"It's over," Lois, a defeated-looking woman, said to her husband as they sat in my psychotherapy office. She was more angry than sad. Tim was crestfallen.

At the moment of Lois' definitive pronouncement a subversive doubt bubbled up in my mind. "I think there are two kinds of 'It's...

When the French philosopher René Descartes wrote "I think, therefore I am" he could not have foreseen the damage this concept would create. We have been taught to believe that the mind and body are separate and that our corporal selves are inferior to our intellectual selves. Contrary to Descartes'...

The number one obstacle to intimacy and cause of divorce? Money? Sex? Your partner lives in a cyber-cocoon? Nope. It's trying to "win;" striving to defeat your spouse when you disagree.

Trying to win is natural and makes us feel strong and secure. Nobody likes to lose, and everybody wants...

Ordinarily when we can't handle powerful feelings such as pain or fear we avoid them because they overwhelm us or make us feel bad. This creates a self-reinforcing cycle of anxiety and avoidance, guilt and shame. What I call Behavioral Buddhism is my own way of using certain core principles...