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The Danger of Blame

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There is a very dangerous drug on the streets that nobody is talking about. It's called blameoin (pronounced: blame-o-win).

Blameoin is a drug that makes you believe that someone else is always at fault and there is nothing you can do about it. Blameoin users blame others for everything.

"That's my incompetent boss' fault!"

Blameoin allows its users to preserve their ego. Users don't have to take responsibility for their actions. They can continue to believe they are perfect because everything is someone else's fault.

Just like with other dangerous drugs, users feel better in the short term, but the drug slowly destroys their life. Every time they snort blameoin, they lose power to whoever or whatever they blamed. They make themselves powerless to improve the situation. If it's your boss' fault, what can you do about it? Your options are limited when trying to affect other people's actions.

Your actions are the easiest ones to affect. Blameoin takes away your ability to control those actions.

"It's the media!"

Instead of snorting blameoin, ask questions like:
  • Could I do my part any better next time?
  • What if I tried it this way instead of that way?
  • Is there another way to look at this that might offer different perspectives or insights?

Don't confuse blame with fault. Taking responsibility for the things you can control does not necessarily mean you are at fault. The other person may have done something horribly wrong, unfair or even illegal, which sucks, but you can't control that. Blaming others will always prevent you from having as much control of the situation as you potentially could. Taking responsibility for the aspects of the situation you can control does not let the wrong-doer off the hook for what they did, but it does give you the maximum possible amount of control over the situation.

"It's because of the big corporate conglomerates!"

What if you had complete control of your life? What if you were totally in control of every aspect of your life? What if you could do exactly what you want and have everything you want, every single moment of your life?

As nice as that sounds, we will probably never have that level of control. We may not even want it. But the best way to have the greatest amount of influence on your life is to always take control of the things you can control. Taking control means never ever, ever blaming anyone else for anything.

"It's the government!"

Look around the world. Look around and imagine that everything you want is yours for the taking if you just make the decision that you are going to do everything you can do to make your life exactly what you want it to be.

The next time something happens that you don't like, don't blame. Become obsessed with figuring out what you could have done to prevent it and what you can do to improve it now. Become obsessed with doing what you can do now and could do differently next time.

When trying to break an addiction to blameoin, withdrawal symptoms are normal. It means you are breaking your addiction to blameoin and on your way to getting whatever you want.

Warning: There are blameoin dealers everywhere. Unlike other drugs, blameoin is completely legal and its use is even encouraged by the highest levels of government. Nobody will ever get in trouble for selling you blameoin. Blameoin dealers are on television, on the Internet, in the newspaper, at coffee shops -- even in your own home. Blameoin dealers want you to believe that someone else is controlling your life and there is nothing you can do about it; making it impossible for you to have what you want. Don't buy it.