10/11/2011 12:11 pm ET | Updated Dec 10, 2011

Steve Jobs' Job Vs. Your Job

Dear Jen,
Is there such a thing as just being lazy? I want to change my life and know I could be doing so much better, but I'm really lazy about it.

You write about living a big bold life all the time, but what's wrong with just taking what you've got and enjoying it?

Is being lazy and happy with what you have an option or is there something wrong with me?
- Your Average Joe

Dear Joe,
There's nothing wrong with you, but how happy are you really if you say you want to change your life but can't seem to lift yourself off the couch?

Acknowledging that there's something you desire, not going after it, and deciding that you know what, it's fine, I'll just focus on what I do have, make myself a ham sandwich and call it a day, isn't happiness.

It's denial.

Not everyone has to change the world on a grand scale. Or even on a tiny one for that matter. Making the perfect blueberry pancake, helping your kid with his math homework or solving world hunger, it doesn't matter - all that matters is that you fill your days doing things that have meaning for you.

Take Steve Jobs for example. Why do you think people who've never met the guy are mourning his passing all over Facebook and blogs and any news outlet they can get their hands on?

Yes, his products kick ahhhsssssss and he was a visionary and a bazillionaire and he completely changed our world and showed us that anything is possible, but he also had a great time doing it.

People who truly love their lives are the most inspiring people of all.

And I quote:

"Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn't matter to me...going to bed at night saying we've done something wonderful...that's what matters to me."

So many people live lives of silent mediocrity, convinced that what really matters to them is out of their reach. So they settle. And build a story around it to make themselves feel okay about settling:

I could never make money doing that.
I'm too old to start now.
I'll look like an idiot if I try that.
I'm lucky to have what I've got, I don't need more.
I'm lazy.

Think about it -- all of these excuses would have been very easy to tack onto "I'm going to make personal computers sexy."

The good news is that you have everything you need to lift yourself off the couch to start kicking butt. You just have to decide that you're going to do it, not that you're too lazy to.

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