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08/08/2013 11:21 am ET Updated Oct 07, 2013

Dating Younger Men After Divorce

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Pros:

1. Easily impressed. This is not to say that any younger man can be swept off his feet just because you graduated one year ahead of him, but you WILL act as a role model, unintentionally or intentionally.

2. New experiences. As you get older, the media is telling you what "women of a certain age" can or can't do. Bullsh*t. Dating a younger man will expose you to and in some cases, force you, to step outside your comfort zone. Treasure this.

3. Cheerleading. Support, both ways, is very important in a relationship. As he's in a more developmental stage, there will be endless opportunities for you to lend a hand, a shoulder, maybe even a few dollars here and there. This is more positive than negative, as this is a two-way street. He will be more helpful and encouraging as well, seeing the chance to help his amazing girlfriend succeed. This give and take situation will serve to form a closer bond between you two.

4. More experimental in bed. Older men are usually set in their ways. It's certainly not right, but they're more likely to say, "It worked for my last girlfriends, why not her?" whereas a younger man is likely a little less experienced, open to criticism and ideas. This kind of freedom can open you both up to a lot of new and fun possibilities.

Cons:

1. Arrested development. Without a mother around to nudge them to make a dentist appointment twice a year, men fresh out of college sometimes forget completely. If they had a laundry service for the last few years, they probably expect clothes at the bottom of the hamper to recycle, like diamonds. Essentially, you may have a Peter Pan Man on your hands.

2. The chaperone. I knew a lovely young woman, 29, who started dating (and eventually married) a man three years her junior. The first time she met his friends, she was embarrassed to learn that most of his peers were dating college girls and girls fresh out of high school. Surrounded by 19-year-olds, she felt more like a chaperone and less like Andrew's girlfriend.

3. Young doesn't necessarily mean immature - but in terms of life experience alone, there will be times when you might need to coach him through a rough situation, either at work, with friends or even with paying bills. You learned the hard way, but he may not have had his lesson yet.

4. Support. If you're more established in a career, been saving your money longer or are simply in a more advanced professional stage, you may have to pay the price. Dealing with money is difficult in any relationship, but when one makes significantly more, there may be some unforeseen troubles.