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Why Mental Health Is Losing Its Soul

(50) Comments | Posted August 23, 2013 | 8:00 AM

Click here to read an original op-ed from the TED speaker who inspired this post and watch the TEDTalk below.

Many years ago I worked with a man in his early 30s, who was sent to me by a psychiatrist because he suffered from "delusions of...

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The Case of the Marijuana Brownies, or, Raising Cain

(11) Comments | Posted June 29, 2012 | 12:55 PM

There's a new ethic in our world -- and it isn't ethical at all: "If I get away with it, it's legal, and if I get over on you, you're a chump who deserved it." This me-first-with-a vengeance-and-without-a-conscience is a key source of the financial and moral scandals that have...

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Flourishing, Positive Psychology and Torture: Is Happiness a Warm Gun?

(0) Comments | Posted June 20, 2012 | 3:00 PM

I am not a gloomy person, but I don't spend a single minute working at being happy. Happiness is a national obsession, the central topic in many bestselling books, and a boon for motivational speakers. In a world as complicated and disheartening as ours, who wouldn't want a method for...

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Stop and Hear the Music

(3) Comments | Posted June 18, 2012 | 8:00 AM

Despite massive upheavals and not a lot of good news -- financial terror, vast corruption, and global and environmental disaster -- the world is still an infinitely magnificent place. There is much to celebrate: the unexpected compassion and moral heroism of ordinary people, the dazzling creativity of visionary artists, the...

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When It's (Not Really) Over

(4) Comments | Posted July 28, 2011 | 12:55 PM

"It's over," Lois, a defeated-looking woman, said to her husband as they sat in my psychotherapy office. She was more angry than sad. Tim was crestfallen.

At the moment of Lois' definitive pronouncement a subversive doubt bubbled up in my mind. "I think there are two kinds of 'It's...

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Men and the Mind-Body Connection

(6) Comments | Posted June 17, 2011 | 8:27 AM

When the French philosopher René Descartes wrote "I think, therefore I am" he could not have foreseen the damage this concept would create. We have been taught to believe that the mind and body are separate and that our corporal selves are inferior to our intellectual selves. Contrary to Descartes'...

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Winning in a Relationship is a Losing Strategy

(28) Comments | Posted June 15, 2011 | 2:29 AM

The number one obstacle to intimacy and cause of divorce? Money? Sex? Your partner lives in a cyber-cocoon? Nope. It's trying to "win;" striving to defeat your spouse when you disagree.

Trying to win is natural and makes us feel strong and secure. Nobody likes to lose, and everybody wants...

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How to Be a Behavioral Buddha

(6) Comments | Posted June 10, 2011 | 8:21 AM

Ordinarily when we can't handle powerful feelings such as pain or fear we avoid them because they overwhelm us or make us feel bad. This creates a self-reinforcing cycle of anxiety and avoidance, guilt and shame. What I call Behavioral Buddhism is my own way of using certain core principles...

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