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Memo to My Friends: It's Time for Change at Those Exclusionary Clubs

Posted: 04/ 6/2012 11:44 am

As sure as the azaleas bloom every spring in Georgia, the Masters golf tournament reminds us of the fact that the Augusta National Golf Club still discriminates against women. This year the issue is focused on the fact that tournament sponsor IBM is now headed by a female chief executive officer Virginia Rometty, and historically the club has invited the company's head to join. As members squirm at questions posed by reporters, some of us who frequent the world's poshest private enclaves are rather delighted to see that the prejudice practiced at Augusta National is drawing attention anew.

Although hardly equal to the widespread bigotry of the pre-civil rights era, exclusionary rules enforced at fancy private clubs remain a shameful scandal in this country. This is especially true when you consider that so many of the people who belong to these organizations are part of America's leadership class. The most recently-publicized membership list showed top executives from American Express, General Electric and Motorola all belong to Augusta National. The rolls also include current and former leaders from both major political parties. I know that many of these people are uncomfortable with the rules at the club, and I cannot understand why they let them stand.

Sadly, the members of the club in Augusta are not alone in neglecting their consciences. About two dozen exclusive golf clubs still bar women. One of these clubs, Burning Tree of Bethesda, Maryland, counts Speaker of the House John Boehner as a regular. (To his credit, President Obama refuses to play the course.) And golf clubs aren't the only offenders. Discriminatory practices can be found at a few tennis clubs and at social clubs around the country, where women, blacks and Jews are not welcomed. Recently I learned that one of these bastions of soft bigotry sits right next door to my home in Palm Beach.

The maintenance crew at the Bath and Tennis Club must occasionally use my property, and hence requires my permission, to access one side of a club building. I have never denied them, but I confess I considered it after a recent conversation with a friend here in Palm Beach. She told me that she and her five-year-old daughter were invited to the club for lunch and a play date. The host's five-year-old child told her little friend at school that Jewish people like her could not normally go to the Bath and Tennis Club, but that her mommy was going to "sneak them in."

Officially, the club next door does not advertise a "no Jews" policy, but when I asked around I found that no one here could name a Jewish person who was a member. I didn't know of this problem until I heard of the scheme to sneak my friend and her daughter inside. Indeed I had actually imagined my young sons might one day walk down the beach to play with the children of club members or take lessons on one of the eight tennis courts the club maintains. As an avid tennis player I looked forward to the day when they might actually beat me with shots they developed with the help of the Bath and Tennis Club pros. Now, instead, I'll have to teach them to ignore the sounds of kids at play next door because the grown-ups who run the place are small-minded or weak-willed.

Exclusion hurts, no matter where or when it happens or who experiences it. It isolates us from each other, and the fear that comes with isolation is a major factor in the alienation and hatred that smolders in our society until something occurs that sets-off an explosion. Here in Florida we have witnessed more than a month of growing suspicion and outrage over the racially-tinged shooting death of a teenager named Trayvon Martin. While the precise details of the killing remain unclear, the massive protests over the police's handling of the case reveal that we still have trouble trusting and understanding each other. More recently, in Toulouse, France, the murder of three children and a teacher at a Jewish school reminded us that violent anti-Semitism is a real and present danger.

Of course no one should conflate exclusionary practices at private clubs and tragedies that include the loss of human life. But I will say that every act of exclusion affects the overall mood of our social relationships and small prejudices that go unchallenged have a corrosive effect on our values. Indeed, children learn from what they see and hear, and this is how bigotry is passed from generation to generation.

Fortunately, every person who belongs to a club or organization that discriminates on the basis of race, gender, or religion possesses the power to make a meaningful change. The rules at Augusta National, Burning Tree, the Bath and Tennis Club and all the others are set by the members. I know many of these people, and I believe that as individuals they want to do the right thing. I want to do the right thing too, which is why I'm calling on them to change things immediately. Come out of your comfort zones, my friends, and be free of your shameful past. We'll all be better for it.

 
As sure as the azaleas bloom every spring in Georgia, the Masters golf tournament reminds us of the fact that the Augusta National Golf Club still discriminates against women. This year the issue is f...
As sure as the azaleas bloom every spring in Georgia, the Masters golf tournament reminds us of the fact that the Augusta National Golf Club still discriminates against women. This year the issue is f...
 
 
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oregonian68
McCarthy was right.
03:46 PM on 04/09/2012
My money is "our" money according to my wife, but her gym is "hers" and other women's. I am excluded. What is wrong with me joining an all male golf club?
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oregonian68
McCarthy was right.
03:43 PM on 04/09/2012
My wife's gym, Curves, still discriminates against men. I am not allowed. My wife said if men tried to come in they would barricade the doors. Sexism is alive and well in America.

Or, there is nothing wrong with all women's gyms, all male golf clubs and gender segregated children's ree houses.
11:36 AM on 04/08/2012
I find it so very funny and ironic that the headlines of the HP show a group of women and an article about the National Women's Museum History Museum or something like that and no men are represented. There are no men on the board of directors. What's up with that? Look , where do you draw the line? I don't want to be in some group that is all female. I did not join a sorority in college. I played men's basketball. I was in the Boy Scouts. Sometimes it is okay to be "discriminatory" like in a men's club or women's club. Does it really matter that there is a golf club that doesn't allow women? Has it kept any woman down? Has it hurt the gender? It is so unimportant that it only comes up during the Masters and is off the radar the other 51 weeks a year. Lighten up people.
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Meerkatx
09:56 AM on 04/08/2012
The point of being a private club and not a public entity is you get to set your own rules. There is nothing at all wrong with a private club setting their own rules.
08:44 AM on 04/08/2012
Good article - treads the line between "ought to not be" and "ought to be forced not to be" very well.
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modeforjoe
We had the experience, but we missed the meaning
10:08 PM on 04/07/2012
A club is a club. I guess they set their own rules.
JEP57
To the right of Genghis Khan
09:53 PM on 04/07/2012
Should conservative white congressman be allowed to join the Congressional Black Caucus? No because they don't fit the defined profile of its membership, being a black congressman. Should women be allowed to join the Elks club? No because they don't fit the profile of its membership. It's defined specifically as a "fraternal" club. Private clubs should be able to define their membership criteria even if it offends others.
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oregonian68
McCarthy was right.
03:49 PM on 04/09/2012
If they don't like separation, they should stop separating male from female, black from white, the rich from the poor. They don't care about women who want to join this club, only that it can be used to get women to vote democrat.
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RetiredLtCPD
I stand with our brothers and sisters in Boston.
09:30 PM on 04/07/2012
Private club, private rules. Guys can't join "ladies only gyms.

Why would one want to go where she is not welcome?
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oregonian68
McCarthy was right.
03:53 PM on 04/09/2012
The idea is to convince women they've made no progress and that evil men, your husbands, fathers, sons, uncles, grandpas and friends are all involved in a "war on women." They all want you barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, under the glass ceiling being brutalized mentally, emotionally and physically for no other reason than to make them feel manly. Help!
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07:32 PM on 04/07/2012
On the upside, there are probably at least some women married to these MCP's (apologies to pigs) that may well appreciate that they are not socially obligated or even allowed to be "eye candy" at these kinds of places.

More seriously:

One solution for those truly offended may be to organize a nationwide boycott of all the advertisers of Augusta National's events--beginning w/the green-jacket thingey.

Another idea, might be for women to form their own women's only places

But then, I have NO interest in spending time trying to knock a ball into a hole.......
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oregonian68
McCarthy was right.
04:01 PM on 04/09/2012
Women already have women-only places. Curves gym is a good example. Men and women need their own places to be themselves, not someone the liberal media wants them to be. Women will always be women and men will always be men, no matter how much the gender benders try to make us all unisex. I like being a man and my wife likes being a woman. We have sex based division of labor in our home, but the liberals only care that she cleans house and does laundry. No one thinks it is sexist that I painted the house, that I maintain the pool, clean the cars, mow the lawn, take out the trash, do the plumbing, wash the cars, burn the leaves, cut the wood, stack it, bring it in, build the fires and clean up the horse poop. Where will this all stop?
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01:38 AM on 04/11/2012
LOL When your muscles are too sore to continue? LOL

I see no problem w/men having a place of their own--but then I don't play golf and am more progressive --not usually "liberal" (yes there is a difference) --on many issues and more progressive than "conservative" on others, including but certainly not limited to:

I hope Obamacare is overturned "in toto" by Supremes--block grants to existing health departments that provide aid on sliding fee scale would better serve both the community while helping the truly needy. A guarantee of free lifetime of healthcare is not an incentive to live a healthy life but the opposite.

When guns are outlawed only outlaws will have guns--license the gun owner then stay out of his locker (not talking about allowing rocket launchers here).

Work is preferable to charity for both the individual and society--a hand up is one thing, but unless disabled, a lifetime of handouts is not merited--better to do short-term reinvestment in re-education.

Enjoy the chores--enjoy being able to do them.
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Phil Lunney
The Moderate Man, iEnvisioneer
06:46 PM on 04/07/2012
I have watched the Masters religiously for over 50 years, but if they do not invite the lady from IBM to join, this will be the last time I watch. Living in Atlanta and having attended a few rounds over the last 5 years, I may next year protest myself, if they choose this course. It is time for the BOYS to grow up. And yes I mean BOYS, because they are not mature enough to to compete with a real woman.
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jstanavgguy
Proud member of the evil 1%
11:14 PM on 04/07/2012
I am sure that they will miss you next year.

Wait...

no, they won't.
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Phil Lunney
The Moderate Man, iEnvisioneer
12:22 AM on 04/08/2012
Hopefully, if they do not accomodate IBM's leader, I will have the guts to go protest.
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3LittlePigs
Nothing good ever happens after, "Get my gloves."
09:51 AM on 04/08/2012
Really great attitude, we definitely need more of the way you think in the world.
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Meerkatx
09:57 AM on 04/08/2012
While you're good at insulting the people in the club by calling them boys, you've still made no actual argument why a private club should change their membership rules to suit those not in the club.
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Phil Lunney
The Moderate Man, iEnvisioneer
07:14 PM on 04/08/2012
Meerkatx, I have always respected the Club and Billy Payne has been a favorite of mine for his performance at bringing the Olympics to Atlanta (I live just north of Atlanta). But it is time to call out these "Captains of Industry" when they cannot allow a woman who has earned the right to a membership under their previous criteria (strong corporate sponsorship). This is the 21st Century and the rules have business have changed. Are they afraid that a smart business woman would show them up?
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3LittlePigs
Nothing good ever happens after, "Get my gloves."
02:12 PM on 04/07/2012
Bravo. Well said, I hope your friends appreciate you as much as I do......
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04:51 PM on 04/07/2012
Your comments are one reason why I would have liked to have won the mega last week. With the income I would have been able do complete some reverse discrimination. Example when the club wanted to use your property. If mine, I would have stated very vocally NO. And I would have made it very clear that until policies changed they would not have access. Wealth allows one to do this because you are not dependent on others to survive.
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oregonian68
McCarthy was right.
04:03 PM on 04/09/2012
Google "Curves" gym. There are a ton of women's clubs men are not permitted in. Lighten up.
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10:26 AM on 04/07/2012
I am a male, but I am not wealthy, therefore I feel I am also prevented from joining the club because of my financial status. If a woman can invade a private club because of high income and financial power, isn’t it getting clearer that the middle class and poor are really the ones getting discriminated against? If the populous really wants to make everything fair and equalitarian, how about we help out the poor and middle class instead of worrying about a woman not being able to join a club she isn’t wanted at, and wouldn’t like being a member of anyway? How about we focus our attention towards who really needs help and stop discriminating against the poor and the middle class?
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SirenForSanity
The trouble vine keeps growing.
11:35 AM on 04/07/2012
Invade? She has been excluded because of her gender in spite of the fact that she is head of the company that actually PAYS for the events. So she should continue to sign off on the financial end but just accept that she 'isn't wanted at"?
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12:36 PM on 04/07/2012
I see your point, but my point is, why am I being excluded simply because I don't have the power on the 'financial end?,' Hence I am not wanted. The difference being, I understand I and accept the fact I am not the center of the universe.
12:54 PM on 04/07/2012
She has been excluded because the members of the club have the right of free association, which is guaranteed by the US Constitution. There is no right to join a private club.
09:17 AM on 04/07/2012
Kelvin Sports Club in Newlands, Cape Town, South Africa had a policy similar to Bath & Tennis Club in Palm Springs. They might have changed their policy now, but I have never been there, and have no desire to do so.
08:40 AM on 04/07/2012
As the CEO of a major sponsor of the Masters, Virginia Rometty deserves to be accorded the same courtesy and respect that previous IBM CEO's have received by being given membership in the club. That IBM would contemplate continued association with the tournament and not support its CEO says as much about them as it does about the good old boys that run the club.
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jstanavgguy
Proud member of the evil 1%
11:17 PM on 04/07/2012
The last CEO waited for about 2 years before he became a member.

Why should she be allowed to go ahead of all of the people who have been on the waiting list?