on. It takes enormous sensitivity to take a delicate subject and bring humor and wisdom together as she has. Three cheers for you dear lady.

[AnotherMcIntosh]

It's not that difficult.

Do what fat people do.

Here's a few examples.

If they drink diet pop, drink diet pop. A lot of it. While you're at it, think to yourself that it can't be bad for you because it is "diet" pop.

If they eat after 6:00 p.m, do that as well.

If they move slowly, when they move at all, move more slowly.

If they have poor posture and prefer to sit in soft easy chairs, adopt poor posture and choose to sit in easy chairs.

[Ellencpw]

Janice is GREAT and has a fabulous sense of humor - the whole idea is that we must ALL laugh more and not take ourselves so seriously - laughter is a healer - that is a known fact - Janice is here to help us heal.

[Badbone]

Hating fat people is a bad thing? Alright perhaps 'hate' is the wrong word. But isn't at least not liking them something you should do? If I were trying to drink less, I'd not hang out with drinkers. I would hang out with non-drinkers.

Perhaps also you shouldn't beat yourself up, but isn't there some way you can say to yourself, "you did wrong, don't do that again."

[Eric8869]

Drink sodas (even diet) should be on the list

[cat123]

Janice Taylor is my hero - I've lost 65 lbs. since I met her many years ago and am so excited about this new column! Thank you our lady and The Huffington Post.

[Lauren Cahn - Huffpost Blogger]

Peanut butter should not be on the "bad list". It's eating it out of the jar with a spoon that is bad. Eating a tablespoon or two with some sliced bananas on a rice cake or a piece of whole grain bread is the meal that has been a staple of my vegetarian life for the past 18 years or so.

[brondie]

FABULOUS! I love Janice Taylor and I am so glad she is showing up here at Huffington Post.
The reframe does it every time! It's all how you look at things.

[jamesinraro]

Obesity is not the problem per se. It is the adverse health consequences such as diabetes and strokes that are so costly. a study last year by Dr. Sinclair at Harvard obese mice fed transmax resveratrol, a concentrated form of red wine extract available as a supplement, actually lived 31% longer than lean mice and did not contract any of the normal diseases of aging such as diabetes, heart disease and tumors. This study has huge implications for treatment of obesity in humans and for lowering the human, social and health care cost of Diabetes. By treating the effects of obesity society and the individual both benefit. We need to look beyond the issue of body weight and focus on the health issues.

[thefringecenter]

I will try these strategies. Nothing else has worked. Thanks.

[Topfeeder]

Buy clothes that don't fit you, but will when you lose those 20lbs. Meanwhile, you look like a bag woman.
Make friends with other out of shape and unhealthy women and have lunch with them, alot.
Tell yourself your life will be better when you are thinner.
Keep on wearing those sweatpants!

[sonny088]

haha, kind of funny but so true..as a personal trainer I hear these things every day. But in all honesty, when I tell people to just maintain a workout they can live with and eat a calorie controlled diet of good food (most of the time), it falls on deaf ears. People don't want that; they want some 'secret' routine or diet.