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Jenni Schaefer
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Jenni Schaefer's breakthrough bestseller, Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too, established her as one of the leading lights in the recovery movement. With her second book, Goodbye Ed, Hello Me: Recover from Your Eating Disorder and Fall in Love with Life, she earned her place as one of the country's foremost motivational writers and speakers. In her latest, she teams with Harvard Medical School to address the millions of people who struggle with disordered eating while not meeting the diagnostic criteria for a full-blown eating disorder. Almost Anorexic: Is My (or My Loved One's) Relationship with Food a Problem? (Harvard Health Publications/Hazelden, July 2013) bridges the gaps between cutting-edge research, clinical knowledge and personal experience to provide both insight and hope.

Jenni's straightforward, realistic style has made her a role model, source of inspiration, and confidant to people worldwide looking to overcome adversity and live more fully. She speaks at conferences, at major universities, and in corporate settings; has appeared on many syndicated TV and radio shows; and has been quoted in publications including The New York Times. She is also Chair of the Ambassadors Council of the National Eating Disorders Association. An accomplished singer/songwriter, she lives in Austin, Texas. For more information or to contact Jenni, visit www.jennischaefer.com.

Entries by Jenni Schaefer

Life Without Ed, 10 Years Out

(21) Comments | Posted February 28, 2014 | 5:10 PM

I have never been married, but I am happily divorced. Ed and I lived together for more than 20 years. He was abusive, controlling and never once hesitated to tell me what he thought, how I was doing it wrong and what I should be doing instead. I hated him,...

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Healthy, Touching Thighs: How I Fought to Get Rid of My Thigh Gap

(0) Comments | Posted February 24, 2014 | 10:54 AM

In today's hashtag world, the #thighgap promises happiness. But I know from personal experience that no amount of space between your thighs can make you happy. So, when my Almost Anorexic coauthor, clinical psychologist Jennifer J. Thomas, and I were invited to appear on

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Almost Anorexic

(58) Comments | Posted August 22, 2013 | 10:13 AM

Co-written with guest author Jennifer J. Thomas, Ph.D., Assistant Professor of Psychology, Harvard Medical School

"I'm concerned about my daughter. She doesn't have anorexia... but she almost does."

I hear this all the time. So does clinical psychologist Jennifer J. Thomas, coauthor of my latest book

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Être «presque anorexique»

(0) Comments | Posted August 19, 2013 | 11:49 AM

Co-écrit avec l'auteure invitée Jennifer J. Thomas, Professeur en Psychologie à la Harvard Medical School.

"Je suis inquiète pour ma fille. Elle n'est pas anorexique, mais presque."

J'entends cette phrase tout le temps. Tout comme la psychologue clinicienne Jenifer. J. Thomas, coauteur de mon dernier livre, Presque anorexique, quatrième...

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Body Image: I Love How I Look -- In a World that Doesn't

(133) Comments | Posted May 17, 2012 | 11:09 AM

I love my body.

When I say this, I frequently hear lots of clapping and even cheers. I give talks across the country about my personal recovery from an eating disorder, and people in the audience are often fed up (no pun intended) with assaults against women's bodies. It is...

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The Eating Disorder Time Suck

(57) Comments | Posted January 26, 2012 | 12:06 PM

Thirteen years ago, when I was 22-years-old, if I wasn't sleeping, I was with Ed. I am not talking about a guy, but my eating disorder. In therapy, I was taught to treat anorexia/bulimia like a relationship -- naming it Ed, short for "eating disorder" -- rather than an illness...

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Beyond Eating Disorders: What's Below the Surface?

(3) Comments | Posted October 10, 2011 | 6:28 PM

I have heard that 90 percent of an iceberg lies below the water. I saw this phenomenon firsthand on a recent boat ride near Juneau, Alaska. Traveling solo, I signed up for the boat ride, in part to think and reflect on the next steps in my life, specifically in...

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It's Time To Talk About Eating Disorders: Everyone Can Do... Just One Thing

(2) Comments | Posted February 22, 2011 | 1:35 PM

Now that I am fully recovered from my eating disorder, I finally know the truth. I realize that eating disorders are serious, life-threatening mental illnesses. I also know that eating disorders are not "just a phase" but instead require professional help. I finally understand that no one chooses to have...

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The Words That Helped Me Overcome Bulimia

(0) Comments | Posted December 8, 2010 | 1:29 PM


I have two copies of the book, "Bulimia: A Guide to Recovery" by Lindsey Hall and Leigh Cohn. One is over 10 years old, the cover is worn and handwritten notes mark the pages throughout. The other copy just arrived in the mail. My name is...

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'Why do I Have to Get Married? I Didn't do Anything Wrong'

(22) Comments | Posted September 2, 2010 | 8:46 PM

This is the quote on a decorative towel that hangs in my home (see image below). After calling off my wedding about five years ago, I bought this towel on a shopping trip with a friend. At the time, the quote and the picture of the woman made me smile...

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Facebook and Dating: A Dangerous Combination

(0) Comments | Posted July 7, 2010 | 6:38 PM

I am grateful that Facebook did not exist when I was a teenager. Trying to deal with dating back then was challenging enough without the added pressure of social networking. I remember being stressed beyond belief about whether or not my big-time crush liked me. I was devastated to discover...

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Mom, It's Not Your Fault

(6) Comments | Posted May 7, 2010 | 10:37 AM

I am sitting here eating a piece of cake my mom made for my birthday. I am enjoying it. Zero guilt. Why is eating cake a matter of discussion? Because eating -- for me -- used to be a matter of life or death. For much of my life, I...

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Gratitude in Dating (And in the Kitchen)

(0) Comments | Posted May 4, 2010 | 5:36 PM

I am a codependent cook. It makes me nervous to cook for someone else. What if they don't like what I decide to cook? Even worse, what if they don't like how I cook? To avoid these uncomfortable questions -- and the even more uncomfortable answers -- I have simply...

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Maybe Nice Guys Only Have One Shoe

(2) Comments | Posted March 23, 2010 | 2:01 PM

I was sitting in a coffee shop in Burbank, California the other day with my friend and colleague, Jess Weiner.* You might know Jess from her work with body image, self-esteem, or from one of her multitude of other talents! What you might not know is that she is my...

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I Canceled My Online Dating Account!

(6) Comments | Posted February 13, 2010 | 1:30 PM

I am free. I feel liberated. I canceled my online dating account.

Let me clarify: I deleted my account entirely. I did not just hide it, put it on hold, or some other variation of not fully committing to the deletion process. Ignoring the online dating service's warning that I...

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Maybe I'm Not So Bad at Dating

(7) Comments | Posted February 2, 2010 | 11:33 AM

Lately, my mantra is: "I'm bad at dating." Part of my identity seems to be wrapped around this idea. Sometimes, I think I enjoy being the person in the room with the funniest (aka "most pathetic") dating stories. On a recent night out with friends, another woman was about to...

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In and Out of Love in Two Hours; And Before I Even Met the Guy

(1) Comments | Posted January 26, 2010 | 12:10 PM

It is 2 p.m., and I am talking to my sister-in-law on the phone. I am telling her how excited I am about the guy I recently met online. Well, maybe I shouldn't use that word, "met," since we have never actually engaged with one another in person.

This is...

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A New Year's Resolution: Making Each Day a Time for Change

(1) Comments | Posted December 28, 2009 | 1:48 PM

Do you have a New Year's resolution? As the last seconds of the year tick away, we often become introspective and think about ways that we can improve our lives. Some of the most common promises we make to ourselves each January 1st involve spending more time with friends and...

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Shopping At Home: Life After An Eating Disorder

(1) Comments | Posted October 14, 2009 | 10:13 AM

After Ed (aka "eating disorder") and I broke up, I have to admit that I splurged a little. I am not usually much of a shopper, but I was so excited about my life without Ed that I wanted to explore some new things. I was surprised to find that...

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It's Okay to be Happy (Some Thoughts and a Song!)

(3) Comments | Posted August 31, 2009 | 5:20 PM

It's okay to be happy.

It took me a long time to learn this lesson, and it was a hard one to fully grasp. Like many people I know who have suffered with depression, I once believed that I was destined to be sad for life. Sometimes...

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